Hi im 19 and was at the pub and I was hanging out with my friend and his mate and we went back to his mates house.
His friend was 43 years old and was kissing me and joking around and I made myself clear that i wasnt going to have sex with him. My mate left as he had work in the morning and left me there. His mate continued to act playful with me when I fell on the floor and then he was on top of me and I carried on trying to move but I couldn't and he must of thought otherwise as he decided to take his pants off. I said no and he still continued and then I just stopped moving and he done as he pleased. I didnt stop him. I couldn't breathe and I just felt like some little tramp. I don't know if this is rape or what all I know is I couldn't even try to buck him off of me. And now I don't even know what I would do if I saw him again.
What should I do?
i dont know if is consentual or rape Watch
- Thread Starter
- 17-01-2015 02:00
- 19-01-2015 19:56
I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through.
You clearly told him you did not want to have sex and tried to move away. By ignoring this and forcing himself on you this was rape.
Here is some more info on consent and rape:
I know it is really hard to hear but it is important that you now get the support you need.
If you want you can report this to the police. They have a duty to investigate all reports of rape. You can also contact rape crisis who are lovely and can listen and support you and tell you about your options - what would happen if you did report (totally your choice), and what support is available near you in terms of counselling.
0808 802 9999
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Have you been able to tell anyone else what happened? I think it is important that you are not on your own with him again and that you have a safety plan for what you can do if you see him.
I am so sorry that this happened to you, please do try to contact rape crisis and get some help,