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How do you make a relationship last?

I've been going out with my bf for about 2 weeks - and I really want it to be longterm...has anyone got any tips on how to make it last long? And what to avoid.....

Reply 1

Shéamais

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Anonymous

I've been going out with my bf for about 2 weeks - and I really want it to be longterm...has anyone got any tips on how to make it last long? And what to avoid.....

Don't be too clingy

Reply 2

anjurdsg

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Anonymous

I've been going out with my bf for about 2 weeks - and I really want it to be longterm...has anyone got any tips on how to make it last long? And what to avoid.....

Read the book called "The Rules" made for women

Though I'm a man, I enjoyed reading that book... I can tell exactly what goes on in a woman's mind... So I just turn it around and use it back on women :rolleyes:

Anyway, to make a relationship last, you must have these key things:
- love (no duh.. i know it sounds very obvious, but lot of people go out with each other just for the heck of it... dont do that)
- trust (honesty - NO LYING to each other at all, able to share your secrets, even talk about the most awkward subjects openly, eg sex)
- respect (for each others as INDIVIDUALS... not like "i'm more richer/goodlooking/superior etc so I'll go out with you".. it should be EQUAL...and i'm not talking about dominant/submissive here... usually i have seen that where the guy is more dominant, the relationship lasts longer)
- giving each other what they want (guys want sex, girls want commitment - do you give the guy what he wants? does HE give you back what he wants? and dont pester him ask him for gifts etc... dont use him... this boils back to the 'respect' part)

But the first utmost thing you want to do is get to KNOW THE GUY BETTER. A two-week relationship is too, too short to want to get into a long-term relationship. You wanna get to know him better, and vice versa. You dont just assume that any guy is a good long-term material.

Man_With_No_Name's post is exactly right. You might be being a bit too clingy, if you're wanting a longterm just after 2 weeks.

Wait till the relationship is about 2-3 months old before deciding on the long-term part. But until then, look out for the four key points i mentioned above

And as for the most important part, HAVE FUN. Dont be a boring bum. lol. :smile:

Reply 3

foxiroxi

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Trust, love, respect, good sex, conversation, common interests, not being clingy, not being distant, being there for eachither, both people wanting a long term relationship etc etc etc

There's many things that are NEEDED but there's nothing really you can do or not do to make a relationshi last, you just have to be a compatible pair of people, give it time.

Reply 4

tinkerbellejess

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Okaaaaaaaaaay....

Reply 5

poetry

well i would say...use these early days of the relationship to establish what you want to offer as a participant and WHAT YOU WANT IN RETURN. SATISFACTION- usually one of the major ingredients that spice up the close to perfect relationships...before contemplating the long term option, take your time to discover whether he is capable of meeting your criteria and vice versa... HOWEVER SAYING THIS YOU DONT EXPECT HIM TO BE MAGICALLY ABLE TO READ YOUR MIND AND KNOW UR DESIRES(doesnt have to be sexual)...therefore DROP HINTS ON THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY AND THOSE THAT UPSET YOU! i need not elaborate on the following characteristic that you need posess....committment, trust, love(or some degree of feelings and oh yes i must warn..YOU MUST BE ATTRACTED TO THIS PERSON..PHYSICALLY AND INTERNALLY IF NOT UR RELATIONSHIP WILL SOON FIZZLE OUT!) understanding( always put ur self in eachothers position, enter his skin before u pass judgement on any situation) AS A GAL, TRY TO BE SOFT AND NUTURING TOWARDS UR MAN..THEY ALWAYS APPRECIATE THAT....
and please..please...please... NEVER BE AFRAID TO DISAGREE...YOU DONOT SHARE A BRAIN CELL...NO RELATIONSHIP LASTS LONG IF EACH PATNER CN NOT BE THEMSELVES AND CN NOT ACCEPT THE FACT THAT A REALTIONSHIP COMPRISES OF two individuals being brought together by forces out of their control..THE KEY WORD IS INDIVIDUALS....
i leave you with a wise saying.."concentrate more on enjoying your relationship than TRYING to make it work"
HOPE I WAS OF GREAT HELP(I AM VERY EXPERINCED YOU SEE.LOL)

Reply 6

poetry

Anjurdsg...who Wrote The Book "the Rules".. Author's Name Please

Reply 7

Helenia

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It helps of course, if you two are actually compatible and get along in general.

Reply 8

username47781

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Trust, honesty and communication.

Reply 9

egg_soup

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honesty, love, communication, cuddles [ :smile:

] attention, dreams, and trust!

Reply 10

anjurdsg

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poetry

Anjurdsg...who Wrote The Book "the Rules".. Author's Name Please

just do a google search on the book and you will find out

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

ive been with my girlfreind for almost 2 years and i love her to bits, thinking like this wont make it last, dont worry just go with the flow and before you know it, it will be a year

Reply 12

kam

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Just do what you're doing now. Get along with each other and things should be fine.

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