Advice Needed

I dont really know where to post this but its kind of annoying me, feeling slightly guilty too.

OK here it is my cousins (2 of them) both who are under 14 wish to stay at uni with me for two nights. The thing is i couldnt say anything infront of my family so i stayed quiet and now i have just made an excuse saying that in the tenancy it does not allow anyone under 14 to stay at the halls with me.

However i do kind of believe this to be true, surely there must be an age restriction. Do you think i was fair, i mean how embarassin is it having kids with you at uni and also what am i supposed 2 do with them there?

what im asking here is do you think my excuse sounded genuine and was i harsh?

Sorry about his being in the wrong section but would really appreciate some advice here. Thanks in advance

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Reply 1

M j R

Not harsh no. Sounds genuine as there's stuff that happens in hall that a 14 year old shouldn't know about. :wink:

Reply 2

kurupt_07

thanks you agree with me!

Reply 3

kam

Well...unless your cousins would want to be woken up by some random students swearing outside about losing their keys or singing some random songs, they're better off at home.
It would definitely seem a little weird having youngsters staying over I think.
You could ask the site staff for general information about it, whether there are any age restrictions or what not.
I don't think you were harsh in what you said. You're at University and it would not be hard to believe that halls would have rules about guests staying over.

Reply 4

Helenia

Of course it's fair - they couldn't join in with anything you'd be doing that involved the Union, any lectures would be WAY over their head and you'd resent having to drag them around. It's different having younger relatives who are a BIT older coming up (my sister has been visiting occasionally since she was 16 and is 18 now) but 14 is too young, I'd say, even if there aren't any actual rules!

Reply 5

kurupt_07

the thing is i told my mum that my halls allow guests to stay over for two nights only, i mean it was just a conversation and i think my cousins over heard and asked my mum if they could stay and my mum randomly said yes!

so i couldnt really use that exucse of no guests allowed. So the only one i could think of was age restrictions. :cool:

Reply 6

M j R

You could also of said well there's a lot of drunkeness going on at night around here, don't think being woken up at 2 in the morning would be good for them.

Reply 7

kurupt_07

yeh everyone is right i just felt i didnt sound genuine and slightly guilty as they were getting quite excited about coming

Reply 8

Chumbaniya

With you not being a legal guardian of the children, it would seem highly unfair for you to be expected to look after them for 2 nights if you don't want to, especially at university where they are highly likely to get it your way both socially and academically.

I think the excuse sounds believable. It's entirely plausible that a university would place certain regulations on the visitors staying in halls, specifically children.

Reply 9

kurupt_07

M j R

You could also of said well there's a lot of drunkeness going on at night around here, don't think being woken up at 2 in the morning would be good for them.

my aunty (who is happy to get rid of them) would have just said that it doesnt matter as they will be in my room! ughhh, its annoying

Reply 10

M j R

crayzee_desi

my aunty (who is happy to get rid of them) would have just said that it doesnt matter as they will be in my room! ughhh, its annoying

lol

If they were to stay they wouldn't be so happy when someone starts ringing the flat at 3am because they forgot their keys! They wouldn't want to stay again after that. But they are a bit too young to be staying in halls.

Reply 11

kurupt_07

yeh, the thing is i am the kind of person who feels really guilty about these things

but i just cant let this happen

Reply 12

kam

Just say there is an age restriction.
Mention something about the halls not wanting to be liable for allowing anyone under 18 to stay over or something.
Say you will get into a lot of trouble if they saw your cousins walk in, but not walk out by the end of the day.
Don't feel guilty, they'll get over it. Not a big issue.

Reply 13

maag101

Just tell them that you have particularly randy people living next door and don't think that the noises you have to suffer through each night are appropriate for children :biggrin:

Reply 14

kurupt_07

maag101

Just tell them that you have particularly randy people living next door and don't think that the noises you have to suffer through each night are appropriate for children :biggrin:

hehe, thats jokes..love it!

LOL i love you guys x

Reply 15

LadyEnglish

It was a bad idea in the first place that your aunt and uncle shouldn't have agreed to anyway. Totally fair, well done for not letting them stay with you :p:

Perfectly good excuse that if you looked is probs true aswell :p:

Reply 16

kurupt_07

LadyEnglish

It was a bad idea in the first place that your aunt and uncle shouldn't have agreed to anyway. Totally fair, well done for not letting them stay with you :p:

Perfectly good excuse that if you looked is probs true aswell :p:

yeh true that

HAPPY EID everyone, even if your not muslims :rolleyes:

Reply 17

paperclip

i agree that it's a good excuse and makes sense, should've said somthing like 16 though...

sounded real, anyone would've believed it, i'll remeber it for a few years time

Reply 18

M j R

crayzee_desi

yeh true that

HAPPY EID everyone, even if your not muslims :rolleyes:

Happy Eid (I'm a tad late so hope everyone enjoyed it :smile:

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I was suprised that in the Winter Gardens they were putting up a Happy Eid sign, one of those lights one like you see at Christmas everywhere, it just shows that there are some people out there who are open minded enough to do that.