protecting your gf.

i cant explain in words how i feel about this.

Iv been with my gf for over a year now and love her to bits girlfriend, but i feel i have a problem protecting her.

She is a very attractive girl, We are both 17, i am not big and built although im in the process of getting bigger.

but i feel like i cant protect her, For example. the other night i was with her and when were together for a night out, there was a group of drunks shouting out stuff to her like "oi oi sexy", "you should be with a man like me" "id F*** you any day" etc etc (clearly seeing she was with me) and i did not have a clue what to do, i was angry and scared, and knew if i said any thing i would of got the crap beaten out of me and now i just feel depressed about it. Because i feel like i cant protect her.

Its not just this but also like i would be holding her hand walking down high street or some thing and these guys would just clearly check her out completely not giving a **** about me, i just want to say something but these guys are normally always bigger than me. So i normally just put an angry face on and leave it. but when iv got friends with me at the same time its also embarrasing for me because i get the impression from them like they think i cant protect her and say stuff back :frown:

i just dont know what to do :frown:

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Reply 1

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

This is one of the reasons why I lift weights.

Reply 2

Chemgeek

The best thing to do is learn to ignore it. Shouting never hurt anybody though it can be annoying and indeed frighentning. The thing to NOT do is get the sh*t kicked out of you because you mouthed off to a bunch of drunken people twice your age and size. This is not a solution that will make you feel big and manly, but there is not a lot you can do about it besides waiting to grow. So I am afraid you are just gonna have to suck it up and deal.

besides they are only jealous, so lap it up. I expect as far as your GF is concerned she is already with a ''real man''

Reply 3

silverbolt

oh get over it, use the fact that they checking out your missus to boost your ego.
You think that because they shout things at her they are gonna rape her or shes going to leave you for them (which i reckon is what your really afraid of)
Oh and another thing you start doing the over possesive thing too much trying to "protect" i garuntee she will leave you

Reply 4

hippieglitter

Maybe she doesn't need protecting, if she wanted a big guy like that she'd be with a big guy like that instead of with you. I seriously doubt she's with you because she wants you to protect her, most girls these days can protect themselves. If it was protection she wanted she would've gone for the obvious choice of a big guy, but she didn't she went for you, didn't she?

Reply 5

Flank Runner

you dont need to be built like a goddamn marine to be a good fighter, a few simple moves can bring any man, no matter the size to the ground, although muscle mass does help, however violence shouldnt be the answer, you should think of alternatives like witty attacks on how stupid these meatheads truly are, if you want me to tell you these moves pm me and i'll msg you how to defend yourself, but i stress these are not for offense, purely defensive, but try other ways and good luck

Reply 6

Apollo

Meh that was something I was kinda worried about to (not that i have a gf) so I joined a gym. Easy.

Reply 7

Harv616

Become a ninja

But seriously don't worry about it, its not a big deal.

Reply 8

evil groove

I can't imagine her being very impressed if you got into a fight with a group of randomers in the street. You're good as you are; keep on giving those 'evils'.

Reply 9

kinkajou

Reply 10

taylorlady

you need to ignore these guys. you can even tell your girl why and she will understand~! im sure she loves you so much and cl;early respects you if she has been with you this long/
noi girl wants to see her man go down to some trash oin the street that yells at her.
she probly would be more upset if you were all say in a club and some guy grabbed her butt and you didnt do something., as long as its random words from strangers you must ignore it.
only a dumb guy ,. even built would respond. who has the time or the ability to deal with every jerk that comes ones way?

let it go, pick your battles and dont be afraid to walk away!

Reply 11

Shout Box

to be honest, she has told me this before that i should ignore it and she never wants me to do something because of some of the crazy people out there some times.

But i think most of the time its peer pressure, like if i have my mates or brother or something with me at the same time if feel like i have to do it, but not only that i cant explain how angry i get, !!!!

i go gym 5 times a week lifting weights and i eat loads because i want to get big and when the time comes and iv bigger and stronger than i use to be then i wont take ****!

Theres no point learning these moves because if there is more than 1 and i get knocked out .. my gf will be there with these guys on here own......

lol foget annoymous

Reply 12

Eblis_O'_Shaughnessy

Martial arts + powerlifting = one tough *****er.

Reply 13

Wangers

look at good martial artists - they're toned, not built. having done some basic martial arts training - its more about how and where you use you're strength, rather then how much. In fact the more you train they discourage you from using it becuase it gets positively dangerous,

As the SBS say, -- not by strength, but by guile :biggrin:

Wangers

Reply 14

ZigZag

To be honest, however big you are, or whatever ninja powers you might have, you're unlikely to come out best against a group of blokes so just learn to live with it, and don't get into silly or dangerous situations. The best way to protect your girlfriend in that context is by forward planning. If you're taking her out make sure you're taking routes through safe areas of town, or get a taxi through iffy places if they aren't possible to avoid.

As for the checking out - all guys do this. It's not personal, they're just enjoying the view. Sure, maybe you could find it disrespectful, but remember that you're the one she's chosen to be with, not them.

Reply 15

MissHero

Hey, you're only 17, you may still have time to grow. :smile:

Reply 16

kam

Start lifting weights :wink:

Reply 17

Tag

to be honest, you aren't really talking about protecing her. What does she need protecing from? you're bruised ego? who's attacking her?

you just sound insecure that your girl friend wants to be with one of these guys. Which she obviously doesn't since she is with you. A guy i was with once felt like this, which was sweet at first, but became a problem when he let it consume him to the point that he freaked out if I even spoke to another guy. so my advice is be appy and don't worry about it - you obviously have a very hot girlfriend (congratulations :smile:

lol) so ignore the losers who she didn't choose.

Reply 18

edu

Take up a martial art if you really want to kick ass along with some weights (wing chun kung fu and weights mixed with rowing is what I do.) However I dont think this is a problem as protecting her as such coz whether your there or not the same things gona happen, guys will check her out, and men will shout at her, shes with you and thats what matters ( <3 Tag have sum rep heh).

But I can understand where your coming from. Just dont be under the impression that most groups of drunk or chavs will care if you look a bit bigger and know kung fu, there so arrogant they wont care so youll get in a load of fights if you look for it.

Im what slim but very built and I know a fair bit of kung fu my friends will tell you that I can hold my own well, but that doesnt mean I rant of at drunkards who think my girlfriends are nice, if they lay a hand on them thats different, if it bothers them thats different but if it doesnt then it doesnt bother me. (Talking about friends here, just clarifying that I do not practice bigomy *grins*)

Reply 19

rosetinted

Why do you feel that she needs protecting? Nobody is attacking her. If I were going out with a guy who threw a punch at everyone who looked at me the wrong way then he'd very quickly find himself single again.

I know there's this silly macho thing of feeling like you need to fend off other men, but women don't want you to take on every drunken idiot you see. We'd rather you did the mature thing of rising above it and ignoring them, like we do all the time.