Post-rejection weirdness

Sorry, but I think she is thinking that she can be more relaxed and flirty around you because you know the score.

The other day I told a girl I've known for a while that I liked her, and that I wanted to spend more time with her to get to know get better.

She told me that she didn't feel the same way, which wasn't exactly what I expected, but I am ok with it and I had mentally moved on from it all pretty much as soon as she told me how she felt.

The problem is, things between us are much better now than they were before I told her. We are much closer now, and talk to eachother more freely. She is more open with me, seems to be flirting more and to be honest, she is not behaving at all how I expected (from past experience I anticipated horrible awkwardness, ruined friendship etc.)

So I'm pretty confused. Is she acting like this because she knows I know she doesn't feel the same, and therefore feels more relaxed around me? Or is it that maybe she has suddenly discovered that she has feelings for me?

The second one is unlikely, I know. But have you ever rejected someone and then seen them in a different light afterwards? It would be great if this is the case, but I won't get my hopes up. Any uplifting tales would be welcome though

its probably because she likes the fact that you like her, if you knew a girl fancied you youd probably be more friendly with them naturally.

I know this is weird, but I generally feel more relaxed around a boy if I know he likes me; it maybe she just feels she can be herself around you. But if she's flirting with you, having deep conversations and so on, she may well be starting to look at you differently.

you have to see how it goes. Your first step is to go start flirting with other girls, and see how she reacts. If she is indifferent, forget about her. If she acts jealous, trying to get your attention back, then the game is on

Yeah, you're probably right. Although if it was a girl who I never suspected of liking me in that way, I'd probably see her in a different light.



You're also probably right.



Hmm, I'm not sure that would work. She's quite a reserved girl (not from this country) and I wouldn't like to risk it. It's not in my nature to do that kind of thing anyway. Plus I can't really forget about her, as she's in my group of really close friends and I see her every day. We'll see.