feeling rather used and confused...advice please!

Basically I just want the opinions of people who don't know me because I don't feel that those of my friends are exactly impartial...
Situation runs thus: slept with a guy a few months ago, drunken one- night thing (yeah, we were careful) in which we were equally to blame. I regretted it after but recognised my own responsibility and moved on (well, sort of...pregnancy scare didn't help). Didn't really talk much for a while after that, but were perfectly civil to one another, and then he spontaneously contacted me over the summer and we started chatting again. He had a party thing for his 18th recently and invited me, so I went hoping to resolve things a little more. Seemed like all was going well as he apologised profusely for how he'd behaved previously (though i didn't really have an issue with that), and went on about how desperately he cared about me.
Gullible and slightly tipsy as I was, I believed what he was telling me and we ended up kissing.He then started being really suggestive and tryed to get me to sleep with him again (round the back of a pub for goodness' sake). I refused, as I began to suspect his motives for saying all this really touching stuff, and he became pretty insistent (but i still said no). Shortly afterwards i had to go home (neurotic father), and the following day i found out that this guy had spent the rest of the evening bragging about me being "up for a second round" etc, talking about me in a really degrading way, and getting off with someone else.
If you've managed to get this far then credit for your perserverence, i apologise for the lengthiness of the rant, but I'd like opinions on what to do about him, as I'm not sure whether to let him know precisely what I think of him, ignore him indefinitely, or attempt reconciliation (there is a small part of me which still cares about him, and we do have some mutual friends so might be good as a matter of social convenience). Current suggestions have ranged from attaching electrodes in strategic places to having him as a **** buddy (naturally the latter was rejected). If you can empathise, sympathise or offer advice then please do, thanks :smile:

(and yeah, i realise i'm probably over-reacting, sorry!)

Reply 1

Anarchy Everywhere

Thinly veiled 'i had sex' thread.

Reply 2

apricot

Personally I would try and sort things out between you. It was wrong in the way he behaved and as you still care for him i think you should work something out otherwise it will be forever on your mind. Sorry if i havn't been much help

Reply 3

generalebriety

**** social convenience, I'd tell him exactly what you think of him and have nothing more to do with him. He's clearly some sort of conceited arse.

Reply 4

Tag

What a tit. Tell everyone you would have slept with him, yes, but you couldn't find a magnifying glass. What a ******. You deserve so much better.

Reply 5

Hel

generalebriety

**** social convenience, I'd tell him exactly what you think of him and have nothing more to do with him. He's clearly some sort of conceited arse.

Seconded.

Reply 6

*knowitall*

Just tell people he wasn't up to much...or ignore him totally (more mature)...or tell him to his face that you think it's a sign of immaturity to brag about sexual experiences

Reply 7

sergioib

Well, I think he's behaved rather bad with you, he shouldn't have acted that way but still, if you really care of him I think you should try to sort things out with him and, first of all, make him know that you didn't like what he did. If you see he's actually sorry then go for it and try to build up something stronger.

Reply 8

username47781

Totally ignore him, he used you once and had the cheek to try and get round him again, stand your ground and don't talk to him as he just wants one thing from you.

Reply 9

shinyhappy

Personally, I'd go round telling all the people he bragged about having a 'second round' with you, to, that he has an incredibly small penis...
But I'm just petty and bitchy sometimes, so probably not the most constructive advise.
Just put it down to experience, and have nothing more to do with him, even if you have feelings for him, I think you know full well that it wouldn't work, so you just have to figure out the best way of moving on and not letting it get you down.

Reply 10

edu

Carl1982

Totally ignore him, he used you once and had the cheek to try and get round him again, stand your ground and don't talk to him as he just wants one thing from you.