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    So i often go to pre drinks with loads of my coursemates, I'm usually confident but at some pre drinks I've been to, i've been shy and hesitant to talk to people on my course. I'm still trying to fit in

    How can I overcome this?

    I don't drink much during pre drinks as I prefer being sober/slightly tipsy.

    things to talk about:
    how was your day

    i don't know what else to say. This gets harder the more I hang out with people on my course during pre drinks!

    Thanks
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    (Original post by Asklepios)
    Never have I ever


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    That's a drinking game, I'm talking about conversational talk.
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    Pre-drinks? As in, the drinks you have before you go to a bar? Discuss the bar you're going to. Or your course. All else fails, get them to talk about them, everybody loves talking about their selves.:rolleyes:
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    How much you need a drink
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    (Original post by Cold Phoenix)
    That's a drinking game, I'm talking about conversational talk.
    Ok


    Which topics are safe for small talk?
    - Introductions, eg "Hello. May I introduce myself? My name is Mark"
    - Travel, eg "Did you manage to find here OK?" or "Did you have a good journey?"
    - Family, eg "How is your family?" (but only if you already know about the person's family)
    - Hospitality, eg "Can I get you something to eat or drink?"
    - The weather, eg "It's a lovely day today, isn't it?"
    - Holidays, eg "Are you going anywhere this weekend?" or "Are you going anywhere on holiday this year?"
    - Nature, eg "The garden looks lovely, doesn't it?"
    - Pets, eg "What a lovely dog. What is his name?" (British people love dogs or cats)
    - General news, eg "What do you think about the recent floods?" (but safer to avoid gossip and politics)
    - Films, eg "Have you seen the film Bridget Jones's Diary?"
    - Television, eg "Did you see The X Factor last night?"
    - Music, eg "What sort of music do you like?"
    - Books, eg "Have you read any good books recently?" (but only if you know the person likes reading)
    - Sport, eg "Have you been watching Wimbledon?" (note that many British people, especially men, enjoy talking about football)
    - Hobbies, eg "What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?"
    - Business, eg "How's your business going?" (but only ask if you know the person has a business)
    - Studies, eg "What are you studying?" (but only ask if you know the person is a student)
    - Work, eg "What sort of work do you do?"
    - Food, eg "I had a lovely Chinese meal last night - do you like Chinese food?"
    - General matters about the person you are talking to, eg "Have you lived in this area long?"
    - General matters on subjects that you know that interests the person you are talking to, eg cars, film stars etc

    Which topics are best avoided for small talk?

    You may need to be careful when you talk about some topics, especially with people that you've only just met, people who are older than you, people who appear to have strong religious or political views, or people who may have some personal problems or sensitivities. For example, be cautious if you discuss these subjects:

    - Age, eg "How old are you?"
    - Appearance or weight, eg "You seem to have put on some weight"
    - Personal gossip about somebody you know
    - Jokes that might offend (especially sexist or racist jokes)
    - Money, eg "How much do you earn?"
    - Sex (some people have strong religious views about this, or are embarrassed by the subject)
    - Previous or current relationships, eg "Do you have a girlfriend?"
    - Politics, eg "Who did you vote for at the last election?"
    - Religion, eg "Do you believe in God?"
    - Criticisms or complaints, eg "Why is British food so bad?"


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    Ok thanks
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    I empathise with this but as I have got older and wiser, I now realise that many of the 'how are they so confident' types are actually faking it (confidence wise.) Sometimes you have to fake it to make it!
    If you are lucky, you will ,in the course of small talk, find something the other person(s) are really into, be it Breaking Bad, the state of the roadworks in Swindon or how the Central England Temperature is such a good proxy for showing climate change for example.
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    (Original post by Asklepios)
    Ok


    Which topics are safe for small talk?
    - Introductions, eg "Hello. May I introduce myself? My name is Mark"
    - Travel, eg "Did you manage to find here OK?" or "Did you have a good journey?"
    - Family, eg "How is your family?" (but only if you already know about the person's family)
    - Hospitality, eg "Can I get you something to eat or drink?"
    - The weather, eg "It's a lovely day today, isn't it?"
    - Holidays, eg "Are you going anywhere this weekend?" or "Are you going anywhere on holiday this year?"
    - Nature, eg "The garden looks lovely, doesn't it?"
    - Pets, eg "What a lovely dog. What is his name?" (British people love dogs or cats)
    - General news, eg "What do you think about the recent floods?" (but safer to avoid gossip and politics)
    - Films, eg "Have you seen the film Bridget Jones's Diary?"
    - Television, eg "Did you see The X Factor last night?"
    - Music, eg "What sort of music do you like?"
    - Books, eg "Have you read any good books recently?" (but only if you know the person likes reading)
    - Sport, eg "Have you been watching Wimbledon?" (note that many British people, especially men, enjoy talking about football)
    - Hobbies, eg "What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?"
    - Business, eg "How's your business going?" (but only ask if you know the person has a business)
    - Studies, eg "What are you studying?" (but only ask if you know the person is a student)
    - Work, eg "What sort of work do you do?"
    - Food, eg "I had a lovely Chinese meal last night - do you like Chinese food?"
    - General matters about the person you are talking to, eg "Have you lived in this area long?"
    - General matters on subjects that you know that interests the person you are talking to, eg cars, film stars etc

    Which topics are best avoided for small talk?

    You may need to be careful when you talk about some topics, especially with people that you've only just met, people who are older than you, people who appear to have strong religious or political views, or people who may have some personal problems or sensitivities. For example, be cautious if you discuss these subjects:

    - Age, eg "How old are you?"
    - Appearance or weight, eg "You seem to have put on some weight"
    - Personal gossip about somebody you know
    - Jokes that might offend (especially sexist or racist jokes)
    - Money, eg "How much do you earn?"
    - Sex (some people have strong religious views about this, or are embarrassed by the subject)
    - Previous or current relationships, eg "Do you have a girlfriend?"
    - Politics, eg "Who did you vote for at the last election?"
    - Religion, eg "Do you believe in God?"
    - Criticisms or complaints, eg "Why is British food so bad?"


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    Damn, that was...comprehensive.
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    (Original post by Cold Phoenix)
    That's a drinking game, I'm talking about conversational talk.
    Conversation and pre-drinks?

    What a
    bore.
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    You need to find new people to hang out with, people that you don't have to think what to talk to them about
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    If you have to think what to say, you haven't had enough to drink yet lol. Drink some and say whatever pops to your head, theyre drunk too and wont give a damn even if its rude yo
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    Chat s**t. Your gonna be drunk.
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    Just have some banter m8
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    I think you're doing pre-drinks wrong. :yes:

    Maybe you need to buy a deck of cards and pop on some musical tunes? :angel:
 
 
 
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