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    I'm in my 3rd year of college (18yrs old) and I hate it. For the past few months I've been considering dropping out but not sure how to approach my parents about it? I don't want to burden them or let them down. I was close to telling them when my mum found out my attendance was about 60% but I just broke down and didn't now how to pick up the pieces. I've also been feeling really low about myself, I go to bed late and wake up really early for no reason, I've lost my appetite, I never want to leave the house. (I've been in bed for the past week because I didn't want to go) and I feel like this is all down to college? But I feel like my parents will make up excuses for me acting like this? I've thought about it and feel like I'll be happier just working and paying my parents back for the money they spend on my kit for college, I do currently work part time and I was thinking of just doing overtime until I find something full time. So I do have a plan. Also do I just write a letter to my college to say I want to withdrawal? I just want to have enough info about everything so my parents know I'm serious about this?? I go to college in Aylesbury and I've looked on their website but there isn't anything about dropping out or who to go to? I'd rather not have to go back there just the thought makes me want to jump into traffic!
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    (Original post by Aprilporter96)
    I'm in my 3rd year of college (18yrs old) and I hate it. For the past few months I've been considering dropping out but not sure how to approach my parents about it? I don't want to burden them or let them down. I was close to telling them when my mum found out my attendance was about 60% but I just broke down and didn't now how to pick up the pieces. I've also been feeling really low about myself, I go to bed late and wake up really early for no reason, I've lost my appetite, I never want to leave the house. (I've been in bed for the past week because I didn't want to go) and I feel like this is all down to college? But I feel like my parents will make up excuses for me acting like this? I've thought about it and feel like I'll be happier just working and paying my parents back for the money they spend on my kit for college, I do currently work part time and I was thinking of just doing overtime until I find something full time. So I do have a plan. Also do I just write a letter to my college to say I want to withdrawal? I just want to have enough info about everything so my parents know I'm serious about this?? I go to college in Aylesbury and I've looked on their website but there isn't anything about dropping out or who to go to? I'd rather not have to go back there just the thought makes me want to jump into traffic!


    What are you studying?

    It's great that you have employment behind you, as you'll always be able to have that financial stability: From this you're in quite an advantageous position. If you really dislike the course and see no relevance to what you'd like to pursue in the future, you don't have to be there and shouldn't feel like you have to put yourself through misery, either.
    In terms of dropping out, I assume you speak to your tutor. Or if you don't want to do face-to-face contact, email him/her?

    Good luck with it all- hope you sort it out soon! :console:
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    What are you studying?

    It's great that you have employment behind you, as you'll always be able to have that financial stability: From this you're in quite an advantageous position. If you really dislike the course and see no relevance to what you'd like to pursue in the future, you don't have to be there and shouldn't feel like you have to put yourself through misery, either.
    In terms of dropping out, I assume you speak to your tutor. Or if you don't want to do face-to-face contact, email him/her?

    Good luck with it all- hope you sort it out soon! :console:
    I'm studying makeup artistry, the past 2 years I've studied beauty therapy which I have to fall back on. I did hope to pursue makeup further but I feel that it won't happen, particularly that uni is a must for what I want to do but uni doesn't appeal to me. I'm more worried about looking weak in front of my parents because my sister went through the same thing I feel like I'm going through now.
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    (Original post by Aprilporter96)
    I'm studying makeup artistry, the past 2 years I've studied beauty therapy which I have to fall back on. I did hope to pursue makeup further but I feel that it won't happen, particularly that uni is a must for what I want to do but uni doesn't appeal to me. I'm more worried about looking weak in front of my parents because my sister went through the same thing I feel like I'm going through now.
    I can completely empathize with you, I've been through a similar situation myself. But just to reiterate really, you shouldn't feel like you have to be on a course when it is causing nothing but misery. It's just a waste of time and effort if you know you could be doing something much more beneficial. There is a lot of pressure to find careers and set goals whilst you're young, I don't know... sometimes you just have to ignore the horrible guilt that you're feeling, and go with whatever will benefit you currently.

    I know I may sound a little disorganised in what I am saying. ultimately, you have a job and that is real sound stability right there. At least you aren't in the situation of only attending college, and then worrying about whether you'll find work if you leave your course. You only seem to be worried about what others will think, that seems to be swaying your decision. Give yourself some time to think things through.
 
 
 
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