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i don't get this..
i don't know whether many of you read my post about my boyfriend becoming the worlds number 1 jackass when he started uni, and left me with the excuse that i was too immature, but now i'm getting confused by the emails he sends me.
well, i say emails, there have only been two. one had an album on it, and the other also had an album on it, but also said this;
>Hope you're OK Clare. I do want to stay in touch
>
if you break up with someone, then surely you don't want to talk to them, see them, speak to them, email them, text them or have any sort of contact with them?
i don't know how to read this. i don't want to see or speak to him yet because the wounds are too still fresh and, yeah ok, he wants to stay in touch, but how can you when all you can think about is either how much you want to be with this person, or how much you absolutally hate the bastard?
i know it's only 2 sentences, but i haven't spoken to him in a week and then this just totally arrives out of the blue at 3am. why would he be thinking about me at 3am? how am i meant to reply to this?
cheers.
well, i say emails, there have only been two. one had an album on it, and the other also had an album on it, but also said this;
>Hope you're OK Clare. I do want to stay in touch
>
if you break up with someone, then surely you don't want to talk to them, see them, speak to them, email them, text them or have any sort of contact with them?
i don't know how to read this. i don't want to see or speak to him yet because the wounds are too still fresh and, yeah ok, he wants to stay in touch, but how can you when all you can think about is either how much you want to be with this person, or how much you absolutally hate the bastard?
i know it's only 2 sentences, but i haven't spoken to him in a week and then this just totally arrives out of the blue at 3am. why would he be thinking about me at 3am? how am i meant to reply to this?
cheers.
Reply 1
Maybe he's having second thoughts.
Sucker!
He screwed up. If you're considering taking him back, at least let him grovel a lot first
Sucker!
He screwed up. If you're considering taking him back, at least let him grovel a lot first
Reply 2
He's just got in from a club, didn't manage to pull, so has a desperate at trying to get you back. Ignore it.
Reply 3
Possibly a drunken thing at 3am. I do far too many of those. But...perhaps just reply explaining that yes you do wish to keep in touch but for now, you'd like to keep your distance a little, to give you time to get over what happened. That way he may get the message but it still leaves it open to talk once again in the future 
Reply 5
Well replace 'club' for any other appropriate social gathering.
Reply 6
OllieA
Well replace 'club' for any other appropriate social gathering.
Or perhaps he's had an argument with his current girlfriend and cant get some action?
Reply 7
okay, well either way, your reply shouldn't change much. But you should reply, but briefly
Reply 9
indeed.
Reply 10
People can also just want to be friends after they break up with someone. Maybe he feels that whilst he doesnt like you in the way needed for him to want you as a girlfriend, he would still like to be your friend.
Reply 12
Sounds like he's on a guilt trip to me.
Reply 14
He's feeling guilty i think, but don't take that idiot back.
Reply 15
how judgemental are you guys?
maybe he just wants to keep in touch, if he's been out with her for 2 years maybe she does mean something to him rather than him forgetting she existed
it doesn't mean he's trying to get her back, guys are direct, if he wanted her back he would say it
maybe he just wants to keep in touch, if he's been out with her for 2 years maybe she does mean something to him rather than him forgetting she existed
it doesn't mean he's trying to get her back, guys are direct, if he wanted her back he would say it
He's probably trying to minimize damage and make himself look good. Read 'Hi Claire, I still am interested in you but not in *that* way. I want to make sure that you are okay and also give the impression that I am not a heartless cad as I have read H&R on TSR and know that you think I am a **** for breaking up with you. But I don't want you to think of me like that because I don't like people not liking me.'
Once you've done it yourself it becomes easier to understand :
:
Once you've done it yourself it becomes easier to understand :
:Reply 18
If he's sent you a one line e-mail you probably should know what he means. I'm sure he doesnt want to in a relationship with you anymore (from your previous thread and this one) but he still wants to talk with you and hang out. If that makes sense.
MagicNMedicine
how judgemental are you guys?
maybe he just wants to keep in touch, if he's been out with her for 2 years maybe she does mean something to him rather than him forgetting she existed
it doesn't mean he's trying to get her back, guys are direct, if he wanted her back he would say it
maybe he just wants to keep in touch, if he's been out with her for 2 years maybe she does mean something to him rather than him forgetting she existed
it doesn't mean he's trying to get her back, guys are direct, if he wanted her back he would say it
My thoughts exactly.
Although Maag101 could also have a point.
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