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    in a nutshell my bf of 2 yrs left at start of our 3 rd year (different unis) he said I was suffocating him because I wanted to see him often and he was enjoying socialising on his own with his uni friends. After just 2 weeks though he was back in contact as he admitted he couldn't cope with any male interest I was getting even on a friendship level it was making him ill so we started texting again and agreed to meet at xmas, which was great and he showered me with gifts and didn't let me out of his sight. Said he wanted to try again and he would see me every weekend back at uni. Until we went back that is ... I've already had excuses about this weekend and next work to do e lectures, birthdays etc when I know if he really tried he could have got here. Am I being strung along ?? My friends think he's playing me /controlling me and wants to keep me just as an option...How do I deal with this it feels like we are already in the same pattern as when we were going out. Any suggestions or should I just give it some time . Don't want him walking all over me again but I do love him unfortunately

    (Original post by Sulpha)
    He doesn't want you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

    When he goes back to University and is at a distance, it gives him more encourage to try and push you aside.

    You should have some self-respect, break up with him and go and find someone who actually wants to be with you.
    I mean as much as this sounds cruel it's probably not far off because he's not sticking to his word. Even if what Sulpha says isn't the case he's really not treating you very well whether he does like you or not and you deserve better. So either have a chat first and break it off after no improvement or just break it off for your own sake. I know it's difficult but it's really for the best. I wish someone told me this when I was going through something similar.

    Why does he need to see you EVERY weekend? Why don't you just stick it out until the end of the year, if you're finishing uni and he wants to study at the weekend instead of seeing you I think it's a bit selfish of you to expect him to see you instead. It's an important uni year. You sound a bit clingy.

    I agree with Sulpha.

    Being jealous of other guys spending time with you is a stupid reason to rekindle the relationship.

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