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Problem With Girlfriend & Feelings

I have been seeing my girlfriend for a far few months now, and in them months, i have got to know her really well. At first i thought, 'oh this girl is really going to get on my nerves, we won't last long...' But all them months down the line now, i am finding i am might be falling in Love with her.

We have had a few conversations about these kind of feelings, and she has said she isn't going to say she loves me yet, as obviously she doesn't yet, if ever.

What the hell do i do? If i tell her, it might mess things up, or should i be honest to her, and risk what would happen?!

Im not sure what to do, and a boy has never said he loves her before.

:confused:

I don't wanna wreck what we got, what do i do?!

Reply 1

Jonquil

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maybe just write it at the end of a text, as in blah blah blah have a nice day, love you, xxx

and see what happens?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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Jonquil1

maybe just write it at the end of a text, as in blah blah blah have a nice day, love you, xxx

and see what happens?

It's an idea, but i'd rather do it to her face, so i know what kind of reaction i get. And we don't really text much, as she more or less lives with me.

Reply 3

Jonquil

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well with me and my boyfriend, i think he just slipped it into conversation like on the phone he'd say love you, bye and hang up and i thought it was really sweet, so maybe try saying it as your saying goodbye, or you could leave a note on her pillow or something, be romantic girls love it ooh this is my 100th post im sure she won't mind you saying iy unless she's completely commitment-phobic, and if she didn't really like you or wasn't close to falling for you anyway would she still be with you after "a fair few months" i don't know i'm not really vastly experienced to tell you the truth xxx

Reply 4

Becca28

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if shes practically living with you you two must be pretty close so just tell her and see what happens, my boyfriend whispered it in my ear when we were out in the evening the first time he said it to me, good luck anyways :smile:

Reply 5

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Jonquil1

well with me and my boyfriend, i think he just slipped it into conversation like on the phone he'd say love you, bye and hang up and i thought it was really sweet, so maybe try saying it as your saying goodbye, or you could leave a note on her pillow or something, be romantic girls love it ooh this is my 100th post im sure she won't mind you saying iy unless she's completely commitment-phobic, and if she didn't really like you or wasn't close to falling for you anyway would she still be with you after "a fair few months" i don't know i'm not really vastly experienced to tell you the truth xxx

Got your head screwed on i see. :smile:

Thanks for the ideas. I never really thought of things like a note on her pillow, that would bring a smile to her face. She's not the romantic type, but i suppose if i was to do something really nice, she is going to appretiate it, spontanious like.

She's had her fair share of **** relationships, and i think she has found me to be the best boyfriend compared to the recent ones she has been with, which counts for something. I don't think she's commotment phobic, but im just not sure if she will take saying 'I Love You' in a good way, or a bad way, and get all weird on me :frown:

Good ideas, thanks Alot :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

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Becca28

if shes practically living with you you two must be pretty close so just tell her and see what happens, my boyfriend whispered it in my ear when we were out in the evening the first time he said it to me, good luck anyways :smile:

Yeh, she more or less spends all her time at mine, and stays round for days and sometimes a week or 2 in a row. If i'm lucky she might say it back :biggrin:

Maybe it's a risk worth taking, after all, honesty is the best policy. :smile:

Reply 7

Jonquil

10

welcome

you should say it if you feel it, let it all hang out lol
not sure about that head screwed on right comment, sarcasm?
no one ever says that to me, its normally jq has a screw loose or lost marbles etc :rolleyes:

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

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Jonquil1

welcome

you should say it if you feel it, let it all hang out lol
not sure about that head screwed on right comment, sarcasm?
no one ever says that to me, its normally jq has a screw loose or lost marbles etc :rolleyes:

No saracasm there. :smile:

Let it all hang out, be truthful. :smile:

Reply 9

Jonquil

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did you say it???

que passa??

Reply 10

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Jonquil1

did you say it???

que passa??

Not yet, she has gone on holiday for a week, which gives me some time to Prepare what to say/do. :smile:

Reply 11

sahsum

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you could always try saying in not such an 'i love you' way. Tell her u 'adore' her or something like that if u havent already, and that might soften her up a bit for the big 3 words!! x x

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

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sahsum

you could always try saying in not such an 'i love you' way. Tell her u 'adore' her or something like that if u havent already, and that might soften her up a bit for the big 3 words!! x x

Good idea, plucking up the courage is what im trying to do at the moment, as im not the most confident person when it comes to this kinda thing :blush:

Reply 13

edu

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Dont expect her to say it back, girls have told me they love me and I havent said it back. Some people dont like saying it unless there sure they really feel it (like me). But please dont waste something as beautiful as "I love you" in a text msg. The phone call idea is nice :biggrin:

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