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Ok this might sound a little odd, but I really like girl Im friends with and the thing is I know she likes really skinny or really slim guys (I saw a pic of this guy she went out with, well a couple of guys she went out with and they were both very skinny btw) and the thing is I haven't seen her for a while kind of intentionally cause I wanted to lose some weight before I see her & get skinny so I'll have a better chance of developing things with her & making her like me physically.
The trouble is its taking me longer then I expected etc. to get the way I think she would like me and it means Im essentially going to be putting off meeting her again for like a month and a half, probably longer
should I meet her beforehand and still hang out with her as friends until I can get myself into a shape I think she'll like?
The trouble is its taking me longer then I expected etc. to get the way I think she would like me and it means Im essentially going to be putting off meeting her again for like a month and a half, probably longer
should I meet her beforehand and still hang out with her as friends until I can get myself into a shape I think she'll like?Reply 1
No one wants to go out with someone unfriendly. Go and see her. And if she doesn't fall for you, oh well.
Reply 2
14
I don't mean to be insensitive, but surely if you were meant for each other, don't you think she would accept you the way you are. Anyway, has she explicitly said "i ONLY go out with skinny guys"? i high doubt it. It could just be that so far, all the guys she's found to get on with, like etc. have happened to be skinny!
DEFINITELY meet up with her! there's really no point in not...
DEFINITELY meet up with her! there's really no point in not...
Reply 3
1
I hope you mean you're over-weight and not average sort of weight and you're trying to look like those anorexic scene kids trying to fit into girls jeans. It's a serious bad look and some of them barely have the enrgy to stand. No girl is worth jeopardising your health for at the stage you're at with her.
Reply 4
aw, just meet her. If shes that shallow that she acts wierd around you because of your weight shes not worth it.
Reply 5
1
Ima fatteh 
If she don't like you as are
Reply 6
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 7
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 8
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 9
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 10
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 11
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 12
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 13
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment I dont really know what to do.
And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
The other thing is I am quite good friends with her & I think I've developed my friendship with her as far as it will go sort of thing, like she tells me stuff in confidence & has talked about very deep personal and important stuff to her, I just dont think I could achieve anymore with her from just hanging around as friends, its gr8 to hang around with her, I love being with her even if its just as friends but I cant relax cause I want more & just feel like I cant have it any other way, I honestly dont think she would like me the way I look at the moment
I dont really know what to do.And btw I do have a little bit of weight on me at the mom so its even more difficult, I have to go from being a little bit overweight to slim nd then to skinny, and also I am doing it the healthy eating/exercise way rather then the fad diet method which is why it is unfortunately going to take a while, probably 2-3 months, do u think if I didn't meet up with her for that length of time and just phoned/txted her and dodged meeting up she would think I was being unfriendly/off nd weird with her? plus christmas is coming nd I have to give her her present it wont mean that much after christmas god this is such a mess....
Reply 14
wtf dude? Was your finger spasming or something?
Reply 15
lol.
I want to be nice and say just meet her, if its meant to be she'll like you but life doesnt work this way.
Most people form opinions of their first impressions. If she hasnt met you yet or has only had a little contact and you really like her youd probably be better off being average weight. Im not saying girls are shallow its just for example say I meet an overweight girl, I will pretty much immediately not look at her in a kind of going out way. People are naturally more interested and want to find out more about people they find attractive and as bad as it sounds, average/slightly below average size people look better, fit clothes better and generally are more attractive. ps. if you really want to lose weight quickly, just exercies more and stuff urself with water so your not hungry
I want to be nice and say just meet her, if its meant to be she'll like you but life doesnt work this way.
Most people form opinions of their first impressions. If she hasnt met you yet or has only had a little contact and you really like her youd probably be better off being average weight. Im not saying girls are shallow its just for example say I meet an overweight girl, I will pretty much immediately not look at her in a kind of going out way. People are naturally more interested and want to find out more about people they find attractive and as bad as it sounds, average/slightly below average size people look better, fit clothes better and generally are more attractive. ps. if you really want to lose weight quickly, just exercies more and stuff urself with water so your not hungry
Reply 16
Anonymous
Thx for your advice, but let me clarify that the thing is that she is really busy at the moment with various things like work and studying so its not like she's asking me to meet up with her lol, she just relies on me asking her to meet up so I dont think she'd be too bothered or anything, plus she has loads of other friends male and otherwise to hang out with in the little bit of free time she does have.
That doesn't mean she won't think you're being weird with her. Just because she has a lot of friends, doesn't mean they're not all individuals and she won't miss one of them. She might. Don't let it be you.
Also, do not endanger your health - and it's up to you to find out what endangering your health actually involves.
Reply 17
BeesKnees
wtf dude? Was your finger spasming or something?
Quite impressive, really. Posted five times in one minute, despite the 30-second rule. I suspect TSR = choking.
Reply 18
Changing what you look like so you can attract one specific person is a bad idea.
Reply 19
are you sure she definately only likes skinny guys? coz i used to go out with a skinny guy, he never used to eat at all. it was so not sexy. he would take me out for meals and order something then leave it all. now im not fat or anything but god i love my food. and he used to make me feel bad for eating it all (omg i cant believe you ate ALL your (individual portion) pizza BY YOURSELF!) and also, really bony hips = painful! i think that his obsession with my food made us break up. now im into big beefy sportsmen coz they dont moan when i order a dessert so maybe this girl and her ex split up over something like that? maybe shes moving on to normal size/bigger guys? so give it a go, eat heathily and be yourself. because the right person is there somewhere! xXx
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