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Okay so, as bad as this sounds i am currently seeing someone i met in tinder. I've met with others from tinder but they have been purely for one intention.

This time it is different. I started speaking him for just about three weeks now, but wive got on so well. All over Christmas we have been snap chatting, skyping, texting etc.

We literally click so well on Skype when we are talking, we just get on so well it feels like i've know him for longer. we have obviously spoke about some of the naughtier things too which is fabulous as i believe that is an important part of any relationship.

I am going to meet him for the first time this Friday and i'm so excited because i really really do like him and i want to see how things go, but i'm worried what he will think of me. Like i said yes he has seen all parts of me BUT i am a larger girl. I use the term lightly but i weigh about 19 stone so yes i am big. I'm quite tall though so it doesn't look as bad is one may think.

He knows this i have told him and he knows how much i weigh, he also knows I'm worried but he always responded well you don't look that big, but he hasn't seen me in person yet and i'm just worried what he is going to act like when he does see me. i'm worried i am going to look bigger than he imagined, and the feelings he has wont be there anymore.

He has seen my pictures on Facebook ect (attached to this post), but this sounds really vain and its not how i mean it , but i do photograph well, or know how to take a good photo to hide my size. And to be honest i am more worried about my size when we get intimate, that is when i will be most worried, because i have the obvious lumps, bumps, over hangs whatever you want to call them that come with being fat.

He is a lovely guy and i know he will let me down nicely if that is the outcome but that's not what i want ! i want to spend time with him and get to know him.

I'm so worried, does anyone have any advice ?
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Okay so, as bad as this sounds i am currently seeing someone i met in tinder. I've met with others from tinder but they have been purely for one intention.

This time it is different. I started speaking him for just about three weeks now, but wive got on so well. All over Christmas we have been snap chatting, skyping, texting etc.

We literally click so well on Skype when we are talking, we just get on so well it feels like i've know him for longer. we have obviously spoke about some of the naughtier things too which is fabulous as i believe that is an important part of any relationship.

I am going to meet him for the first time this Friday and i'm so excited because i really really do like him and i want to see how things go, but i'm worried what he will think of me. Like i said yes he has seen all parts of me BUT i am a larger girl. I use the term lightly but i weigh about 19 stone so yes i am big. I'm quite tall though so it doesn't look as bad is one may think.

He knows this i have told him and he knows how much i weigh, he also knows I'm worried but he always responded well you don't look that big, but he hasn't seen me in person yet and i'm just worried what he is going to act like when he does see me. i'm worried i am going to look bigger than he imagined, and the feelings he has wont be there anymore.

He has seen my pictures on Facebook ect (attached to this post), but this sounds really vain and its not how i mean it , but i do photograph well, or know how to take a good photo to hide my size. And to be honest i am more worried about my size when we get intimate, that is when i will be most worried, because i have the obvious lumps, bumps, over hangs whatever you want to call them that come with being fat.

He is a lovely guy and i know he will let me down nicely if that is the outcome but that's not what i want ! i want to spend time with him and get to know him.

I'm so worried, does anyone have any advice ?
Stop worrying about it. If he's seen photos of you and skyped you he knows what you look like and he's obviously attracted to you. Most people look good when they photograph themselves, people are only going to take flattering shots of themselves. I doubt he would be shocked if you didn't look as glamorous as your profile pictures or whatever....

He might like bigger girls anyway.
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(Original post by anon66)
Okay so, as bad as this sounds i am currently seeing someone i met in tinder. I've met with others from tinder but they have been purely for one intention.

This time it is different. I started speaking him for just about three weeks now, but wive got on so well. All over Christmas we have been snap chatting, skyping, texting etc.

We literally click so well on Skype when we are talking, we just get on so well it feels like i've know him for longer. we have obviously spoke about some of the naughtier things too which is fabulous as i believe that is an important part of any relationship.

I am going to meet him for the first time this Friday and i'm so excited because i really really do like him and i want to see how things go, but i'm worried what he will think of me. Like i said yes he has seen all parts of me BUT i am a larger girl. I use the term lightly but i weigh about 19 stone so yes i am big. I'm quite tall though so it doesn't look as bad is one may think.

He knows this i have told him and he knows how much i weigh, he also knows I'm worried but he always responded well you don't look that big, but he hasn't seen me in person yet and i'm just worried what he is going to act like when he does see me. i'm worried i am going to look bigger than he imagined, and the feelings he has wont be there anymore.

He has seen my pictures on Facebook ect (attached to this post), but this sounds really vain and its not how i mean it , but i do photograph well, or know how to take a good photo to hide my size. And to be honest i am more worried about my size when we get intimate, that is when i will be most worried, because i have the obvious lumps, bumps, over hangs whatever you want to call them that come with being fat.

He is a lovely guy and i know he will let me down nicely if that is the outcome but that's not what i want ! i want to spend time with him and get to know him.

I'm so worried, does anyone have any advice ?
You'll have to post the pics on imgur or something in order to share them. If he's seen you on skype etc then I doubt he'll be shocked by your size, he must have some clue already? Go on Friday anyway, I don't think it'll be as awkward as you think it will be.
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May as well just go and see what happens, if he doesn't like you then fair enough.

Also you stated you are 19 stone to him already so it's not going to be a shock to the system. Guy sounds genuine and wants to talk to you so what is there to lose.
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You'll have to post the pics on imgur or something in order to share them. If he's seen you on skype etc then I doubt he'll be shocked by your size, he must have some clue already? Go on Friday anyway, I don't think it'll be as awkward as you think it will be.

http://imgur.com/1wCaEMD
http://imgur.com/XVafxE5
http://imgur.com/7RNDQIT

can you see them now ?
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May as well just go and see what happens, if he doesn't like you then fair enough.

Also you stated you are 19 stone to him already so it's not going to be a shock to the system. Guy sounds genuine and wants to talk to you so what is there to lose.
He really is a nice guy, im going to go i guess its more fear of rejection.
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Stop worrying about it. If he's seen photos of you and skyped you he knows what you look like and he's obviously attracted to you. Most people look good when they photograph themselves, people are only going to take flattering shots of themselves. I doubt he would be shocked if you didn't look as glamorous as your profile pictures or whatever....

He might like bigger girls anyway.
thats true he might i just assume he dosent with the way he has acted when talking about it
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