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I Am a Prick because my depression has ruined my chances of going Uni watch

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    I am 19, studying in my last year in college in hope to go uni. Pathetically, as college started this week, my anxiety wouldnt let me enter the lessons and hence i know i will miss the ucas deadline next week as my tutors dont really like me (cant blame them)

    What i have notice is that my classmates seem to see me as a ****ing ******* ******* of a ****e's ass. I mean, even though i have not entered college this week at all, i saw a few whilst wandering around the college building and they just avoid me. In fact, they have been doing this since september.

    Yes i admit im a **** and a cynical ******* who doesnt have friends on the course. I dont blame them, they are seen as God's Gift and i dont hate them for that. Everybody see introverts as ebola and this is fine.

    My question relates back to ucas, What should i do when i miss the ucas deadline? or should i just quit college and go into a dead end apprenticeship?
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    Orrrr! You could claim extenuating circumstances and retake the year in sep 2015, or if you had bad grades maybe go into year 12 this year to enhance your grades from AS, you'll go into year 13 in sep 2015 and go there a year late with much better grades?
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    Or not miss the deadline perhaps? Just write a personal statement, pick a few choices and do what you have to do. It's not a big deal anyways. Who knows how you're gonna feel in a couple of months when the universities would actually respond to your application... You can always decide not to attend uni after that.
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    why would you miss the deadline. go in. I loved college. it was a lot of fun.
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    :doctor: ASAP CUZ
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Orrrr! You could claim extenuating circumstances and retake the year in sep 2015, or if you had bad grades maybe go into year 12 this year to enhance your grades from AS, you'll go into year 13 in sep 2015 and go there a year late with much better grades?
    I'm studying an access course, its like fast track a-levels (and even in my opinion worse than A2).
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    (Original post by Shakz)
    :doctor: ASAP CUZ
    :no: im curing my depression by drinking vodka, Gin and tonic, whiskey & wine and Wkd
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    The ucas application can be done at home, so you don't actually have to be in the lesson to fill it in and send it. If you seriously can't go in you could do it at home.
    If you miss the deadline, you still can go to uni this year. The January deadline is only for if you want your application to be considered equally to other applications. If you apply after the deadline your application will likely be seen last and so places might already be filled, but if they aren't you still could get a place.
    Later on there's something called "UCAS Extra", where some universities open up empty spaces on the courses for people who didn't get in the first time round. While not all places do this and they might not have many places available, it is still an option you can take if entering late doesn't get you a place.

    If all else fails, apply again next year. Or the year after. You're only 19, and you can go to uni at any age, so there isn't really any real reason that people have to go uni at this age, even though we're made to think that.
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    (Original post by JulianRothschild)
    Mate.

    None of this bull**** matters in the long run.

    You need to address your anxiety issues. Fear removes itself from the equation once you accept this, you will within a two year time span, become what you want to become, no anxiety in social situations.

    Read Dr Claire Week's books and apply that stuff, and stop messing around.

    There are bigger issues than someone judging you, if someone says anything degrading just smack them. However first you must politely state that if you continue with this verbal abuse, I will beat the .... out of you.

    Your inferiority is in your head, nobody is better or stronger than you.

    I have met and seen people that thought they were 'cool' in school, they are all messed up a couple of years later and afraid.

    Life's success isn't about popularity. They might be 'popular' in their current constructed social paradigm, but once they face the real world, they are little scared rats.

    If I were you I would ignore it, focus on your success.

    Self control in all matters of finance and enjoyment and huge amount of patience in life.
    Whilst i thank you for the advice, It's not that easy but i would give a try
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    (Original post by RX-94-Harley)
    The ucas application can be done at home, so you don't actually have to be in the lesson to fill it in and send it. If you seriously can't go in you could do it at home.
    If you miss the deadline, you still can go to uni this year. The January deadline is only for if you want your application to be considered equally to other applications. If you apply after your application will likely be seen last and so places might already be filled, but if they aren't you still could get a place.
    Later on there's something called "UCAS Extra", where some universities open up empty spaces on the courses for people who didn't get in the first time round. While not all places do this and they might not have many places available, it is still an option you can take if entering late doen't get you a place.

    If all else fails, apply again next year. Or the year after. You're only 19, and you can go to uni at any age, so there isn't really any real reason that peoplehave to go uni at this age, even though we're made to think that.
    but what about references? this is actually the main reason i will miss the deadline because the tutor has no faith in me.
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    i am a prick as well. I would be having fun if I wasn't stuck on a computer doing work.
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    confidence is all about self belief and a little bit of arrogance. remember that you're just like everyone else, you might be a little bit worse or better (like me), but you won't be much worse.
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    (Original post by whatevernd)
    i am a prick as well. I would be having fun if I wasn't stuck on a computer doing work.
    I bet your awesome and girls come after you...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but what about references? this is actually the main reason i will miss the deadline because the tutor has no faith in me.
    Before the application is sent off to ucas your college will check all the details, your personal statement and the reference. If there are errors, or if your tutor has been unfair with the statement, they will send it back and the tutor will have to redo it. If they either continue make an unfair reference or refuse to do it you can report them to the head of their department, or whoever else has the power to make them do it right.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but what about references? this is actually the main reason i will miss the deadline because the tutor has no faith in me.
    Your teacher may have already written a reference out for your application, especially if you've mentioned applying before. All they would then need to do is add it on. Wouldn't take that long.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I bet your awesome and girls come after you...
    you wouldn't believe me if I told you how many come after me
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am 19, studying in my last year in college in hope to go uni. Pathetically, as college started this week, my anxiety wouldnt let me enter the lessons and hence i know i will miss the ucas deadline next week as my tutors dont really like me (cant blame them)

    What i have notice is that my classmates seem to see me as a ****ing ******* ******* of a ****e's ass. I mean, even though i have not entered college this week at all, i saw a few whilst wandering around the college building and they just avoid me. In fact, they have been doing this since september.

    Yes i admit im a **** and a cynical ******* who doesnt have friends on the course. I dont blame them, they are seen as God's Gift and i dont hate them for that. Everybody see introverts as ebola and this is fine.

    My question relates back to ucas, What should i do when i miss the ucas deadline? or should i just quit college and go into a dead end apprenticeship?
    go see a doctor, it will not get better by itself

    you seem like your suffering from severe social anxiety disorder
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    (Original post by rickfloss)
    go see a doctor, it will not get better by itself

    you seem like your suffering from severe social anxiety disorder
    And for the 1 millionth time NO :noway:

    Please explain to me why you think my social anxiety is so severe. I just cant understand why people are ignoring me when next lesson i'll be sitting (forcibly, large class so impossible to sit alone) next to them
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    And for the 1 millionth time NO :noway:

    Please explain to me why you think my social anxiety is so severe. I just cant understand why people are ignoring me when next lesson i'll be sitting (forcibly, large class so impossible to sit alone) next to them
    people do not ignore for no reason, there is nothing special about you in that they would ignore you, assuming you dont stink, shower everyday, brush teeth, look presentable

    You have classic signs of social anxiety, as someone who has gone through what you have gone through, i STRONGLY suggest you get help.
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