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Was this the right thing to do?

RIght..... I was with my boyfriend for about 9 months, and toward the end of this we started arguing about silly things. Now we get on so so so so well and our personalities match, but whenever we argue he has a bad temper and always seems to split with me, which made us go on a break to change things. However, we still kept in contact, and one phoncall argument led to us splittin full stop. BUT we get on so well and love each other and are affectionate blablabla....
Was splitting up the right thing to do?

Reply 1

username47781

Well having a break was the wrong way to go for sure. But maybe you were too hasty in splitting, perhaps you should have talked to each other and work out why you was arguing about petty things, lets face it no relationship goes without an argument.

Reply 2

vrbuxton1

I know that, I forgot to add that within the last 3 months or so of the relationship, every time we would argue he would call me every name under the sun, then split with me, then decided the next day he didn't want to. ANd each time I took him back, but then I said do it again and we're finished. So....he did it again, and we went on a break. Anythin else to add after givin that detail? :P

Reply 3

username47781

Like i was saying maybe you two need to get to the bottom of all these petty arguments and find out what is causing them and how to avoid them in future, although it does seem he ain't sure what he really wants.

Reply 4

supernova2

Ive got the completely opposite personality to my gf and we always have arguments about the stupidest thing. Its just like they mean nothing I suppose.

It sounds like you need to tell him to chill out and think about what youre really arguing about and is it really worth getting so stressy about.

Reply 5

Anarchy Everywhere

Early sign of domestic violence, keep away from eachother.

Reply 6

squigaletta

I would have split up with someone for that. I can't stand it when people use breaking up as a threat over a small argument, it totally cheapens a relationship.

Reply 7

vrbuxton1

lol domestic violence.......not so sure!!! But will take your point into consideration!! lol

Well anyway, we've split now, it just annoys me because we seem perfect except for that BIG factor of arguing u no? And I can never be sure that I'm genuinely knowing we should be split, or that we're just doing it because it seems there's nothin else to do.

I mean, we're still going to meet up as friends so I guess we'll see how we are together after a while and see if there's the possibilty of getting back together.

Reply 8

Dragon24

vrbuxton1

he would call me every name under the sun

Even in an argument he should show some respect at least. I would talk to him about what how you feel and that the name calling in particular is hurtful.

Reply 9

maag101

Yes, I think splitting up was the best course of action. Sounds like a love/hate relationship and ultimately that was going to end in tears. Better that it's happened now and didn't hurt too much (compared to if you'd married the guy and then this had happened.)

Reply 10

Misogynist

Change your personality if it comes down to that.

Reply 11

vrbuxton1

Grr it just hurts. I think it makes it harder because I can't just get with someone else and get over it! lol
Sad I know.... but I think it's cos it was my first proper relationship

Reply 12

Princess In Disguise

Well you have to ask yourself these questions
1.does he make u happy?
2.do u still love him?
Uh…that’s it…for now

Reply 13

vrbuxton1

Yeh I am scared of being alone. Cos its hard sometimes I like to have someone I know I can be with, but i love the affection and I do love him and he makes me happy....so you know! But i think it's cos of the uni stuff I get stressed out and take it out on him. He's i na similar situation with work...so it seems logical to give it a break so we can focus on ourselves.