i cant help but think im never going to be happy

even if i get married etc. i cant help but thinking im never going to be happy. am at uni and although i occasionally have a good/great/amazing time im never truly happy. why is this?!

Reply 1

edu

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how long has this been going on for :\? Do you not have any hopes or dreams?

Reply 2

benisright

OP

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hopes dreams....maybe

but nothing that i can think will make me happy

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

I'm like that, i questioned everything and i only found it to be meaningless and i found it didn't contribute to happiness. I didn't think i could ever truly feel happy and those feelings only made me feel worse. Something changed though, a set of experiences showed to me that i can actually be happy and that there are things to strive for. But to say that you don't think anything can make you happy is giving up the game a little quick. Who's to say what "truly happy" is? Why not take out the illusions that this world presents to us, such as drink, drugs etc. and then once you've extracted the variables that distort our views you can find out what really makes you happy. It could take a long time - but inevitably be worth it.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

I'm like that, i questioned everything and i only found it to be meaningless and i found it didn't contribute to happiness. I didn't think i could ever truly feel happy and those feelings only made me feel worse. Something changed though, a set of experiences showed to me that i can actually be happy and that there are things to strive for. But to say that you don't think anything can make you happy is giving up the game a little quick. Who's to say what "truly happy" is? Why not take out the illusions that this world presents to us, such as drink, drugs etc. and then once you've extracted the variables that distort our views you can find out what really makes you happy. It could take a long time - but inevitably be worth it.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I'm like that, i questioned everything and i only found it to be meaningless and i found it didn't contribute to happiness. I didn't think i could ever truly feel happy and those feelings only made me feel worse. Something changed though, a set of experiences showed to me that i can actually be happy and that there are things to strive for. But to say that you don't think anything can make you happy is giving up the game a little quick. Who's to say what "truly happy" is? Why not take out the illusions that this world presents to us, such as drink, drugs etc. and then once you've extracted the variables that distort our views you can find out what really makes you happy. It could take a long time - but inevitably be worth it.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Sorry about the triple post :redface:

It was hanging and i clicked a few too many times it seems.

Reply 7

unfinished sympathy

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benisright

even if i get married etc. i cant help but thinking im never going to be happy. am at uni and although i occasionally have a good/great/amazing time im never truly happy. why is this?!

how do youknow what truly happy is if youve never experienced it? perhaps you are truly happy at the amazing times, you just dont realise it.

Reply 8

Guffy

It's because you listen to too much Simple Plan.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

This is how i feel sometimes im one on those people where the grass always seems greener on the other side. The last past year ive been waiting to start uni and i was like everything gonna change im gonna be so happy but now into the course nothing changed and i find myself thinking i would be happier getting a full time job... sometimes i wish i could just be happy with the things i got.

Reply 10

edu

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be happy with what you have, just dont be complacent if you can have better.

Reply 11

benisright

OP

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i dont think i can have better! i think the grass is dark brown on the other side.

Reply 12

Phillip

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I can be like that, when i am really happy i start to analyse why i am so happy, and then i stop being so happy!

Reply 13

lil one

2

Absbolutely nobody is truly happy..everyone has something going on, nobodys ever fully content, its just the way the world works.

Reply 14

supernova2

11

some people can be truly happy. There are moments in my life when I feel truly content, they only last for a few seconds or minutes, but theyre what life is worth living for. Being happy wont just come to you it depends on what you want/expect from life. I think you get unhappy from thinking too much rather than just enjoying your own existance and what a fantastic world it is that your lucky enough to have a chance of living on

Im not even talking about big things here, it could just be a movie you get lost in or a book or just a really nice day or anything.

Reply 15

Rouge

don't worry, happiness is overrated anyway, the real geniuses/prodigies in this world have always been bitter and suicidal

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

go and see someone about it.

Reply 17

~*Sarah R*~

do some volunteer work and it should help open your eyes... gives you a feeling of achievement whilst putting your worries into perspective

and dont listen to emo music :cool:

Reply 18

G4ry

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Rouge

the real geniuses/prodigies in this world have always been bitter and suicidal

That would be because of the inverse relationship between happiness and intelligence. The intelligent question things in life and come out feeling empty as a lot of it doesn't contribute to the "meaning of life". The lower base will get happiness from getting wasted every weekend, reading a "hello" magazine or such inane acts.

Reply 19

Anonymous #4

yehh all of the above posts are so true... thinking too much makes you unhappy, when you feel happy you wonder why you're feeling happy and then you feel unhappy again,just like the person above said. if you try to stop yourself thinking you think even more... i think the only way to do it is just say to yourself 'i accept i feel unhappy and keep thinking stuff that makes me feel unhappy' and as soon as you accept it you start to forget about it and feel happy again for longer periods of time... i don't if this makes any sense!! i know what im trying to say neway lol and trust me it works. sorry if all this made no sense, jst trying 2 help...xx

i cant help but think im never going to be happy

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