I constantly have the feeling that im standing in front of millions of people and everyones looking at me. You know the nervous butterflies you get in your stomach? I have it all the time, its like a dropping feeling, constantly. I feel empty, i cant see the good in anything, i just always want to be asleep, so i dont have to face the world. Im surrounded by so many people, but i still feel so alone. Its been going on for the past 2 months. Ive had to deal with alot in the past 2 months, and ever since, i just dont feel okay, i keep telling myself it will pass, its not passing,
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- 15-01-2015 23:56
What is the actual reason for your sadness, you will need to tackle that first in order for things to change
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- 15-01-2015 23:57
I'm sorry you are having such a hard time!
Thought about going to your GP or talk to anyone about the way you are feeling?
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- 16-01-2015 11:05
I get this do you feel like there's literally nothing out there that can help you, no one that will understand. Feel like so lonely. What you have to do is build in more and more support for yourself. See your GP describe how you feel, get therapy or maybe medication. Spend time with friends that have a positive affect on your mood. Do things you enjoy and are good at.
I know how hard this all is but once you build support around you it'll be easier and you won't feel so alone and unable to handle things.
- 16-01-2015 12:35
Hiya, I'm a Coach & Therapist, I hope this helps you... I've split your text up so that I can comment on all the parts:
(Original post by HelenTheCupcake)
I constantly have the feeling that im standing in front of millions of people and everyones looking at me.
It's common for people to feel that they are being looked at.
You can begin to overcome this by imagining a more positive emotion... As it's the emotional charge of this that causes the problem. Start imagining that you are happy with people looking at you. Imagine and tell yourself how good you are (instead of speaking to yourself negatively.... there are enough people who can say awful things... so we need to learn to, at least, be kind and talk kindly to ourselves, agree?)
You know the nervous butterflies you get in your stomach?
Which way do the feeling spin..... Every time you notice... imagine spinning the feelings the opposite way.
Imagine changing the colour into the best colour that you like.
I have it all the time, its like a dropping feeling, constantly. I feel empty, i cant see the good in anything.
Notice that 'you' are thinking and feeling this way... and you can begin to take control back to pull this back and move toward 'feeling good' more and more.
Ask good questions (that get your brain to give you good answers).
ie.. Do not ask "How much worse will this get" because your brain is wired to find as many answers for you as it can.. and that would re-inforce negative thinking and then bad feelings.
Instead ask, "How can I move forward", "What action can I take now to enjoy my life more, "What do I love to do" (dancing / biking / nature walks etc).... The more things you do that make you happy the more your 'feel good chemicals' will fill your body and the more your mind will start to want this more (instead of giving up / sleeping).
Maybe you need to find 'your purpose' more.... So that you have something real, important and fulfilling to get out of bed for.
Remember foods also that help... eg... bananas have seratonin in etc... keep with natural food more to get your balance back.
, i just always want to be asleep, so i dont have to face the world. Im surrounded by so many people, but i still feel so alone.
There's a difference with being 'with lots of people' and being with 'kind people who truly care about you and aren't scared to get close enough to help you'.... Maybe a re-assessment of who you share your time would help... Sometimes time on our own, perhaps listening to our favourite music, while imagining how you are going to make your life better and where you want to be... can be much more productive. If you do have an one close.... love and hug them more... hugs release more happy chemicals!
Physically chaging your posture also sends better messages to your brain.... If you look up, twiddle your toes and smile, I guarantee your feelings will be happier.... listen to your favourite music whilst imagining how good your life is going to become... even better!
Its been going on for the past 2 months. Ive had to deal with alot in the past 2 months
There are mind techniques that can help you 'switch off' or attach better feelings to 'past experiences'.... Sometimes the best thing abou the past is that it's over... if you can understand there is only 'right now' you can look towards enjoying just being... appreciating nature... meditating is a good way to switch off from 'past things' and also to switch off from present things if necessary... ot help you feel better more and give you some 'rest bite' from your current reality (that will improve the more you focus of it improving'.
With our brains 'What you focus on is what you get'.... and 'What you think is how you feel'.
Remember whatever you think and feel... these are all 'programs' in your head... with millions of neurological connections.... you ARE changable and you can begin to create happier connections NOW... keep going... even a nice stretch in the morning... remembering, especially before bedtime, positives from the day (then you re-programme during your sleep).... this can be your new habit..... remember, with any habit... the more you do it the stronger it becomes.
Remember also, for any more negative talk, thinking.... tell yourself 'stop' and force your self to think.. and FEEL (importantly) a good thing.... new habit!
, and ever since, i just dont feel okay, i keep telling myself it will pass, its not passing, i dont want to be alive, i cant face whatever this is. I just dont know what to do anymore, id do anything to stop feeling like this.
Please keep going..... be determined to bring a better life to yourself.. day by day... one step at a time... be happy whenever you move a step more in this better direction.... praise yourself, it's important... GOOD FEELINGS are important for you!
Please please keep going.... and you can inbox me if you want my help professionally with my full support.
Be determined, force yourself to find more ways that make you feel happy.. The thing is, if you have managed to make yourself so sad.... you also have the amazing capability to make yourself happy, with the same strength... how happy can you be then now!!
Love and hugs!
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