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Boyfriend told me something weird...
Im a 20 year old girl and have been with my bf for nearly a year. Last night he told me something really random and kinda shocking.
Basically he said that when he was about 6/7 years old he had a friend the same age who lived in the street, and that whenever they were in each others rooms they would take off each others clothes and lie on top of each other kissing. He said it was just young people playing around etc, but he said they would kiss with tounges and also play with each other ''down below'' and that it would go on for about half an hour.
Should it disturb me at all? I mean I know its kinda acceptable that kids would play around, but id expect maybe a kiss on the cheek, this seems kinda shocking to me and I dont know what to think!
Basically he said that when he was about 6/7 years old he had a friend the same age who lived in the street, and that whenever they were in each others rooms they would take off each others clothes and lie on top of each other kissing. He said it was just young people playing around etc, but he said they would kiss with tounges and also play with each other ''down below'' and that it would go on for about half an hour.
Should it disturb me at all? I mean I know its kinda acceptable that kids would play around, but id expect maybe a kiss on the cheek, this seems kinda shocking to me and I dont know what to think!
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Reply 2
That's not that unusual actually. I did the same, and I know quite a few other kids who did too.
Reply 3
I think you have every right to feel weird about this, it's something that you feel uncomfortable with and, whilst some people wouldn't see it as a problem others would not see it as normal behaviour.
However, remember that he's taken a huge step by telling you this, it must've taken a lot of trust and shows a great deal about your relationship that he can tell you something of this nature.
Be careful not to offend him in what you say - have you talked to him much about it or has he just told you what happened? Please talk to him about it, find out what he thinks about it, whether he's that bothered.
Remember it's in his past, I'm sure you know your boyfriend very well after being together for a year and love him for many reasons. This happened many years ago so I hope it doesn't have too much of an effect on how you feel for him.
Talk, talk, and talk even more to him though!
However, remember that he's taken a huge step by telling you this, it must've taken a lot of trust and shows a great deal about your relationship that he can tell you something of this nature.
Be careful not to offend him in what you say - have you talked to him much about it or has he just told you what happened? Please talk to him about it, find out what he thinks about it, whether he's that bothered.
Remember it's in his past, I'm sure you know your boyfriend very well after being together for a year and love him for many reasons. This happened many years ago so I hope it doesn't have too much of an effect on how you feel for him.
Talk, talk, and talk even more to him though!
Reply 4
I've played around with females all my life...I've got the gift.
Never with boys though.
Never with boys though.
You have to bear in mind that children are very impressionable, and that all they want to be is grown ups. So without full understanding of what they were doing, or what it even meant, they were just trying to be 'grown up' and do things they do. They most definitely did not enjoy it, nor did they have any feeling for each other. I have a twin neice and nephew and after my aunt not wanting to lie to them, she caught them trying to 'make love'. They didn't understand what they were doing, and they of course did not understand the depth or consequences of what they were doing, they just wanted to be grown up and wondered why people do it.
Reply 6
Sorry I should have been more clear, they were both boys. Hes also told me other 'weird' things but they were MUCH more easy to brush off as things kids just do, this just left me kid of flabbergasted because it was such a prolonged and deliberate thing they did. He told me they did it over the space of a year and it only stopped when the kid move away.
Im not sure if this is..appropriate, but he said they would both get erections and one would go on top and 'ride' the other....im sorry but its just disturbing me so much
God even typig this im still in shock
Im not sure if this is..appropriate, but he said they would both get erections and one would go on top and 'ride' the other....im sorry but its just disturbing me so much
God even typig this im still in shock
Reply 8
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Sorry I should have been more clear, they were both boys. Hes also told me other 'weird' things but they were MUCH more easy to brush off as things kids just do, this just left me kid of flabbergasted because it was such a prolonged and deliberate thing they did. He told me they did it over the space of a year and it only stopped when the kid move away.
Im not sure if this is..appropriate, but he said they would both get erections and one would go on top and 'ride' the other....im sorry but its just disturbing me so much
God even typig this im still in shock
Im not sure if this is..appropriate, but he said they would both get erections and one would go on top and 'ride' the other....im sorry but its just disturbing me so much
God even typig this im still in shock
Ha ha, I'm sorry, but I can't help laughing.
I know perfectly straight kids who did this. I think if it takes place in those really early years then it really is a case of kids not understanding what they're doing.
P.S: I only did it with a girl.
Reply 10
sounds like he was still stuck in the phallic stage of life....
Reply 12
yep a lot of kids do things like this so its not too wierd, hope you can accept and be ok with it 
its ok to feel shocked
its ok to feel shockedReply 13
wait, they rode each other? now thats kinda creepy.
It IS creepy ! 6 or 7 year old !!! what on earth was he thinking ! LOL
Its normal and kids do have a tendency to "explore" stuff. Like a kid might actually open a toy car and waste the money worth, just to "know" wats inside that toy. When u say 6 or 7 its pretty understandable. Im sure he didnt even know what he was doing. But to be honest, getting erections and giving rides (lol) might have had some side effects on him .. u know wat I mean. So ask him about it !
man, im wonderign if my girl suddenly comes and tells me that she had been playing around with her girl mates at the age of 6 or 7.. i really wouldnt know how to react ! ! its WERID and normal too-- strange
Its normal and kids do have a tendency to "explore" stuff. Like a kid might actually open a toy car and waste the money worth, just to "know" wats inside that toy. When u say 6 or 7 its pretty understandable. Im sure he didnt even know what he was doing. But to be honest, getting erections and giving rides (lol) might have had some side effects on him .. u know wat I mean. So ask him about it !
man, im wonderign if my girl suddenly comes and tells me that she had been playing around with her girl mates at the age of 6 or 7.. i really wouldnt know how to react ! ! its WERID and normal too-- strange
Reply 15
WTF?!?! What shocks me is it doesn't even seem that uncommon to most people, jesus christ, I'm sorry but at 6 or 7 I realised what was allowed and what wasn't and I also realised that sort of thing is wrong. Christ almighty.
Reply 17
suuuuuuseh
I think it's less a case of the significance of the event; but more why he told you. Does he think it's a problem and could affect your relationship, or did he just tell you it because he thought you might like to know?
ihave a gay uncle, who did this "fondled" at 11 he did it once then never again, thenhe lived wih 2 different girls and dated others, then at the age of 23 he came out... realsied that he preferred boys.. he is bi, but prefers men.. dunno if that makes it worse.. sorry to the OP
Reply 18
6/7 with erections? Is this not some joke he's having you on with?
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