His ex

My boyfriend's ex tried to split us up at the beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend fell into her trap by telling her our personal life which she used to taunt me about and sending her dirty messages which I found and I admit I didn't trust him. I gave him an ultimatimum so we got rid of her.

A year and a half later I am still finding it hard cos my boyfriend's friend's girlfriend used to be friends with her and they fell out but always has to mention her which really annoys me and I think everyone else wants to forget her for all the friendships she tried to destroy.

Even when I go to eat out she is sometimes there working, its a free country so I don't see why I should go miles away. I just feel sick when I see her. Its like I need to try and better myself than her as she was quite sluttily dressed and flirty whereas I am more of a nicely dressed and friendly. I keep dreaming lately that everyone wants to go and hang out with her (including my boyfriend), I just fear she could come back and meddle again.

Reply 1

Historiana

Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of an ass if he goes around telling people about your sexual relationship.

I would dump a guy straight away if he did that!

Why don't you just wait and see if she leaves you alone?

If not just change your contact details and hope she gets the message.

Reply 2

Triplet1

shes his ex.... your his girlfriend now.

Reply 3

Choccielatte

Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of an ass if he goes around telling people about your sexual relationship.

I would dump a guy straight away if he did that!

I've never met a male in a sexual relationship that hasn't done that yet. Its perfectly normal.

Reply 4

Dragon24

Why compare yourself to her? She sounds like a lowlife.

Reply 5

tiger_vio

Choccielatte

Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of an ass if he goes around telling people about your sexual relationship.

I would dump a guy straight away if he did that!

Erm, what guy doesn't?
I hate all this cliche 'finish with him' posting, it really isn't always the best advice.

Reply 6

username47781

I would say his ex is just a loser trying to split you two up, if your boyfriend truely loves you he will not leave you.

Reply 7

maag101

Every (generalising, I know) sexually active guy tells people about what he's done. Tis natural. Maybe he was just telling her to make her jealous. Maybe he told her that you were better in bed?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

maag101

Every (generalising, I know) sexually active guy tells people about what he's done. Tis natural. Maybe he was just telling her to make her jealous. Maybe he told her that you were better in bed?

We had only been going out for 3 weeks so I wasn't ready to sleep with him as I didn't know him well enough, so he told her we hadn't had sex (idiot). She then thought it was ok to taunt me saying 'I've had him now get lost' and 'We did it in my car'. Made me feel sick at the time.

Reply 9

maag101

Ah. Well, she's a bitch. Not worth it. *hugs*

Reply 10

SpiderBoy

Anonymous

he told her we hadn't had sex (idiot).

Well if you hadn't then whats the problem? Would you rather he went round saying that you slept together on the first date?

Maybe he was putting it across in a way that meant your relationship is not just about sex, which maybe theres had become? Context is always an important thing, which unless you were actually witness to the conversation you have little chance of actually appreciating.

Of course maybe I'm just wrong and he was seeing if he could ghet back with her for a shag, I don't know the guy so i can only hypothesise