A guy with a crappy personality

This guy I met (through a friend) has been very friendly towards me for the last couple of months and finally told me that he liked me a few weeks ago and asked me out. He was really sweet and kind so I decided to have a shot with him. We went to Pizza Hut and had a super time. Co-incidentally we both like drinking ice cream with staws.

Anyway, I thought he was very sweet and kind, especially because when he talks, he makes it very much sound like he is listening and taking an interest in what I am saying, but also giving his point of view without being aggressive when he disagrees, and making a lot of conversations light-hearted even when talking about serious matters. I really liked him and thought that I could see us go somewhere which was a good thing because it seemed as if we both wanted a serious relationship.

I thought that he was the perfect kind of person, intelligent, sweet, kind, gentle, thoughtful etc. and he even drove me to a cafe far away which I said once that I loved, because there were none of them in our area.

Unfortunately I saw a different side to him and started to question his respect for girls. A few weeks ago, he was with his friends in the common room chatting and I don't usually go there, but I had to meet someone to lend them my notes. I waited outside next to the door (but you can hear everything inside because of the bad quality wooden doors). His group of friends were unable to see me, but I could hear them. I don't like his loud "gangster" friends to be honest, so I didn't want to go in and say hi to him. The person who was meant to borrow my notes made me wait for 15 minutes :mad:

which gave me enough time to hear the conversation going on behind the door.
It went something like

guy's friend #1: she likes it all romantic, none of the dirty stuff, it's a shame man (laugh)
guy's friend #2: yeah you should have done Michelle innit?
guy's friend #1: serious? (laugh)
guy's friend #3: (laugh) I heard bare stuff about her.
The guy: (laugh) yeah man.
guy's friend #3 (to the guy): innit, she such a y'know. You could do everything, y'know what I'm sayin;....
The guy (to friend#1): yeah it's a shame they have to be like clueless, or as dirty as a ho. Just do both of them innit! (laugh)
friends: (laugh)
guy's friend #2: yeah not like she your wife.

Then I felt the need to throw up, so I just left. How could someone be like that? I feel as if he's so fake and by the sound of the conversation I don't think he's told any of his friends that we were seeing each other.

He has not called me since last week, but we have talked online, and I was still friendly with him, I didn't bring up the fact that I over heard his conversation. It would make me sound like a stalker-girlfriend and he would probably spread things about me to his friends, which I really do not want!

What should I do? When we went out it seemed as if we were in a perfect relationship, and I have no real reason to break up with him. I do not feel as if I can bring up the conversation I overheard because he wouldn't believe me as I never go to the common room and he would ask why I didn't say hi to him. I can't just say "I don't like your friends" because I feel as if that would upset him even more and the whole thing will be blown out of proportion.

What should I do? Any advice?

I'm going to eat some ice cream now. :frown:

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Reply 40

jess_n

Personally... iv known people like it b4.... u put 1 person in a place with 1 type of people then take them out and put them in another situation they act differently again...... female its different... coz we dont tend to take the piss outta each other as much as males do....some males do it to look good and get one above their mate, its like u wudnt catch a guy talkin about really really likin this lass.... u get him tlkin about how he wants to have sex with that lass... if u get me...

I dont think he means owt by it , itll just be the way his friendship group is... id just stick with it coz if ure questionin and havent said rite stop i dont wanna b with u wen it made u feel that bad then u obviously must like him.....

If it keeps botherin u say summat if , if he flips and refuses to explain maybe then u should be questionin whether u wanan b with him or not

GOOD LUCK ... he seem like a nice guy to me ..just one that tryin to be one of the lads wen hes with the lads.

x

Reply 41

hippieglitter

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Tiny cock, crap in bed, good for a while until someone better comes along, etc.

I don't understand girls who stay in a relationship if they are waiting for somebody better to come along when they could enjoy being single until that 'somebody better' comes along.

Reply 42

LadyEnglish

Do you ever change slightly to fit in with different people?! Sounds like his friends are idiots but he still wants to keep them as friends and so he goes along with what they are saying. You think his friends might think badly of you, if he says something totally against what his friends are saying e.g 'she's not that bad' they may stray away from him for not being 'like them' anymore.
I would tell him I heard, it's not like you went to the common room to listen to him but you have to ask why he was like that. He sounds like a nice guy but perhaps his personality with his friends is the real one, and he's different with you perhaps because of what his friends say about you...
Just tell him you heard, see what he has to say. Good luck x

Reply 43

Creepy

I change dependant on who I am hanging around with - I don't mean harm by it, it's just how i act.

Guys talk like that all the time, he seems nice & maybe just putting a show on for his friends.

Reply 44

squigaletta

Even though I try not to act differently around different people, I can't help but act reeeeally different around my bf. Thats simply because I am so much more at ease with him, and I can be so much more myself with him.

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