How not to be creep.

apple1992

There is this girl is added on Facebook before Christmas, this is just a random add. We do go to the same uni, and have a mutual friend.
The day she accepted me as a friend she did like my profile picture so i liked hers back.

Would it be creepy if I just message her saying hi.
I think it would.
Are there any alternative ways of talking to her?

Reply 1

StartingTheParty

Aww, just send her a message saying "hi"! The worst she can do is not reply, haha. Just ask how her course is going, exams, etc. etc.

Reply 2

Truflais

Original post by apple1992

Nah it wouldn't be creepy. Just message her asking how she is, maybe ask how she knows your mutual friend or something.

Reply 3

SHBK

Saying 'Hi' isn't creepy. I remember when I could wish everyone a Good Morning and receive a pleased reply. Now I get awkward looks.

Reply 4

apple1992

Original post by Precious Illusions

Nah it wouldn't be creepy. Just message her asking how she is, maybe ask how she knows your mutual friend or something.

Original post by StartingTheParty

Aww, just send her a message saying "hi"! The worst she can do is not reply, haha. Just ask how her course is going, exams, etc. etc.

If I just say "hello (insert name). then just causally reply.

I just really want to know people around uni.

Reply 5

517340

Original post by apple1992

If I just say "hello (insert name). then just causally reply.

I just really want to know people around uni.

"Hello <name>" sounds a little too formal in my opinion, a "Hi!" or "Hey!" with an opening question is friendlier.

Basically if you want to talk, start a conversation with a question, otherwise what is there to talk about with a total stranger?

Reply 6

Retired_Messiah

Original post by Ruthless Dutchman

This.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 7

apple1992

Original post by Ruthless Dutchman

thank you some great advice.
what sort of open questions should I ask?
what would you do?

Reply 8

CarpeDiem.

Well, i dunno. I don't think you should though. Idk it's up to you.
You could try commenting on her facebook status
Like, if her status is an opinion about something and/or something that is of her interest. That's the thing about statuses. People expect comments.

A 'Hi' out of nowhere from someone you don't really know is kinda weird tbh

Reply 9

Octohedral

Not being a creep is just about being able to read signals, and not seem too intense. It's basically impossible to be creepy if you act casual.

Reply 10

bobsta10

If you can, I would say approach her at uni first. After you have actually spoken, it would make an online conversation less awkward.

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Reply 11

Kvothe the Arcane

I'd prefer someone to say hi than to just exist on my friend's list.

Reply 12

apple1992

Original post by bobsta10

If you can, I would say approach her at uni first. After you have actually spoken, it would make an online conversation less awkward.

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never seen her in person

Reply 13

username927016

If anything it is more "creepy" adding her in the first place, now she's accepted & even liked you pic & I think the coast is clear to initiate a convo with her. Just be polite & say how are you? How's your day been? Talk about what she's studying etc & go from there really :smile: