Love hurts

Help.....
im in love with my best friend, she has no idea, i'd do anything for her and everything revolves around her, i'd die for her and give everything up for her but can never have her cos we've established that she doesn't feel the same way... how can i get over her? it's killing me and has been for 6 years.

Reply 1

Gem

14

If it's 'killing you' then you need to tell her, irrelevant of the outcome, you need to get it of your chest so you can either be together of you can move on.

Reply 2

gbduo

15

Yeh you do need to tell her...put it this way, i told my best friend the same thing and we had both been hiding our feelings for months afraid to tell each other. We have now been in a relationship for a little while!

You just never know!

Good luck matey!

Graham

Reply 3

Gio

3

Anonymous

Help.....
im in love with my best friend, she has no idea, i'd do anything for her and everything revolves around her, i'd die for her and give everything up for her but can never have her cos we've established that she doesn't feel the same way... how can i get over her? it's killing me and has been for 6 years.

dude, i feel the same at the mo. only that I dont know if she likes me.....

Reply 4

lil one

2

awww..i kinda know how you feel :hugs:

if she's said she doesn't like you, you can't keep going on, or she's going to get a bit annoyed..but you absbolutely will get over her, especially if you find someone else. I don't really have any advice to be honest, just I know it feels crap and hurts a lot, :hugs:

goodluck xx

Reply 5

anjurdsg

11

bummer

Reply 6

Snide

1

I don't understand the concept of dying for someone else. Surely you'd rather stay alive, let her die and just mourn over her memory, than die yourself, knowing in your final moments that in a few months time she'll have forgotten about you, and will wake up next to another guy. Maybe two of them.

Reply 7

supernova2

11

dw hes emo

Reply 8

lil one

2

I absbolutely cannot wait till all these emotional teenage days are over and I'm all settled down and married with someone amazing. Cause right now all this just hurts too much :frown:

Reply 9

gbduo

15

Snide

I don't understand the concept of dying for someone else. Surely you'd rather stay alive, let her die and just mourn over her memory, than die yourself, knowing in your final moments that in a few months time she'll have forgotten about you, and will wake up next to another guy. Maybe two of them.

Lol, your sacrificing the most precious thing to you, life to save someone else who you deeply care about, or are paid enough money to deeply care about! lol!

I understand and would take the bullet for my gf certainly, if i could throw her out of the road and I get hit by the bus so be it. At least she can live and have a decent life and i be remembered a hero.
Graham

Reply 10

Snide

1

What's more selfless than granting her the gift of death, liberating her from life and all the woes and affliction associated with it? Furthermore, you'd be saving her from the sheer torment of losing you.

It's the ultimate act of selflessness.

Reply 11

gbduo

15

Yes, but she will learn to live with your death and go on to lead a life, which she wouldn't be able to do otherwise.

Life is a bitch, but most of us live with that, and i most of us end up happy and content with life's woes and affliction and would rather be alive and coping with that than dead!

Lets get back onto topic.

Graham

Reply 12

History_is...

6

If you really have established she doesnt feel the same way ignore the people saying tell her how you feel - it will only drive her away and cost you the friendship. Instead find someone new to obsess over (not meant to sound rude Lol) its so fun chasing a new crush this will seem insignificant, and if you are happy with someone else you can then be happy with the friendship you have with this girl. xxx

Reply 13

kam

10

Just tell her how you feel.
She'll either say that she isn't interested, which might be what you need to hear again, to move on...or that she is, which is better.

Reply 14

carefree_sloth

kam

Just tell her how you feel.
She'll either say that she isn't interested, which might be what you need to hear again, to move on...or that she is, which is better.

There's nothing you can do at the moment, except to tell her how you feel towards her. If she has the same feelings as you, great! If not, you need to move on. Good luck! :biggrin:

Reply 15

Ghetto_Princess12

I have you spoke to her about this? If not then I think you should consider thinking long and hard before you make your thoughts clear to her because if you don’t then it could just deteriorate matters further and could possibly damage the friendship you already have with her. We’ve all been in that position where we might love someone but due to circumstances we can’t be with them. If she does say no then don’t be disappointed carry on with what you have left with even at the extent of hurting your feelings. If your heart is set on this person then hang around and let it come unexpected.

Reply 16

Carreh

2

Tell her. If you are really close friends then if she doesnt feel the same then things will find a way of sorting themselves out. Well at least it did for me anyway :smile:

Reply 17

lilac!!

15

Anonymous

Help.....
im in love with my best friend, she has no idea, i'd do anything for her and everything revolves around her, i'd die for her and give everything up for her but can never have her cos we've established that she doesn't feel the same way... how can i get over her? it's killing me and has been for 6 years.

look u need to tell her, i mean u dont anything for sure until u tell her. And ya ur right, it hurts big time, espically if ur in a relationship and u feel one person makes all the effort and the other doesnt, they just expect you to be there when u need them but when u do, there no were to be seen.

just tell her and as they say time heals eveything

Reply 18

username30638

13

Snide

I don't understand the concept of dying for someone else. Surely you'd rather stay alive, let her die and just mourn over her memory, than die yourself, knowing in your final moments that in a few months time she'll have forgotten about you, and will wake up next to another guy. Maybe two of them.

Oh for Christ's sake, it's just a figure of speech. Of course he wouldn't actually die for her, he's just trying to give an idea of how deeply he feels for her.

To the OP; I know how you feel, I've been in that situation far too many times myself. You have to tell her, there's no two ways about it. If she doesn't feel the same, too bad. At least you'll know, and even though it will still be painful for a while, you will be able to move on without constantly thinking how things could have been.

Equally there's always a chance that she feels the same way, even if it doesn't seem that way at the moment. You will simply never know unless you ask.

Reply 19

Princess In Disguise

tell me about it...lor'

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