May lose a potential friend

I have been chatting to a girl on myspace for nearly a year (am female) who may become a good friend. I'm a bit worried as she has added *B who knows another person called *C who knows I informed a friend of ours she has been messed about by her boyfriend by advertising himself on dating websites. *C still talks to the cheating boyfriend like nothing happened.

Now I hope *C hasn't told *B who may notice I am on this girl's friends list. I just don't want *B to tell my friend I know her and they start talking about what I am like cos I was quiet at school and want to get rid of that persona and I don't want to be labelled as a troublemaker. I don't know if I am being paranoid but it just seems that everyone would agree that he has been grassed up and I was trying to sh**stir.

Sorry for confusion but can't say names incase they come on here :frown:

Reply 1

Powersymphonia

20

What's all the fuss about?
These are people you've met on the internet and not your true friends, so get off your computer and get socialising with some real mates!

Reply 2

Profesh

20

Anonymous

I have been chatting to a girl on myspace for nearly a year (am female) who may become a good friend. I'm a bit worried as she has added *B who knows another person called *C who knows I informed a friend of ours she has been messed about by her boyfriend by advertising himself on dating websites. *C still talks to the cheating boyfriend like nothing happened.

Now I hope *C hasn't told *B who may notice I am on this girl's friends list. I just don't want *B to tell my friend I know her and they start talking about what I am like cos I was quiet at school and want to get rid of that persona and I don't want to be labelled as a troublemaker. I don't know if I am being paranoid but it just seems that everyone would agree that he has been grassed up and I was trying to sh**stir.

Sorry for confusion but can't say names incase they come on here :frown:

Then use aliases, you insufferable half-wit.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks posters for all your useless advice. :mad:

Reply 4

Ywiss

15

Anonymous

Thanks posters for all your useless advice. :mad:

You've only got two bits of advice so far; you have to say "both".

But in all seriousness, take Profresh's advice - please give them proper names, because I've read it for a while and I still can't understand it. Maybe then you'll get some good advice.

Reply 5

supernova2

11

Theres not really anything you can do, how about tell one of them not to say something or whatever. I doubt anything will happen and tbh im so damn confused im going to sleep now.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I have been chatting to a Alice on myspace for nearly a year (am female) who may become a good friend. I'm a bit worried as she has added Becky who knows another person called Claire who knows I informed a friend of ours she has been messed about by her boyfriend by advertising himself on dating websites. Claire still talks to the cheating boyfriend like nothing happened.

Now I hope Claire hasn't told Becky who may notice I am on this girl's friends list. I just don't want Becky to tell Alice I know her and they start talking about what I am like cos I was quiet at school and want to get rid of that persona and I don't want to be labelled as a troublemaker. I don't know if I am being paranoid but it just seems that everyone would agree that he has been grassed up and I was trying to sh**stir.

Hope that's clearer

Reply 7

Profesh

20

Ywiss

You've only got two bits of advice so far; you have to say "both".

But in all seriousness, take Profresh's advice - please give them proper names, because I've read it for a while and I still can't understand it.

The fact of its incoherence, notwithstanding.

Basically; she fears that mutual acquaintance 'B' will, having (presumably) learnt of her meddling ways from 'C', relay a negative appraisal to the girl whose friendship she wishes to obtain. It is only when you reduce this to its constituent parts (having duly siphoned-off the manifold irrelevancies) that you realise what a non-issue it actually is.

Reply 8

Esquire

1

assume *C told *B. Then it's between *B and your friend, it's none of *C's business. If anything he'll look like a prat. Also if you don't want to come across as a **** stirrer then you shouldn't broadcast the situation to not only other people, but also TSR.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Profesh

The fact of its incoherence, notwithstanding.

Basically; she fears that mutual acquaintance 'B' will, having (presumably) learnt of her meddling ways from 'C', relay a negative appraisal to the girl whose friendship she wishes to obtain. It is only when you reduce this to its constituent parts (having duly siphoned-off the manifold irrelevancies) that you realise what a non-issue it actually is.

Its not really meddling protecting a friend who was being cheated on by her boyfriend. But I guess if they are decent people they wouldn't talk about others.

Reply 10

Ywiss

15

Profesh

The fact of its incoherence, notwithstanding.

Basically; she fears that mutual acquaintance 'B' will, having (presumably) learnt of her meddling ways from 'C', relay a negative appraisal to the girl whose friendship she wishes to obtain. It is only when you reduce this to its constituent parts (having duly siphoned-off the manifold irrelevancies) that you realise what a non-issue it actually is.

Oh, I see...thank you for condensing it so nicely.

Yeah, OP - it really, really doesn't matter. It may seem big to you now, but when you read this tomorrow, I bet you'll be slightly embarrassed about what a big deal you were making out of it.

Reply 11

Guffy

Anonymous

Its not really meddling protecting a friend who was being cheated on by her boyfriend. But I guess if they are decent people they wouldn't talk about others.

Are you joking? Are you saying you never discuss other people, ever?

Reply 12

Sam Beckett

7

In the real world, its a good thing to out lying, cheating scumbags.

The only person who MAY have an issue with you telling this (assuming it is true he's been on dating websites) is the guy's gf...and that will probably only be temporary.

Stop overanalysing everything. Its only MYSPACE ffs.

Reply 13

sax gal

Don't worry about it! It's only on the internet, i doubt the new person the girl on myspace has added to her friend's list will start talking about you. Even if she does, the girl you've been talking to shouldn't change her opinion of you, if she's got to know you through talking to you for a year she will already have formed her own opinion of you and it must be good as you've stayed in contact this long! Just carry on as normal, nothing should change.

Reply 14

Dragon24

17

If she takes notice about the stirring then she isn't worth it.

Reply 15

anjurdsg

11

GeneralOfTheSuperSubSquad

What's all the fuss about?
These are people you've met on the internet and not your true friends, so get off your computer and get socialising with some real mates!

right on

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