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    Hello everybody,

    I am an 19 year old male studying History at a top five university. I am writing this post as in my 19 years of existence I have never been in a relationship or even had a kiss from a girl.

    Mu problem is that i'm far too shy for my own good. I can't hold a conversation for the life of me and I get so nervous and often start shaking or fiddling with something such as a pen or biting my nails when I am talking to females, both of which I do subconsciously.

    I am a very nice person with very good morales. I have an unassuming dignity, and have time for anyone. I am very helpful and modest about everything I do. A lot of people at my old school came to respect me for this, and my academic record of working very hard.

    People (Girls) have actually said to me that I look very good, nut I always ply it down and the conversation never gets very far. I get a lot of likes on my Facebook profile picture too, I got 43 likes, out of my 120 friends, at least 25 of them were from females.

    My question is how can I possibly become more confident so that I am not always alone?
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    Don't worry about changing.

    When the young women your age are tired of being hurt, they'll come begging for someone like you.
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    (Original post by Simes)
    Don't worry about changing.

    When the young women your age are tired of being hurt, they'll come begging for someone like you.
    I hope so! Although I would like a long term relationship, as I would be devastated if a woman left me for a more confident male, that's also why i'm so scared of dating! The potential heartbreak would really hurt me!
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    (Original post by Simes)
    Don't worry about changing.

    When the young women your age are tired of being hurt, they'll come begging for someone like you.
    I agree with this. If you cannot help but be shy work on that but at a young age women are usually experimenting what their type is and more often than not fall for the guys that are preceived to have 'alpha' qualities such as (over)confidence, unpredictability, assertiveness....

    Of course these guys get attention from a lot of women and knowing guys, will try to have every one of them thus cheating/ taking for granted the women.

    After a while women they learn that this is not what they want and actually look for the nicer people out there such as you. I'd say around the age of 25+ (The age most girls become real women).

    You have all the qualities you need it seems and 6 years to shake off the shyness. Get busy in social activities and such to improve on this.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I hope so! Although I would like a long term relationship, as I would be devastated if a woman left me for a more confident male, that's also why i'm so scared of dating! The potential heartbreak would really hurt me!
    You've got to take your chances in life. Sure, we all risk heartbreak when we enter a relationship. We put our feelings on the line. Even if the relationship does come to an end, though, the experience will teach you, and make you grow as a person, and when you do meet the one who is right for you, you'll appreciate it all the more .
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    Well, that's your fault, meine freund. You are choosing to not have a girlfriend/sex/kisses/love/relationships et cetera. Your problem, not meine.
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    We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.
    - Orson Welles
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    (Original post by Master Jack)
    We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone.
    - Orson Welles
    A clever man, talking cobblers.

    "We're born alone" and immediately thrust upon the nipple of the body that bore us.

    "We live alone" even hermits love people to see them being hermits.

    "We die alone" unless we are in someone's thoughts. Few of us fail to touch someone's heart with a kind word or deed before we go.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello everybody,

    I am an 19 year old male studying History at a top five university. I am writing this post as in my 19 years of existence I have never been in a relationship or even had a kiss from a girl.

    Mu problem is that i'm far too shy for my own good. I can't hold a conversation for the life of me and I get so nervous and often start shaking or fiddling with something such as a pen or biting my nails when I am talking to females, both of which I do subconsciously.

    I am a very nice person with very good morales. I have an unassuming dignity, and have time for anyone. I am very helpful and modest about everything I do. A lot of people at my old school came to respect me for this, and my academic record of working very hard.

    People (Girls) have actually said to me that I look very good, nut I always ply it down and the conversation never gets very far. I get a lot of likes on my Facebook profile picture too, I got 43 likes, out of my 120 friends, at least 25 of them were from females.

    My question is how can I possibly become more confident so that I am not always alone?
    You just have to work on your confidence really, speaking to girls is not to dissimilar to speaking to guys, I know from TSR haha At first it might seem daunting & you might worry too much about making sure you make a good impression but at the end of the day you just have to be you! Put yourself out of your comfort zone speaking to girls with a positive mindset & then through experience you will improve, good luck!
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    (Original post by DerMann)
    Well, that's your fault, meine freund. You are choosing to not have a girlfriend/sex/kisses/love/relationships et cetera. Your problem, not meine.
    Your compassion, empathy and support are …

    … absent.

    Maybe some people do live and die alone, because their heart never reached out to touch another.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hello everybody,

    I am an 19 year old male studying History at a top five university. I am writing this post as in my 19 years of existence I have never been in a relationship or even had a kiss from a girl.

    Mu problem is that i'm far too shy for my own good. I can't hold a conversation for the life of me and I get so nervous and often start shaking or fiddling with something such as a pen or biting my nails when I am talking to females, both of which I do subconsciously.

    I am a very nice person with very good morales. I have an unassuming dignity, and have time for anyone. I am very helpful and modest about everything I do. A lot of people at my old school came to respect me for this, and my academic record of working very hard.

    People (Girls) have actually said to me that I look very good, nut I always ply it down and the conversation never gets very far. I get a lot of likes on my Facebook profile picture too, I got 43 likes, out of my 120 friends, at least 25 of them were from females.

    My question is how can I possibly become more confident so that I am not always alone?
    Hmm well - so you're clever and nice and good-looking. I think its your personality, I think you might be a bit boring. I mean, who counts the gender of their Facebook likes and conducts a thorough statistical analysis lol

    I think you just need to tweak your approach a little bit. Just be ... more fun. If you're finding it hard to socialise with people, watch TV and pick it up from there.

    You have all the essentials of what girls like, just change your game a bit.
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    (Original post by DerMann)
    Well, that's your fault, meine freund. You are choosing to not have a girlfriend/sex/kisses/love/relationships et cetera. Your problem, not meine.
    *mein Freund :hmmm:
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    (Original post by Simes)
    Your compassion, empathy and support are …

    … absent.

    Maybe some people do live and die alone, because their heart never reached out to touch another.
    My passion goes towards my beloved, and my heart towards the starving in Africa. Not some scrubs like OP who can't be bothered to take matters into their own hands and improve their lot in life. The problems of the OP are of his own choosing, and by his choice alone can he dig himself out of the ditch that he has dug for himself. The truth hurts sometimes.
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    (Original post by thatitootoo)
    *mein Freund :hmmm:
    Grammar Nazis strike back, eh? Well, Freund, thanks for correcting my German, which I am studying...
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    (Original post by DerMann)
    Grammar Nazis strike back, eh? Well, Freund, thanks for correcting my German, which I am studying...
    Nichts zu danken / You're welcome 👍
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    (Original post by Simes)
    A clever man, talking cobblers.

    "We're born alone" and immediately thrust upon the nipple of the body that bore us.

    "We live alone" even hermits love people to see them being hermits.

    "We die alone" unless we are in someone's thoughts. Few of us fail to touch someone's heart with a kind word or deed before we go.
    I suggest looking up solipsism.

    Or at the very least, it may be worthwhile having a think about the barrier between one's internal experience and the 'real world'.

    I'm not saying Welles was right, but he wasn't talking cobblers.
 
 
 
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