What should i do?

Basically i usually spend weekends at my boyfriends, so when i left on monday things seemed fine, we kissed said we loved eachother and i said i would see him on friday.

Anyway, i texted him on monday evening (didn't expect/want a reply) and went to sleep. I didn't get a text off him till wednesday morning (after i'd sent another asking how work was). Now I'm due to go there tomorrow evening and spend my reading week with him BUT i'm not sure if he wants me there any more.

Basically he would usually text me at least every other day but usually every night after work, this week i've had one text. I sent him a short one this morning telling him about something which had happened and i haven't had a reply. (also he would usually be on msn, but he hasn't been on at all this week)

I'm starting to feel almost like he doesn't want me to go at the weekend?

What i want to know is which would be the better option out of these two:

1. I text him tonight before i go to bed asking what time would be cool to come down tomorrow, just a general text.

2. i wait and see if he's texted me when i wake up tomorrow (he sometimes works till late) and if not i ask if he does actually want me to come over?

I'm not sure which would be best as i've texted him more than he's texted me this week and i don't want to seem pushy at all.

Reply 1

Rosicky88

1st one

Reply 2

Triplet1

13

Maybe you should just wait until you get there and see him. text him as usual as you would tonight.... he could just busy and you could just be getting a bit paranoid.

Reply 3

Rosicky88

forgot the anon mask, did we?

Reply 4

Spacecam

15

He might just be busy - and not being doing this out of spite. Why don't you try ringing him "just to say you love him" :smile:

then ask whats wrong. I'm sure its all ok.

But if you only want to do 1 or 2 , then do one. If he doesn't reply, show up when you think sensible and say you wanted to surprise him.

I'm really sure he's not off you or anythin. Relax!

:smile:

Reply 5

Spacecam

15

Rosicky88

forgot the anon mask, did we?

What?

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Triplet1

Maybe you should just wait until you get there and see him. text him as usual as you would tonight.... he could just busy and you could just be getting a bit paranoid.

I probably would just go over but i need to know if i have to collect his housekeys off him or if his flatmate will be in. I don't want to turn up at his for him to be at work and his flatmate out, plus i would need to know what time he'd be at work to pick up the keys.

Anyway yeh i'll probably text him as i would and see what happens.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Spacecam

What?

Nah, i forgot to hit anonymous and posted, but then deleted it :P

Reply 8

Wazzz

dont text him, wait for him to get in touch unless it is final that you are going to meet and stuff..
just don't be to available, thats the main thing i would say..
if you talk to him tomorrow and he sounds a bit *woohoo* then stop calling and let him call you instead :smile:

Reply 9

CarpetMonster

Its probably nothing, he may just be low on credit, don't make this into a big thing or you could just end up insulting him.

I would just give him a quick ring tomorrow before you set off to tell him you're about to leave. If he tells you not to bother, then I would then worry about it!

Reply 10

generalebriety

16

Oh my god why is it so ****ing important that you get texted at least once every two days.

Maybe his mother's died. Or maybe he's accidentally fallen into the sofa. Or maybe, just maybe, he's busy or has no credit or something perfectly innocent.

Reply 11

Zafda

8

Anonymous

Basically i usually spend weekends at my boyfriends, so when i left on monday things seemed fine, we kissed said we loved eachother and i said i would see him on friday.

Anyway, i texted him on monday evening (didn't expect/want a reply) and went to sleep. I didn't get a text off him till wednesday morning (after i'd sent another asking how work was). Now I'm due to go there tomorrow evening and spend my reading week with him BUT i'm not sure if he wants me there any more.

Basically he would usually text me at least every other day but usually every night after work, this week i've had one text. I sent him a short one this morning telling him about something which had happened and i haven't had a reply. (also he would usually be on msn, but he hasn't been on at all this week)

I'm starting to feel almost like he doesn't want me to go at the weekend?

What i want to know is which would be the better option out of these two:

1. I text him tonight before i go to bed asking what time would be cool to come down tomorrow, just a general text.

2. i wait and see if he's texted me when i wake up tomorrow (he sometimes works till late) and if not i ask if he does actually want me to come over?

I'm not sure which would be best as i've texted him more than he's texted me this week and i don't want to seem pushy at all.

why text? call.
but option 1 is better, mind you there is a chance he won't reply.
thats why i rely more on phone calls..

Reply 12

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Try not being so clingy, and he might actually WANT to get in touch rather than dreading hearing from you.

Reply 13

silverbolt

19

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Try not being so clingy, and he might actually WANT to get in touch rather than dreading hearing from you.

i think every male and some feeling knows that feeling, just go to his on friday and egt a grip

Reply 14

username47781

20

He is probably just busy or doesn't have any credit.

Reply 15

Anonymous #2

I don't think you're in the wrong OP, no one is. I think you should wait for him to text you because the more you text him and the less he texts you will result in you only hearing from him if you text him, trust me this will happen. This crap happened to me a while ago and alot of the time people worry for no reason but it's always best talking about it with ur bf rather than thinking too much and do something you may regret.

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