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HEY! That kid is popular, wow?

There are usually 3 kinds of people in a school. Popular, Average, Unpopular.

I came to UK when I was about 10, so I was still adapting to UK's style of life, and I never cared about 'what others think' or 'how to look good'. (im 17, male).
Right now Im at high school, studying at 6th form. Im not afraid to say this but I have a big head. Also I'm asian and not exactely good looking. Not the best at sports, although I'm starting to better at football. So where am I classified in other people's view? yup, unpopular.

You might now start wonder why is this guy making this post telling us about his school life. Well, I always just want to be a normal guy, that has a normal life. However I've recieved many comments in the past about my 'big head' has drowned my cofidence. These few years, the comments have decreased dramatically, mainly being the fact that every1 is growing up. So Im starting to live a normal life... yet today I was having a general conv with one of my friend from school, and something he said which made me feel I'm that unpopular guy that no-one likes anymore.

I am fully aware that I should not care about what others think of me, and I should just live my life, but it just p***es me off when I know how others look at me. My confidence have dropped again, *sigh* talking about low self -esteem.

Well discuss w/e you like, I just wanted to write it here cos I had no1 else to share this with - yes not even my family.

Thanks for reading

Reply 1

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Nobody is perfect looking.

Reply 2

ForumFreak

9

I was one of the least popular in my year. However I'm not at school anymore and really couldnt give a damn. These popular people often have a real shock when they go out into the real world and aren't popular anymore.

Reply 3

Richy_Boi

12

Once you leave the school environment it all changes.

It's your personality that matters, don't be an annoying arse and you'll be fine.

Reply 4

iceman_jondoe

18

personality counts

Reply 5

Richy_Boi

12

ForumFreak

I was one of the least popular in my year. However I'm not at school anymore and really couldnt give a damn. These popular people often have a real shock when they go out into the real world and aren't popular anymore.

So true.

Come 6th form, I began to see the shift from popularity being related to looks/sports/personality to popularity being related to music/academia/sports/personality.

It was quite a shock at first because as the a-holes had left the normally 'geeky' people began to come out of their shell. Ok, they were still nervous but funny. People started to get along better, there was far less judgement and much better social cohesion.

By the time you're in your 2nd year of 6th form you'll be fine. If not, go to Uni, there's 10 good guys to every jackass. No one remembers your past and won't judge you for your big head, which might not be so big in relation to your body when you're 19.

In hindsight, You will laugh at yourself knowing that you actually cared what anyone else thinks.

If you want to be popular, I suggest you stop caring now. Don't show weakness.

Reply 6

tomHHHH

ForumFreak

I was one of the least popular in my year. However I'm not at school anymore and really couldnt give a damn. These popular people often have a real shock when they go out into the real world and aren't popular anymore.

i never understand that popular people are always going to have friends, probably because they're good sociably and normally good looking.

so yeah

Reply 7

supernova2

11

Stop making posts about yourself big head.

Reply 8

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

tomHHHH

i never understand that popular people are always going to have friends, probably because they're good sociably and normally good looking.

so yeah

Very, very true.

All the kids from my school who were popular then, still are now.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks to all ur comments, richy boi, thanks v much. everything u sed is 100% true. yeah i'm starting to work out now, so hopefully by this time next year, i would of bullked up so my head wouldnt show as it did b4. i think i can start living a normal life, studying hard and working on my football freestyling. thanks to all again

Reply 10

Elitist

14

I find that most popular people are good looking when young but usually age terribly. How it makes me laugh.

Being only average I am full of spite towards them.

Reply 11

ForumFreak

9

Yeah but when they go to work no one there is going to know or care whether or not they were the most popular girl/guy in their year at school. Some (but not all, I'm not trying to offend any popular people here) are really bigheaded about themselves and this comes as a surprise.

However your points about good social skills make sense.

Reply 12

Azzle

1

i was a reet geek at school. when i went to college, i was still dead geeky. I had short hair and looked like a rather butch lesbian. saying that tho, at the time, it hought i was. anyway. went out with the geekiest guy in the year. everyone knew me as his gf (i went to a 6th form, so everyone knew eachother, but i was from another school).

gradually, i started to change, but noone really noticed. i hung around with people that were seen as "dirty moshers" even tho by the end of college, I blates wasnt, i was still called a mosher. There was a guy who i liked at the end of year 12, who never showed any interest. Once we'd left college tho, he got interested. we've had breif relations etc.

Thing is, I was geeky at school and college, and now, I'm the complete oposite. Get lots of attention and that (not to sound big headed). But my point is, it doesn't matter what you're like at college, when you get out into the real world. people see you for who you are.

Reply 13

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Azzle

Thing is, I was geeky at school and college, and now, I'm the complete oposite. Get lots of attention and that (not to sound big headed). But my point is, it doesn't matter what you're like at college, when you get out into the real world. people see you for who you are.

Precisely. Labels stop being important the older you get.

Example: at school I was (and still am) into sci-fi and comics, a bit chubby, middle parting haircut, in all the top sets, typical nerd, though oddly reasonably popular nonetheless.

These days I've been clubbing 10 times the amount anybody else my age has, I've packed on an assload of muscle, got a better haircut, my face has matured to make me good looking and I get a ton of attention from women, learned to be confident and talk to strangers with ease, but I'm still the same person. The only difference is that these days I don't bother trying to hide my geekiness, I love it and revel in it. I wear superhero T-shirts to uni, I talk about Buffy and Angel and all the sci-fi stuff I love, and people appreciate the fact that I'm genuine and very open about who I am.

Reply 14

chloemo14

13

Richy_Boi

So true.

Come 6th form, I began to see the shift from popularity being related to looks/sports/personality to popularity being related to music/academia/sports/personality.

It was quite a shock at first because as the a-holes had left the normally 'geeky' people began to come out of their shell. Ok, they were still nervous but funny. People started to get along better, there was far less judgement and much better social cohesion.

By the time you're in your 2nd year of 6th form you'll be fine. If not, go to Uni, there's 10 good guys to every jackass. No one remembers your past and won't judge you for your big head, which might not be so big in relation to your body when you're 19.

In hindsight, You will laugh at yourself knowing that you actually cared what anyone else thinks.

If you want to be popular, I suggest you stop caring now. Don't show weakness.

Completly, completly agree with that- would rep you, but isn't worth anything(have been on this website for 2 years, but only registered a couple of months ago)

Reply 15

LadyEnglish

2

If you go to the next page of threads there's a thread called 'Big Head' there. I found it hard to distinguish as to wether you meant you were arrogant or physically had a big head, ill go for the latter which after school the petty remarks will stop and it shouldn't be a big deal anymore x

Reply 16

'Invictus'

In 40 years it won't matter what clothes you wear or how you're perceived, all that will matter is what you've learned and the person you've become.

Reply 17

anjurdsg

11

'Invictus'

In 40 years it won't matter what clothes you wear or how you're perceived, all that will matter is what you've learned and the person you've become.

:dito:

This person is just sooooo right, I would give him all the pos-rep in the world. (btw you just earned your second green gem :biggrin:

)

It's all about personality, not about being the "hottest" guy on campus. Come to think of it, I have a friend who is BELOW-AVERAGE looking, but he is the most popular, not just in school, but all around the city. Everywhere he goes he knows someone. He is ALSO the biggest pimp, gets the most amount of girls.

And guess what? It's not coz he wears great clothes and puts on expensive cologne, or even the fact that he is so rich or whatever.

IT'S ALL ABOUT HIS PERSONALITY.

Just the way he talks, the way he holds himself, the way he controls himself, his surroundings, his reality.

Sh*t, I wish I could be like him :p:

But no joke. I was in exactly the same situation as you when I moved out from India went to Singapore. Unpopular. No friends. No one inviting me to parties.

But then I changed my PERSONALITY. Then the clothes and else changed with my personality. Not the other way round.

So, moral of the story: work on yourself (sorry for the awful pun)

And you'll see success gleaming at you like gold gleaming at a psycho treasure hunter (bad metaphor, i know)

:laugh:

Reply 18

Neverendingroses

I am the only one that missed the boat on the whole popularity thing?
In my school there were the girls that were pretty and blonde, all the guys fancied them etc. but I wouldnt say they were popular. In fact they were total b*tches and most people hated them

then there were 5/6 guys, same deal. good looking, everyone fancied them. but again, they were a bunch of arses and definitely not popular just good looking.

Then there were one or two kids who hung out with those crowds on occasion, hung out with other people on occasion, knew everyone in the year above and below, were friends with everybody in our year and were all round nice kids. if anyone was popular it was them!

then yeah of course you had the people nobody noticed and the losers.

but this popularity thing gets fully blown out of proportion. you all need to re-asses what the word means. if there are a bunch of people who everyone envies and fancies but deep down hates their guts. they are faaarr from popular

Reply 19

Tomber

13

That seemed to be the way of things in my school, the 'popular' girls were disliked by the vast majority of the year and were only considered popular because they were 'good looking', or just thought they were. Their popularity made them unpopular, an odd social phenomena.

I've never found bleach blonde + orange skin + complete bitch to be a turn on :confused:

HEY! That kid is popular, wow?

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