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    My parents recently discovered that I self harm and called me selfish and attention seeking and to stop acting like I was depressed I'm just making a big deal out of nothing and need to get over it, I confided in a friend because he's the only person I felt like I had and could trust and he told me I was selfish and not to message him until I stopped self harming and got over it, and now I have nobody and I don't know what to do and they don't seem to understand that I feel like I have to do it they think I'm choosing to do it to get at them or something or make them feel bad and I'm not, what should I do?


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    Have you considered professional help? My parents were the exact same as yours but then I confided in someone and she's been so supportive. I know the only person you know turned you down when you told him but seriously find a counsellor or something. And self harming isn't your fault you're probably overwhelmed or upset. If you want to talk feel free to PM xx

    And as for the idea that you're an attention seeker.. I doubt you are one because you probably worked so hard to keep it a secret before you were brave enough to say something
    And your parents ask you about how you're depressed when you have an ok life, that's like saying to a person with a breathing problem, "why can't you breathe when there's a tonne of air around you?"

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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    Have you considered professional help? My parents were the exact same as yours but then I confided in someone and he's been so supportive. I know the only person you know turned you down when you told him but seriously find a counsellor. If you want to talk feel free to PM xx
    I wouldn't know where to go to get professional help and the thought of talking to someone freaks me out a bit because I get really nervous around people but I wouldn't even know where to look to get help and there's no way my parents could know about it


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    I wouldn't know where to go to get professional help and the thought of talking to someone freaks me out a bit because I get really nervous around people but I wouldn't even know where to look to get help and there's no way my parents could know about it


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    (Original post by MrsSheldonCooper)
    And as for the idea that you're an attention seeker.. I doubt you are one because you probably worked so hard to keep it a secret before you were brave enough to say something
    And your parents ask you about how you're depressed when you have an ok life, that's like saying to a person with a breathing problem, "why can't you breathe when there's a tonne of air around you?"

    Sad but true
    The attention seeking thing, I kept it a secret and they found out by accident I didn't even tell them and I said I didn't want to make a big deal about it but they were the ones who pressed me to say why



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    (Original post by OhhNo)
    The attention seeking thing, I kept it a secret and they found out by accident I didn't even tell them and I said I didn't want to make a big deal about it but they were the ones who pressed me to say why



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    You can talk to your GP. They should be able to point you in the direction of support.

    People who self harm aren't attention seekers. They generally do whatever they can to hide it. Because as you've found, of certain peoples reactions.
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    It isn't selfish at all and they probably think it is because they don't want their child/friend to be in emotional pain so it's easier for them to be angry/call you selfish than accept there's probably a mental health issue (like depression)

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    Self harming is definitely not selfish. When my parents found out about my self harming, they asked me if I wanted to see a councillor and I said no but they insisted and once I went a few times it really helped!

    Your parents and friend should definitely not being saying that, they should be supportive and helping out through this but I would definitely recommend seeing someone or talking to someone. Another friend you trust or go to your nearest doctors and see I they can give you some advice on councillors. It seems so scary at first but it's amazing to get all your feelings off your chest and to get help from other people that are paid to help you so you definitely know they aren't going to say something like your friend did.
    Hope this helps x pm me if you want x


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