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    I didn't know which section to put this in because I don't think it's classed as any form of assault but I didn't know where else to put it.

    Basically I broke up with my long term boyfriend and a friend comforted me and took me out the next day, and he then tried to get me to do things to him while I was really upset and crying over my ex. I went all lame because I was upset and basically didn't resist when he was touching me and moving me around to do what he wanted and he ended up moving my head to give him a blowjob and holding it there until he was done and after he finished he apologised but he didn't mean it at all.


    The point is I now feel really horrible and dirty and I don't know how to stop that, what can I do?


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    Go to the police love, you didn't consent to it.

    He's in the wrong, even if he did apologise
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    (Original post by esjae)
    Go to the police love, you didn't consent to it.

    He's in the wrong, even if he did apologise
    But I didn't resist at all? And I kissed him back a bit before pulling away each time and stuff


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    (Original post by OhhNo)
    But I didn't resist at all? And I kissed him back a bit before pulling away each time and stuff


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    Still, there was no consent given. If I was you, I'd go to the police, there was no consent given, he shouldn't have done it, even if you didn't resit, he took advantage of you when you were upset and vunerable
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    (Original post by esjae)
    Still, there was no consent given. If I was you, I'd go to the police, there was no consent given, he shouldn't have done it, even if you didn't resit, he took advantage of you when you were upset and vunerable
    Thank you


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    (Original post by OhhNo)
    Thank you


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    It's okay darling
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    Hi
    I'm really sorry this happened to you. You did not give consent to this and as such it was rape - (forced oral sex is also classed as rape). You can certainly report this to the police if you want to and they will have a duty to investigate.
    You can also contact rape crisis for advice and support - http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/
    freephone helpline
    0808 802 9999
    12 - 2.30pm
    7 - 9.30pm
    Local rape crisis centres - http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk/centres.php


    This was not your fault. He took advantage of you when you were vulnerable and you deserve support,
    take care
    Jo
 
 
 
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