seriously annoyed

Ok so last night i went to a party at a pub and one of my best friends (guy) friend who lives ages away came and my best friend and him like eachother. she asked me if it would be ok for both of them to stay round my house after the pub and i said yes to her but wasn't sure about him cos i'd never met him before. in the end i said ok because i thought i would be nice and give him a safe place to stay for the night before his long coach journey home 2day. she promised me that them two wouldn't *do* anything in my house cos that would just be disrespectful and wrong.
I was kept up from 1am-6am this morning with the sound of them pulling on my sofa and she knew i had to go to work today (i've had to call in sick cos i feel like crap today)and all she did was text me saying 'sorry, didn't mean to piss u off', when i went into the bath this morning they continued to make out in my living room and when i walked them to the bus stop this morning neither of them said thanks. o and the guy also got drunk and puked all over my bathroom.
This girl also dumped her bf last week and he keeps calling me and crying and telling me how much he misses her and im having an awful time at the moment anyway cos im stressed with work and my uncle died last night and i suffer from depression anyway etc etc
Firstly: am i right to be mad at her??
and secondly...*sigh* just don't know what to do.. can't cope with anything anymore.....

Reply 1

Hel

Bloody hell! Yes, you are right to mad at her. How come you didn't yell at her between 1am and 6am? That's a lot of time in which to put up with that crap.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

I felt bad cos i know her and this guy never see eachother because of the distance and that they like eachother alot but now i just feel like i could kill her. what do i say to her??

Reply 3

Tinkers

1

i would have chucked her out the house in my opinion, that is just damn right disrespectfull

Reply 4

Harv616

9

Sounds like a right bitch

Reply 5

edu

2

tell her that she was out of order adding bitch at the end for effect. No really tell her that you sympathise or whatever but it just isnt fair that you were treated like that and they didnt even clean up your place :\, how loud was the pulling to keep you up :|

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

it was disgustingly loud, all night. and the worst thing is it wasn't just pulling. and i had to listen to that and now am too tired and depressed to do homework or go to work.

Reply 7

Tinkers

1

To me this girl dosent class as a friend, if she did that to you. You let them stay out of the goodness of your heart after all the crap youve coped with, and thats how she repays you.

Reply 8

Hel

Anonymous

I felt bad cos i know her and this guy never see eachother because of the distance and that they like eachother alot but now i just feel like i could kill her. what do i say to her??

Start with "If you're going to invite yourself round to my house and impose on my hospitality, the LEAST you could do would be to keep to your promise about not getting off with your boytoy in the house. Do you realise I need sleep too? And how about him cleaning up his own foul mess in the bathroom rather than leaving me to do it?" and just go on from there.

About the distance and "they hardly ever see each other and like each other a lot" - since she only dumped her b/f 2 weeks ago, then it's hardly as though this random guy is the love of her life who she'll fall apart without, is it?

Oh, and I'm really sorry to hear about the other stuff, too.

Reply 9

~*Sarah R*~

start practising not being a doormat

i dont mean that in a nasty way, but anyone else would have hauled em out the house and made em clear up the damage

always remember you teach people how to treat you

good luck chick

Reply 10

edu

2

Anonymous

it was disgustingly loud, all night. and the worst thing is it wasn't just pulling. and i had to listen to that and now am too tired and depressed to do homework or go to work.

eugh, step 1 clean the couch.

I kinda like sarahs advice :\.

Reply 11

Mashi

Anonymous

Ok so last night i went to a party at a pub and one of my best friends (guy) friend who lives ages away came and my best friend and him like eachother. she asked me if it would be ok for both of them to stay round my house after the pub and i said yes to her but wasn't sure about him cos i'd never met him before. in the end i said ok because i thought i would be nice and give him a safe place to stay for the night before his long coach journey home 2day. she promised me that them two wouldn't *do* anything in my house cos that would just be disrespectful and wrong.
I was kept up from 1am-6am this morning with the sound of them pulling on my sofa and she knew i had to go to work today (i've had to call in sick cos i feel like crap today)and all she did was text me saying 'sorry, didn't mean to piss u off', when i went into the bath this morning they continued to make out in my living room and when i walked them to the bus stop this morning neither of them said thanks. o and the guy also got drunk and puked all over my bathroom.
This girl also dumped her bf last week and he keeps calling me and crying and telling me how much he misses her and im having an awful time at the moment anyway cos im stressed with work and my uncle died last night and i suffer from depression anyway etc etc
Firstly: am i right to be mad at her??
and secondly...*sigh* just don't know what to do.. can't cope with anything anymore.....
(sorry for the double thread, didn't think the last one worked)

Firstly, i'm sorry to hear about your uncle, hope you are coping with that ok. As for your friend, she should have been more respectful, i think you should tell her how you feel, considering you let them stay out of the kindness of your heart. The same thing sort of happened to me, but i let go because it's over and done with and she promised never to do it again. So.... it really depends how you want to deal with the situation. Also i think you should go to a counciller and talk about your depressin, no one should have to wake in the mornings and not look forward to whats ahead. A small sacrifice now can save your happiness for the future =)

Reply 12

AntiLearner

13

You're right to be mad at her. You should say something to her about it, before she thinks you're a pushover. Then she should hopefully learn to appreciate you letting her stay there.

Reply 13

egg_soup

9

tell her to sod right off. you should go round hers, pretend that its just guna be you - and invite a gang load of people she hates. what can she say? mwahaha. then dry hump every one of them over the kitchen table.

Reply 14

Claire_Elizabeth

1

Yes you do have a right to be mad. She took advantage of your invite for them to stay at your house and she was completely acting selfish! You need to tell her!

Reply 15

kam

10

Anyway, tell her that she's selfish and not to call round again. If one of my friends did that, I would probably throw water over them when they'd get to sleep.

Reply 16

hippieglitter

19

You have every right to be mad at her. No guy i didn't know would stay in my house if he puked all over my bathroom and friend or not she would very quickly find herself outside if she dared to noisily make out on my sofa at that time of night.

Reply 17

Richy_Boi

12

Why the hell did you let them in your house?

She sounds a right knobber.

Reply 18

lil one

2

She abused your friendship to be honest; you out of the kindness in your heart were nice to her and she just threw it back in your face. Let her know your pissed off and tell her exactly what you told us.

Goodluck babe x

Reply 19

username47781

20

That is absolutely disrespectful what she did, don't let her back in your house again.

seriously annoyed

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