The Biggest Decision of my life

Reply 20

username47781

20

I suppose it's only like one half of Nottingham thats bad.

Reply 21

Petroleum

Insideout

Yeah thats how i felt when i came up to visit her for the weekend. nice place, only thing that put me off before was getting shot!

ha ha

I doubt it.

You have a higher chance getting;

-Assaulted in Leicester.
-Shot down in Bradford.
-All your possesions and your Gf robbed in Leeds.
-Your Gf raped infront of you in Portsmouth. :p:

Sorry if i offended you. I like!

Reply 22

Zoecb

11

Bath to Nottingham sounds reasonable. How much hassle would it be? Would you have accommodation issues?

Reply 23

Nefarious

16

I recently split up with my girlfriend who couldn't cope with the distance so I know how you feel. (I'm at Bath she's at Huddersfield.) I would say don't jeopardise your future for it, there is no guarantee you'll stay together despite living near each other. If you would not regret transferring to Nottingham, ignoring for the time being your GF then go for it.

Reply 24

supernova2

11

Nefarious

I recently split up with my girlfriend who couldn't cope with the distance so I know how you feel. (I'm at Bath she's at Huddersfield.) I would say don't jeopardise your future for it, there is no guarantee you'll stay together despite living near each other. If you would not regret transferring to Nottingham, ignoring for the time being your GF then go for it.

maybe you guys should meet up and pine together.

Reply 25

maag101

1

What's wrong with Bath *glares* That's my home town and I love it!

Just kidding.

To be honest, you sound like you've already made up your mind. Go with what *you* think you should do. It's your life and you only have one shot at it (unless you believe in reincarnation :wink:

) Live life to the full, doing what *you* want to do (within reason of course) and make the most of it. Go for it.

Reply 26

ntf

i think you're making a huge mistake...

Reply 27

kurupt_07

nik87

i think you're making a huge mistake...

why?

Reply 28

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Nottingham is an amazing night out.

Reply 29

xChellex

I think if you were going to leave univeristy, and give up getting qualifications and move away to be near your girlfriend, it would be a huge mistake. But I think moving to Nottingham would only bring upsides for you.

Firstly, you're not happy at Bath, so why not give another university a try? You have the opportunity to change now still quite easily. You are not giving anything up in terms of courses, as you will be taking a similar course.
Plus, you will get to be nearer to your girlfriend. And even if it doesn't late with your girlfriend, you will already have settled into a univeristy you feel you may be happier in, and you will be surrounded by more new people. University is big, so it's not like you'll be stuck with each other 24/7.

I think it's worth a try, if you are happier, you'll act more positively, others will act more positively back to you and you'll be more content to get on with being successful in your course.
So I wouldn't say that you're making a big mistake.

Reply 30

TrentEnd

2

If you're going to move, make sure you are doing it for YOU, not your girlfriend.

You'll have a great time here in Nottingham though!

Reply 31

FadedJade

15

I live near Notts when not at uni, and ts a great place, and the uni is really good. I would say on the whole its better than Bath but for your subject it might be different. However if you dont want to do anything biological afterwards as a career its probably the better uni to be at. Its a fantastic place and i definitely recommend it. although if you decide not to go, you and your grielfriend can still make it work, and it sounds like your housemates want you there so they can make an effort to help make you happier in Bath

Good luck xx

Reply 32

Insideout

OP

Hey Guys,

Cheers for all you help. I do agree on the whole Nottingham is a better uni to be at. Especially socially. But ive decided not to go! Just spoke to my tutor, apparently the Biology Department at Nottingham is in crisis with all the best lectureures leaving etc and they are unable to employ new ones. So i think for me, accademically as hard as this decision is for me, for my future it is best that i stay here!

If me and my girl friend are meant to work we can do it from any distance, i am my own person so should do whats best for me. I would hate it if i went to Nottingham and things didn't work out as i would be in a worse situation then im in now! I think in time i will make better friends here at Bath and i will slowly begin to enjoy myself and be a happier person. I don't need my girl friend to be happy, i can be happy by myself.

Thanks for all your advice, its nice to get things off my chest!

Reply 33

Tag

8

I'm in a similar situation, the only difference is my boyfriend is in uni and I am applying this year.

glad u figured it out :smile:

Reply 34

Sarky

18

I was about to write that you shouldn't go, but thats due to my own personal experiences.

My ex got a transfer to come down to Southampton for Engineering (from Sheffield) and i kept asking him if he was sure, that he didn't have to if he didn't want to. He assured me he was doing it for himself as well as for me. I knew something wasn't right and after a while he admitted he wasn't sure he wanted to come. He ended up not coming and it caused a lot of problems.

We got back together, agreeing that if we were going to make it work then if it was meant to be it would happen whether or not we were in the same uni.

I don't want the pressure of him resenting giving up thigns to move down here, so in hindsight i'm glad things worked out the way they did.

Good luck with your relationship

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