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Talking on MSN..
I've known this girl for about 3 weeks now.. The first two weeks we barely knew each other but the last week has been pretty intense and things finally started happening on a low level.. I get along with her great when I meet/talk to her in person.. She gave me her MSN yesterday and she's on right now. The thing is I've heard that talking on MSN can actually be worse for a relationship than good if you dont do it right.. So I need advice people! (Her status is set to 'Busy', Should I message or not?) I dont want to be too clingy and spoil whats started..
P.S. This is the only girl I've liked in a LONG time.. She's so unique and different and I wont be able to live with myself if I blow this one..
P.S. This is the only girl I've liked in a LONG time.. She's so unique and different and I wont be able to live with myself if I blow this one..
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I couldn't live without my MSN, for talking to my fiance, as we live apart. But if his status is set to busy or away I leave it til he's free to talk, because the status is there for a reason, it probably means shes got a full screen programme running and couldn't use MSN anyway, so wait til shes free then say hi, I'm sure she'd love to hear from you!
But an MSN conversation is generally awkward isnt it? She might not know what to talk about and I just dont want her to feel like she's in an awkward position..
I find its only awkward if you make it so, what is a problem is you can't tell someone's tone from meassaging. You need to make sure if you make funny or sarcastic remarks that you appropriately smilie them, and keep it chatty and light, you'll find it gets easier to talk to someone online after a while, and if it feels awkward, make the excuse that you never know what to say online and laugh it off
Good luck!
Good luck!
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Good on yer- many who post on this board never seem to stick up for themselves. So here is the advice you need: firstly, if her status is busy then don't harrass. It's busy for a reason, and you will defo look clingy. Personally I don't feel there is anything wrong with msn. It can be a great way of getting to know someone better- i used it on a guy friend who was really quiet and i hardly got the chance to chat to in the flesh, and I got to know him really well now (probs a combo of msn and extra effort in general). But still, remember that when online one is (even tho u know the person) anonymous, therefore one is often less inhibited- there's no shyness of the social interaction and you can pick and choose what to say. Remember that if you get in the habit of only communicating via msn things could get quite awkward in the flesh if you're both shy people. Don't rely on it as your sole means of communication. And dont harrass her either, just cos she's online doesn't mean you have to speak with her. it's not a rule.
No no, She's a hugee talker in the flesh.. She's cagey on MSN for some reason! I guess she doesnt know what to talk about which makes me feel uneasy because I dont want her feeling bad/awkward.. Get what I mean? We're both very not shy but it might make her shy in the flesh if things get awkward in an MSN conversation which I dont want..
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I've heard that talking on MSN can actually be worse for a relationship than good if you dont do it right.. So I need advice people! (Her status is set to 'Busy', Should I message or not?)
Conversing on MSN brought me together, in person, with the incredibly amazing girl I wanted. And despite often being "Away", she's always free to talk with me.
She gave you her MSN for a reason, though? So if you didn't talk to her, despite you being online, she might assume that something's up, and that could ruin any potential thing.
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it
You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation 
I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it
You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
*Katie*
She gave you her MSN for a reason, though? So if you didn't talk to her, despite you being online, she might assume that something's up, and that could ruin any potential thing.
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation
I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it
You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
She's still set to Busy though.. Should I go for it? Also, I'd like to talk to her for as long as possible but I dont want to make her feel awkward and I dont want to appear too clingy (Alrhough I like this girl, ALOT.. and I rarely have feelings this strong for someone.) The thing is she's so different and I doubt I'll ever be able to find someone who's even remotely like her which forces me to pre-plan everything before it happens so I dont blow it
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My status is usually set to Away but I'll still make time to speak to the more important people on my contacts list. Go for it.
Ron Stoppable
Conversing on MSN brought me together, in person, with the incredibly amazing girl I wanted. And despite often being "Away", she's always free to talk with me.
Seconded. (Well, after a fashion.)
If all fails always go with the trusted:
'I want to insert my floppy into your drive', they love that
'I want to insert my floppy into your drive', they love that
*Katie*
She gave you her MSN for a reason, though? So if you didn't talk to her, despite you being online, she might assume that something's up, and that could ruin any potential thing.
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation
I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
if you're worried, just throw in a passing comment near the beginning of the conversation saying that you may have to dash of pretty soon. That way, if it's getting awkward you could just leave, and it wouldn't be obvious. Or, if it's going well, you could just stay and it's still plausible that you no longer need to leave. In short - go for it
You could always say you're doing work, which would explain the slight gaps in conversation I do this when I can't be bothered to talk to people properly - just means a convo that would usually last about 10 seconds takes 10 minutes i.e. fewere topics to be covered
haha luv ya for that
actually my mate today said 'how could you sign onto msn and not message me?' when i commented her on myspace, apparently she didnt realise i was online...
so go for it, otherwise she may think you dont wanna talk to her! Also, some people set their status to busy so they can avoid some people (from my experience, girls most of the time...)
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