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    Hi,

    I'm a fresher at University and all my flatmates are dropping out of Uni for various reasons and I have a flat all to myself!

    I've been good friends with these people from the start of Uni and although I know other people from my course and societies, I don't know them or their flatmates well enough to go out with them or hang around with them a as much as I do with my flatmates.

    I'm quite nervous and scared about my flatmates leaving as I don't really know to many other people and I'm quite a shy and introverted person. I'm now starting to feel isolated and flat-bound! I can't exactly go on nights out on my own and feel bad tagging along with other people who are out with their own flat!

    This isn't how I imagined University!

    Can anybody help me or has been in a similar situation!
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    Hey, although none of my flatmates are leaving I totally feel the same we haven't bonded that much and 2 have their own friends they hang with all the time and another always goes home so I feel so alone and BORED. Like I know other people and have friends to sit with at uni but they all have their own closer friends they go out with
    Guess what people are telling me to do is stick it out and talk to everyone you meet like in classes but I get it sucks right now :/
    Where do you go?
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    If it makes you feel any better, this is a similar situation to me. My flatmates are very quiet and rarely come out of their rooms, so it can feel very lonely in my halls. I am a nervous person too but I have PUSHED myself to talk to as many people as I can on my course and have asked to come along or arranged to go out with other people. The more you do this, the easier it gets. Otherwise, I would never go out anywhere. Just try to be more outgoing and make more of an effort with societies/coursemates.
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    They will most likely put new flatmates in to replace them- ERASMUS students etc so I wouldn't worry too much, I doubt you'll be going back to an empty flat!
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    Hey, These are my exact problems! I'm gutted that all my flatmates are gone but I do have a variety of friends from my course that I get on well with. But I don't often go out because I feel awkward asking if I can go out with their flatmates! They are all so close! I'm a quiet person anyway!

    I just try to keep busy by doing lots of course related volunteer work or by picking up little jobs! I still feel like I miss out on the social experience of University though!

    People just say "put yourself out there" and "be as social as possible" but these things are easier said than done!
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    It does seem easier said than done to be more outgoing. I thought this when I started uni too. But, once I started chatting more and being less timid, it became so much easier.
 
 
 
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