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    OK to start with I know why, but I don't understand why it bothers him so much when it does happen.

    Basically we were just playing a family game of UNO and we were playing really nicely... having fun.

    He then starts to cheat a bit by looking at my cards to try and make the game longer. We all do it by the way especially my little brother (10).

    He was then dealing and he started to deliberately face the cards he was dealing to me upright so everyone can see. I was fine with it the first time but after like the 3rd one he played upright I said in a joking way but also a little seriously that he is an '*******.'

    This has upset him greatly he wouldn't play another game with us and is really grumpy.

    You are probably thinking why would he be upset? I guess as a person he doesn't swear really at all, or at least in front of us so when I do it he gets so annoyed. I understand why in the sense he feels it is such a bad word but come on there are so many other proper swearwords that I could use and never really use around my family because it just ruins everything. They literally feel (I am almost 19) that if their son swears it is the wost thing in the world. When I mean they it upset my parents a bit as well.

    What annoys me the most is that he swore at my dad the other day (not the first time he has but I rarely ever hear him do it). And when my parents get angry they swear a lot. But when I do it even if it is not in a totally aggressive way it is like I am the worst human being in the world.

    I don't know you may say man up and tell him how you feel but can I just say that would be a totally bad idea... it will make the whole situation worse. I am normally fine with not swearing/saying bad words ('*******' is not really a swearword anyway) around them anyway, I get to use my fair share when with my friends (again not in a malicious way as I am sure you understand having probably sworn a lot jokingly with your own friends).

    It has just bugged me a little, mainly because he is going back home in a few days and I feel it will make the next few and other visits more awkward.
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    By the way the word which i have just realised is blanked was '*******
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    Your parents you can probably talk to, but when it comes to grandparents it's usually best to just play by whatever rules they set. Once people reach a certain age they don't really like changing their opinions for the younger generation. He probably sees you a child still, and was upset by the fact he thought he was teasing you and it was met by (what he sees as) aggression.

    I would just suck it up, apologise and make it up to him, regardless of how you feel. I know it's annoying when people are over-sensitive, but it's a small price to pay for a good relationship with your family.
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    Your parents you can probably talk to, but when it comes to grandparents it's usually best to just play by whatever rules they set. Once people reach a certain age they don't really like changing their opinions for the younger generation. He probably sees you a child still, and was upset by the fact he thought he was teasing you and it was met by (what he sees as) aggression.

    I would just suck it up, apologise and make it up to him, regardless of how you feel. I know it's annoying when people are over-sensitive, but it's a small price to pay for a good relationship with your family.
    I will not be apologizing until he chooses to talk to me again.

    As to considering me a child I agree he does. He winds me up a lot and I cannot retaliate because he becomes so upset it is unreal. Even if I say words like stupid, idiot, hate ECT he will get upset, not to the extreme of today though.

    He views himself as a saint and it annoys me so much.

    I agree with what you have said by the way and that makes it so much worse.

    As to the last bit I agree with it, but at the age I am now I wish they would just accept that I am an adult and I can do and say what I want... within reason of course.
 
 
 
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