Jealousy

Ive been chatting to this girl a lot since i arrived at uni, and we've really been getting along well. We even kissed at a club a week or so ago, although in the morning we had an awkward chat about it and decided that as we hadnt known each other long that we would stay just friends for now at least. However, the last few days she has seemed a bit more distant with me, although that could just be my imagination. The problem is this: last night i was in a club with a few of my friends and she was there too, and then one of my best mates put his arm around her, and they were holding hands while they were sitting together. Nothing else past that happened, so it shouldnt have mattered a great deal, but i felt really very angry with my mate, and i think she knew it too when she looked over at me, even though (i think) i saw a look of guiltiness in her eyes.

My question is this then: Do I have any right to be jealous and angry with my friend for such a small action, when im not even going out with her (given that he doesnt know we kissed the other week). And if i do have the right to feel this way, should i act on it i.e. tell him that i like her and to get his hands off??

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

No, of course you don't. If there was anything going on [edit: between you and her] the person you would have the right to be angry with is her, but she's made it perfectly clear there isn't anything going on, maybe specifically because she wants to go out with him over you, maybe not. That's no one's fault - not yours, not his, not hers.

Reply 2

Ben Dover the Lollipop Man

14

yes u have the right to angry, no1 can stop u for that, but you sudnt be angry because you 2 are not going out. 2ndly if its affecting u that much, have a talk with her, see wat she thinks of it and how u 2 can actually sort it out instead of u being jealous everytime u see her with another man.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

get a life...

you want her go for her.... if not go back to your dungeon and make a million on computers

Reply 4

Zafda

8

Anonymous

Ive been chatting to this girl a lot since i arrived at uni, and we've really been getting along well. We even kissed at a club a week or so ago, although in the morning we had an awkward chat about it and decided that as we hadnt known each other long that we would stay just friends for now at least. However, the last few days she has seemed a bit more distant with me, although that could just be my imagination. The problem is this: last night i was in a club with a few of my friends and she was there too, and then one of my best mates put his arm around her, and they were holding hands while they were sitting together. Nothing else past that happened, so it shouldnt have mattered a great deal, but i felt really very angry with my mate, and i think she knew it too when she looked over at me, even though (i think) i saw a look of guiltiness in her eyes.

My question is this then: Do I have any right to be jealous and angry with my friend for such a small action, when im not even going out with her (given that he doesnt know we kissed the other week). And if i do have the right to feel this way, should i act on it i.e. tell him that i like her and to get his hands off??

did your friend know how much you like this girl?
you do have a reason to be upset, i know what it feels like, but then again until you're both an item you really can't do much about it,
mind you if your friend knew how much you liked her, its pretty grim from his side to do what he did.

don't take it to heart, just make sure next time its you who puts your arm around her/holds her hand =]

Reply 5

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

get a life...

you want her go for her.... if not go back to your dungeon and make a million on computers

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