Moving on help?

Hello, I'm feeling quite alone and depressed at the moment. I split up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago because he cheated on me and and slept with another woman. I am utterly heartbroken because I really cared about him. I feel like I'm never going to find anyone else and I'm going to be alone all my life :frown:

. What can I do to help myself move on apart from the obvious like go out with friends, etc?

Reply 1

egg_soup

im sorry to hear about what he did to you.
When i tried to get over my 'ex' i stopped thinking about everything he did for me and concerntrated on the bad things - the fact he WAS an arsehole etc. i did go out with my mates and slagged him off, and this in time helped because your girlfriends will always back you up 100% with the fact he was an arsehole to you.
Try to concerntrate on other important things in your life - maybe your school work, or seeing your friends, or your part time job - because dwelling on what has happened will make u feel worse babes!
Although you may have loved him - think about how now you have chance to meet some new people in your life, and how this experience can make you grow inside and as a person and how in the end (which is true) hes the real loser. I know its hard when things happen like this but concerntrate on yourself for a while and youl feel much better :smile:

Reply 2

DaveLawStuuuudent06

Fact: Hes a tosser

There we go, now lets move on and get over it :biggrin:

I know the feeling i was like that for about a few weeks after split up, then i started going out with mates and just having a general laugh, not necessarily looking elsewhere, just letting things happen on their own :smile:

Reply 3

kam

Just don't think about him. He's probably got an STD.
Go out with your friends and have a good time, find someone else who deserves you more.

Reply 4

Purple-Sparkle

I really feel for you. I have been in a similar situation. My ex took off with another woman and has slept with her to my knowledge. After just meeting her I think, which is completely wrong. Now there is definately no chance of me ever taking him back. Your ex seems a lot like my ex, not bothered in how I feel and completely ignorant. More bothered in his penis then your feelings.

Just think you are well rid of him now and you can do a lot better. Any guy who can do that to their girlfriend is not worth your energy and your tears. Sure I have been depressed but I'm getting over it. Talk to friends, socialise and focus on other things. These will help. It would also help if you try not to think about him at all.

lol

There are so many guys like that. Its best just to try and forget about him if you can.

I was in a similar situation but only found out after I'd split up with him as my good friend told me his 16 year old sister (i'm 19) was seven months pregnant with my ex-boyfriends baby who I'd split up with five months previously. Even worse was that I worked with him and had to see him all the time and he claimed all the dates added up ok (you do the math) and was therefore justified in talking about said baby constantly.

to be honest I cant really tell you how to get over it, even if you go out with friends etc youll still think about it - i ended up spending most of the time drinking which didnt help either. Although through doing that I met my current boyfriend who I've now been with for over a year so is there hope out there eventually!