Unclear about what he wants.

Right basically, I met a guy at the beginning of September after being introduced by a mutual friend. I was going on holiday the next day but we kissed, exchanged numbers and that was that. Then when I got back he text me to ask me how I was and that he really liked me blah blah blah. The day after I got back he was working in Ireland so we were texting while he was there and then met up the day he got back. He ended up at myn that night, we didn't sleep together we just cuddled. The problem is he's majorly insecure and keeps going on about how I can't like him and that I deserve better etc etc. At first is was pretty flattering but now it just makes me majorly uncomfortable. So anyhow we've been meeting up on nights out, been on dates etc etc.

A few days ago I asked him to stay in myn for the night on friday as my housemates had all gone home so we had the place to ourselves. Anyway, he kept talking about how he was looking forward to it etc. So yesterday I text him around 3pm ish to ask if we were still on for the night and he never text back. Instead he rang me at 9ish but as I was so pissed off he left me in the lurch so i went out and left my phone at home. Anyway, he rang again later and his excuse was he didn't get my text until 9 but surely if he knew he was supposed to be seeing me he'd of realised I was going to text him to arrange something..?

So, I just some general opinions on whether or not i'm wasting my time on this guy and I should just cut my loses and steer clear? I've only just come out of a LTR and so i'm not all too fussed about being with someone just for the sake of it.

Reply 1

evil groove

I must say he sounds a bit odd. Going from your post, you clearly don't trust him, so if I were you I would ask myself why I wanted him to spend the night anyway?

Reply 2

Creepy

Give him another chance - if he blows it the 2nd time then steer clear.

Reply 3

floss

he might be telling the truth..

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

He possibly was telling the truth, however I know he always has his phone in his jeans pocket. Much to my annoyance half the time.

I know this sounds pathetic and incrediably over the top girlie reaction. It's just he's blow hot and cold so much, one minute he's telling me how amazing and I am and the next he's avoiding me. I really can't keep up nor see what he's trying to achieve.

Reply 5

Nutter

Yeah give the man some space; it seems unreasonable to act in such a reactionary manner on such an issue, which could possibly be genuine.

Also note that this could very well be infatuation since you've only met a couple of times, so don't commit yourself too much to anything until you're very sure about your feelings towards each other (that it goes beyond physical attraction, etc.).

Reply 6

alexdg

I agree give him a second chance, maybe its his first 'time' in which case he might just be S***ing himself? Give it one more try.... then run lol

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