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    I just moved into halls (11th Jan). I moved in because living at home and commuting everyday made me feel lonely and sort of caused me to feel more and more lonely as term went on. I have a few acquaintances from my course, but no real friends with whom I'd do things outside of uni. Everyone's perfectly nice and friendly, but I just don't have anything in common with anyone.

    So I decided to move into halls to try and integrate a bit. However, having moved in and lived there for a week, I feel even more lonely, as, like my course, my new flatmates and myself have VERY little in common. Again, they're not a problem, they're nice and considerate, but they're ALL American, foreign exchange students and girls, whereas I'm a domestic (English) student, and a guy. Whilst gender isn't a huge issue, it's just another thing where I feel alone as there is no other guys in my flat, and naturally, girls are going to socialise with other girls, leaving me left out.

    I'm not sure what to do. It's making me really depressed, I'm not hugely into 'partying' and that sort of thing, although I have no objections to it in moderation. Particularly, if it means I'll make a few friends.

    I'm considering applying for a room change, but I'm a little bit concerned that it'll be much the same story, as the university that I'm currently at has a large amount of foreign exchange students and a ridiculous m/f ratio (1:3 in favour of females i think) so there's a big chance that, should I move into a new flat, I'll have exactly the same issue, just with the added stress of moving all my stuff and paying the room change fee.

    I know it's not a huge problem, I'm not having a bad time per se (I actually really enjoy my own company) but I just feel like no-one even knows or cares if I'm even here.

    I was just wondering, if anyone has experienced a similar type of thing, and how you dealt with it if you have, or how things played out for you? Also, should I try and change room? Will it be worth it?
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    (Original post by AlexWins)
    I just moved into halls (11th Jan). I moved in because living at home and commuting everyday made me feel lonely and sort of caused me to feel more and more lonely as term went on. I have a few acquaintances from my course, but no real friends with whom I'd do things outside of uni. Everyone's perfectly nice and friendly, but I just don't have anything in common with anyone.

    So I decided to move into halls to try and integrate a bit. However, having moved in and lived there for a week, I feel even more lonely, as, like my course, my new flatmates and myself have VERY little in common. Again, they're not a problem, they're nice and considerate, but they're ALL American, foreign exchange students and girls, whereas I'm a domestic (English) student, and a guy. Whilst gender isn't a huge issue, it's just another thing where I feel alone as there is no other guys in my flat, and naturally, girls are going to socialise with other girls, leaving me left out.

    I'm not sure what to do. It's making me really depressed, I'm not hugely into 'partying' and that sort of thing, although I have no objections to it in moderation. Particularly, if it means I'll make a few friends.

    I'm considering applying for a room change, but I'm a little bit concerned that it'll be much the same story, as the university that I'm currently at has a large amount of foreign exchange students and a ridiculous m/f ratio (1:3 in favour of females i think) so there's a big chance that, should I move into a new flat, I'll have exactly the same issue, just with the added stress of moving all my stuff and paying the room change fee.

    I know it's not a huge problem, I'm not having a bad time per se (I actually really enjoy my own company) but I just feel like no-one even knows or cares if I'm even here.

    I was just wondering, if anyone has experienced a similar type of thing, and how you dealt with it if you have, or how things played out for you? Also, should I try and change room? Will it be worth it?
    Like you say, you might move rooms and be with people who you really don't get on with. Although you're not socialising with your housemates atm, at least you haven't got any other issues? But only you can decide that.

    Are you doing things like cooking together, or sitting in the kitchen/communal areas to chat? Maybe try that, and you can strike up more convo. Or join Uni societies, then you'll meet people with the similar interests
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    (Original post by Suzanne123)
    Like you say, you might move rooms and be with people who you really don't get on with. Although you're not socialising with your housemates atm, at least you haven't got any other issues? But only you can decide that.

    Are you doing things like cooking together, or sitting in the kitchen/communal areas to chat? Maybe try that, and you can strike up more convo. Or join Uni societies, then you'll meet people with the similar interests
    Yeah, like I say, I appreciate that my situation could be eternally worse. My flatmates are all very nice people, with whom I'm sure I'll have no conflict or anything of the sort, but it's just that we have so little in common, and no mutual connection or anything that I can't imagine it being anything other than impossible to get beyond the 'acquaintance' stage.

    Chatting's not an issue, we cook together and make basic small talk, but, especially as the only guy, it's kinda difficult to not be the odd one out. And as for societies, there's no societies at my uni that I take a particular interest in.

    At the moment the room change idea looks like my only chance of actually meeting people, I'm compatible with.

    Thanks for the reply!
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    (Original post by AlexWins)
    Yeah, like I say, I appreciate that my situation could be eternally worse. My flatmates are all very nice people, with whom I'm sure I'll have no conflict or anything of the sort, but it's just that we have so little in common, and no mutual connection or anything that I can't imagine it being anything other than impossible to get beyond the 'acquaintance' stage.

    Chatting's not an issue, we cook together and make basic small talk, but, especially as the only guy, it's kinda difficult to not be the odd one out. And as for societies, there's no societies at my uni that I take a particular interest in.

    At the moment the room change idea looks like my only chance of actually meeting people, I'm compatible with.

    Thanks for the reply!
    Yea, try and get a room swap if you think it would make you happier and could you start a society you're interested in? I know that's a lot of work alongside studying, but it's an option.
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    (Original post by AlexWins)
    I just moved into halls (11th Jan). I moved in because living at home and commuting everyday made me feel lonely and sort of caused me to feel more and more lonely as term went on. I have a few acquaintances from my course, but no real friends with whom I'd do things outside of uni. Everyone's perfectly nice and friendly, but I just don't have anything in common with anyone.

    So I decided to move into halls to try and integrate a bit. However, having moved in and lived there for a week, I feel even more lonely, as, like my course, my new flatmates and myself have VERY little in common. Again, they're not a problem, they're nice and considerate, but they're ALL American, foreign exchange students and girls, whereas I'm a domestic (English) student, and a guy. Whilst gender isn't a huge issue, it's just another thing where I feel alone as there is no other guys in my flat, and naturally, girls are going to socialise with other girls, leaving me left out.

    I'm not sure what to do. It's making me really depressed, I'm not hugely into 'partying' and that sort of thing, although I have no objections to it in moderation. Particularly, if it means I'll make a few friends.

    I'm considering applying for a room change, but I'm a little bit concerned that it'll be much the same story, as the university that I'm currently at has a large amount of foreign exchange students and a ridiculous m/f ratio (1:3 in favour of females i think) so there's a big chance that, should I move into a new flat, I'll have exactly the same issue, just with the added stress of moving all my stuff and paying the room change fee.

    I know it's not a huge problem, I'm not having a bad time per se (I actually really enjoy my own company) but I just feel like no-one even knows or cares if I'm even here.

    I was just wondering, if anyone has experienced a similar type of thing, and how you dealt with it if you have, or how things played out for you? Also, should I try and change room? Will it be worth it?

    What's your situation like now? Did you manage to start some new friendships? I hope you're doing well!
 
 
 
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