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Relationship with flatmate
I got together with a housemate last week - we've been living together for 6 weeks and have both really liked each other from the beginning.
We've been together pretty much 24/7 and I'm just really worried about how fast everything's going.
Is it acceptable to become sexual (not all the way) within the first week? We already know each other so well it felt ok... I've just never moved so quickly with somebody.
Also, we now share a small single bed every night and i'd quite like some space sometimes so how do i tell him that without hurting his feelings? He wants cuddles all the time and sometimes i feel like i'm a bit suffocated which then makes me feel guilty!
I like him but i think he likes me a lot more and i'm really worried about this because i don't want to lose him...
Any thoughts?
We've been together pretty much 24/7 and I'm just really worried about how fast everything's going.
Is it acceptable to become sexual (not all the way) within the first week? We already know each other so well it felt ok... I've just never moved so quickly with somebody.
Also, we now share a small single bed every night and i'd quite like some space sometimes so how do i tell him that without hurting his feelings? He wants cuddles all the time and sometimes i feel like i'm a bit suffocated which then makes me feel guilty!
I like him but i think he likes me a lot more and i'm really worried about this because i don't want to lose him...
Any thoughts?
Reply 1
Just explain to him that you really like him and you love spending all this time together, but because you live together you just want to take things a bit slower.
Tell him that you just need a bit of space sometimes - he probably does too..
Tell him that you just need a bit of space sometimes - he probably does too..
Reply 2
just tell him you want a night to walk around in a face mask and dressing gown. not the sort of activity he wants to join in with. if you dont want to be with him 24/7 then arrange some girly stuff that he wont want to join in with.
and i usually just wriggle away if im not in a cuddly mood, as long as hes stable he should understand.
and i usually just wriggle away if im not in a cuddly mood, as long as hes stable he should understand.
Reply 3
Yup, I don't always want to be cuddled, I sometimes like having my own space. I'd talk to your boyfriend about this, explain that you'd like to have a bit of time to do your own things but that this doesn't mean that you like him any less.
If you feel comfortable with becoming sexual in the first week then I don't see the problem. Yes, some people will think it's disgraceful but if it felt right then I think it's fine.
As for him liking you a lot more than you like him, talk to him about this! You might be surprised to find he is thinking the opposite. Communication is key in a relationship so please do talk to him about how you are feeling.
If you feel comfortable with becoming sexual in the first week then I don't see the problem. Yes, some people will think it's disgraceful but if it felt right then I think it's fine.
As for him liking you a lot more than you like him, talk to him about this! You might be surprised to find he is thinking the opposite. Communication is key in a relationship so please do talk to him about how you are feeling.
Reply 4
When my boyfriend or I don't want to be together tight ina single bed we tend to just tell eachother straight and he will sleep on the floor in a sleeping bag 
As you have your own room in your flat why don't you just tell him it's not very comfortable sharing a single bed everynight and your backs slighlty hurting you as you can't get comfortable?
As you have your own room in your flat why don't you just tell him it's not very comfortable sharing a single bed everynight and your backs slighlty hurting you as you can't get comfortable?
Reply 5
I would suggest slowing the relationship down, plus the problem with getting with your housemate is that you have already pointed out you want your own space, well you won't get alot of that as you will be under each other's feet for most of the day.
explain to him youv only been with him for a week and that your not comfortable just yet with sleeping together.
if you spend alot of time together anyways its still important to get some of your own time and if your living in the same house, then sleep time is the answer! just explain. if hes a **** hel get pissed at you - if thats the case move on!
if you spend alot of time together anyways its still important to get some of your own time and if your living in the same house, then sleep time is the answer! just explain. if hes a **** hel get pissed at you - if thats the case move on!
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