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    So I've been with this girl around 3 months now and I recently told her that I love her however she does not feel the same or isn't at that point yet. I'm so heartbroken because I was convinced she did.

    Did I say this too soon? I can't help how I feel though.
    Should I have told her?


    We are still together and she makes me so happy as I to her. She tells me things like she misses me or is going to miss me whenever we are apart and how she really does care about me and has strong feelings for me. She always asks for kisses when we're out in public and cuddles.

    Do I just have to play the waiting game? Does it sound like she is close to where I am right now?
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    If you're still okay with being friends with her, remain so. You may have jumped the gun on your feelings, if you confess them and your partner doesn't, you're bound to feel unhappy. So yeah, just wait till she says the same (but make sure you don't do anything that makes her lose those feelings)
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    I think a lot of people don't give themselves up very easily for reasons of self preservation which you can totally understand. I think if the guy I loved told me they loved me I probably wouldn't dive right in I'd be completely suspicious and question whether I'm lovable and all crazy kinds of **** before I even thought about saying that I loved anyone.

    I have no idea what she's thinking. I literally could be from oh not sure to I feel the same but can't say it. For the time being don't make any assumptions because she hasn't left you yet I think you'll just have to work out her feelings as time goes on. Try not to get overly lovey dovey and just be your normal self because obviously somethings working as she's still seeing you.

    Edit: Sorry just realised that you said she doesn't like me like that or isn't at the place yet. Are you taking that from her having said these things or because she didn't say it back
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    No drop the hoe. She either isn't THAT into you, or there is someone else that she likes I'm afraid to say buddy. Chin up
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    (Original post by Ebony19)
    I think a lot of people don't give themselves up very easily for reasons of self preservation which you can totally understand. I think if the guy I loved told me they loved me I probably wouldn't dive right in I'd be completely suspicious and question whether I'm lovable and all crazy kinds of **** before I even thought about saying that I loved anyone.

    I have no idea what she's thinking. I literally could be from oh not sure to I feel the same but can't say it. For the time being don't make any assumptions because she hasn't left you yet I think you'll just have to work out her feelings as time goes on. Try not to get overly lovey dovey and just be your normal self because obviously somethings working as she's still seeing you.

    Edit: Sorry just realised that you said she doesn't like me like that or isn't at the place yet. Are you taking that from her having said these things or because she didn't say it back
    I'm guessing because she didn't say it back.
    Basically after I said it she just said she felt really bad because she couldn't say it back.

    I think you're right, I may have said it a bit early, I just hope I haven't ruined things. It's been my first gf in quite a while so may be that's a reason I'm falling quickly.

    I'm being my normal collective-self and maybe it's all in my head and she is just contempt with knowing my love for her rather than having negative thoughts... I don't want to bring it up again to ask her lol.

    Would you recommend leaving it as it's been said and just carry on?
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    I'm guessing because she didn't say it back.
    Basically after I said it she just said she felt really bad because she couldn't say it back.

    I think you're right, I may have said it a bit early, I just hope I haven't ruined things. It's been my first gf in quite a while so may be that's a reason I'm falling quickly.

    I'm being my normal collective-self and maybe it's all in my head and she is just contempt with knowing my love for her rather than having negative thoughts... I don't want to bring it up again to ask her lol.

    Would you recommend leaving it as it's been said and just carry on?
    Yeah I'd recommend leaving it as it's been and just see how things develop. Or maybe step back a tiny bit so as not to overcrowd her and just to show that it's difficult for you now that you've shown her how you feel. But yeah still see her and just see how you get on.
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    Thanks for your help Ebony.

    Has anyone else been in this situation? Maybe had their partner say it back to them at a later date?
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    I recently told her that I love her however she does not feel the same or isn't at that point yet.....the saddest thing ive ever heard
 
 
 
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