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Was it a date?

This sounds stupid. I went to the cinema and a restaurant with this boy from my elementary school. I just assumed it was like old friends meeting. Now I suspect he thinks it was more. I don't know why, I just have that feeling. Like when you can tell somebody likes you. And now his msn screen name is 'You're so unbelievable :suith:

'. I shouldn't be a bighead and think it's about me. But I think it is LOL. Anyway, is there a way I can find out without straight out asking? And if he does think this, what is the best way to let him down gently? I think he'd make a great friend but I'm just interested in him in that way.
Thanks.

Reply 1

username47781

20

Only way is to talk to him and ask where you both stand.

Reply 2

G4ry

1

The big question is: who paid?

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Split it.
However I went out with another guy a few months ago and had this whole 'was it or was it not a date' dilemma also (hmm I really don't know where I stand with guys, do I?) and he paid for cinema and meal. And it wasn't really a date, I learned in the end. Because now we seldom speak. Even though at the end he said 'we should do this again'. And never did.
That's also another thing. Today as we were leaving he said the same thing as the boy a few months ago, but with more enthusiasm.

Reply 4

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

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I wouldn't worry about letting him down gently unless he raises the subject with you.

Reply 5

Zafda

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Anonymous

This sounds stupid. I went to the cinema and a restaurant with this boy from my elementary school. I just assumed it was like old friends meeting. Now I suspect he thinks it was more. I don't know why, I just have that feeling. Like when you can tell somebody likes you. And now his msn screen name is 'You're so unbelievable :suith:

'. I shouldn't be a bighead and think it's about me. But I think it is LOL. Anyway, is there a way I can find out without straight out asking? And if he does think this, what is the best way to let him down gently? I think he'd make a great friend but I'm just interested in him in that way.
Thanks.

ar, why don't you just ask him ''ooh whos unbelievable eh eh?''.

it'll put him in an awkward position if its you, if not he'll tell you who it is ;D

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Zafda

ar, why don't you just ask him ''ooh whos unbelievable eh eh?''.

it'll put him in an awkward position if its you, if not he'll tell you who it is ;D

I can't deal with awkward situations! No, I'm the type to avoid them... I don't want to search for one!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Anybody else got an opinion on the matter?

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I have that issue too - I went to the cinema with a guy last week and I wanted it to be a date but I'm not sure if it was, he's quite shy and not flirtatious so I have absolutely no idea if he fancies me, which is really annoying.

Reply 9

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

I have that issue too - I went to the cinema with a guy last week and I wanted it to be a date but I'm not sure if it was, he's quite shy and not flirtatious so I have absolutely no idea if he fancies me, which is really annoying.

Don't worry I like you, I'm just shy.

Reply 10

maag101

1

Oh ask him. What have you got to lose? Seriously. Name three things you can really lose, being sensible and logical.

Reply 11

Frogsofhope

2

When I was at uni I had a friend I hun gout with, we were quite close, and I saw him as the only person I could talk to. WE used to hang out loads, see films, eat food, go shopping, I never saw any of it as a date or even considered he could be seeing it that way, even when everyone ribbed me about him. After a while I noticed his username saying things like "I want you I need you why odn't you know?" and "amazing yet unattainable, and after a while i got paranoid and big headed and wondered if they were about me, whenever i mentioned it to him in a joke way, he would get really annoyed and uptight and not speak to me for a while, I thought he was just mad at me for being nosey and ignored it, after about 2months of this behaviour it suddenly hit me that he DID have a big crush on me, by this point I was in too deep, and when I tried to let him down gently by suggesting we hun gout less and spending time with other people, he went insane turned into a righe jerk, bad mouthing me to everyone we knew in commen, playing mind games messing up my friendships with other people, whenever i went roudn to call for him try bridge the gap he would be really distant and cold and never want to hang out anymore. HE now refers to me as the biggest bitch ever! wow I hijacked this thread a bit let me get to my point,
don't make the same mistake I did and just ignore little clues you get, you have to nip it in the bud before he becomes too obsessed with you, i know I sounds really big headed here, but it really felt that way.
If you have an intuative feeling, it hasn't come from no where, so act on it, don't rib him about the msn statement as someone mentioned, just try give clear signals when you are with him and don't get too close or do anything he can take the wrong way, if he ever drops hints about you2 being a couple then you have to make it clear you don't want that without hurting his feelings, the old I see you as a really great mate but just don't fancy you, sounds insincere these days, but I can't think of a better way of doing it!

Im getting ahead of you now because my own experience is in my head :mad:

You may end up loosing a mate here is all I am saying if you don't figure out a tactical way around this, and be prepared to face the fact with some guys if they can't be with you they wont even try be your friend anymore. :frown:

Reply 12

supernova2

11

Cinema AND restaurant, youre as good as married

Reply 13

anjurdsg

11

supernova2

Cinema AND restaurant, youre as good as married

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Don't worry I like you, I'm just shy.

Lol.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

maag101

Oh ask him. What have you got to lose? Seriously. Name three things you can really lose, being sensible and logical.

I could lose a friend! Ok I can't think of more... but a friend is big enough.

marisad_uk, thanks for the advice. Thinking about the situation spiraling outta control makes me cringe...

Ahh supernova2 you're sooo funny (that wasn't sarcasm it actually was!). It was more the way he acted than the actual places we went :p:

Now, to get the courage to ask/tell him!

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