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Should I do it or is it to soon?

Purple-Sparkle

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Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Why not? At this stage, you're still only friends. Nothing to lose. If it develops, then fine - don't rush things, but if you feel you're ready then who are we to tell you you're not?

Reply 2

Rosicky88

only you know if you're ready to move on......

but personally, your old bf sounds like a bit of a prick - so yeah do it!

Reply 3

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

5

Go for it!

Reply 4

'Invictus'

Don't do it, he's an escaped criminal who's impersonating your friend in order to get you alone.

Reply 5

Sam Beckett

7

www.hotornot.com is not an adult website.

Reply 6

Sam Beckett

7

£3.29 for one month.

You started crying and saying 'I'm telling my mum' when I tried to leave...I'd had enough. There's only so much one man can take :tongue:

Reply 7

Jonquil

10

sam stop tormenting her! tut tut!!

Reply 8

Zafda

8

Purple-Sparkle

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year just over a week ago because he was planning to cheat on me with a girl he met on the net. He joined an adult website just to look for sex with someone else basically. He really hurt me and I was very depressed but now I am starting to feel better. I know I can do better and have been convinced I can :smile:

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Anyway, I like this guy who I've been friends with since April and he basically feels the same. Just wondering if I should let him come round Sunday evening? I've not seen him in a while. He's going to bring a DVD for us to watch and a bottle of wine. I know him well by the way so I don't think hes only after one thing. Also is it to early because its not long since I broke up with the swine?

Thanks

go for it i say.
no point in sticking around for someone who's evidently a piece of no good stuff..

Reply 9

sophierw

1

He already sounds like he cares for you more than your boyfriend ever did. Sure, let him see you. Since you know him, it probably is just an innocent film and bottle of wine. Sounds like he just wants to be a friend to you now that you really need one

Reply 10

Eb

1

Purple-Sparkle

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year just over a week ago because he was planning to cheat on me with a girl he met on the net. He joined an adult website just to look for sex with someone else basically. He really hurt me and I was very depressed but now I am starting to feel better. I know I can do better and have been convinced I can :smile:

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Anyway, I like this guy who I've been friends with since April and he basically feels the same. Just wondering if I should let him come round Sunday evening? I've not seen him in a while. He's going to bring a DVD for us to watch and a bottle of wine. I know him well by the way so I don't think hes only after one thing. Also is it to early because its not long since I broke up with the swine?

Thanks

He was planning to cheat on you ? What a loser. Im sorry about that :hugs:

Nah it's not to early... you were friends but... it depends how you feel about the ex person.

For example... you could have been with your ex six months, really loved him, then it would be soon.
You could have been with him ten years [maybe not in your case :p:

] but been unhappy with him for eight of them. No one has the right to say how long is the right lenght of time to wait before moving on. Sometimes, you have to break up with somone to realise that there was nothing there.

I hope everything goes okay for you :hugs:

Eb x

Reply 11

Sheen

11

i say go for it as the guy you went out with sounds a like fool and you deserve to be happy after all that.

Reply 12

username47781

20

Nothing wrong with having a friend round, but don't rush straight into anything heavy.

Reply 13

Electric

My friend's boyfriend did exactly the same thing, joined hot or not and dating websites. They are no longer together and she is severely depressed due to the lack of trust and respect. Can't believe someone is so sad to subscribe to hot or not, lmfao.

Reply 14

LadyEnglish

2

If you're ready, what's the prob? Aslong as you're sure you're not doing it as subconscious way to get back at your ex x

Reply 15

ciara

13

I think you should let him come over, it's not necessarily too soon. I think when your ex has done something like that and you know you have to make a clean break it can actually be easier to move on. However, make sure you do actually like your friend and it's not a classic rebound scenario. I mean, he's your friend so I'm sure he's lovely but do you definitely want him in that way? Don't confuse wanting to be affectionate with someone with a genuine attraction. I'm not saying you are, I just remember when I broke up with my boyfriend I was a bit of a mess and thought I liked all sorts of people who I eventually realised that I didn't.

Should I do it or is it to soon?

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