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    Often, ethnicity and religion are often taken hand in hand. For example, many British Pakistani's are Muslim.

    BUT, do somebody's
    • ethnicity
    • religion (and thus political views)

    matter to you? Which one matters the most?

    I.e. I'm a non-religious, very liberal British Pakistani male. I'm fairly average looking and my manner is polite - a little silly at the worst of times. Would you rather date me if I was a Muslim and deeply conservative (e.g. oppose gay marriage, abortion etc.) but white, or as I am right now?
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    I would but religion is what matters more to me.

    As a firm atheist I find it hard to get along with people who are outwardly religious. As to your ethnicity that doesn't factor in at all. I would gladly date a British Pakistani or any other ethnicity if I found them attractive both physically and through their temperament.
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    Religion would matter, but only because I doubt I'm compatible with somebody who has a completely different mindset to me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Often, ethnicity and religion are often taken hand in hand. For example, many British Pakistani's are Muslim.

    BUT, do somebody's
    • ethnicity
    • religion (and thus political views)

    matter to you? Which one matters the most?

    I.e. I'm a non-religious, very liberal British Pakistani male. I'm fairly average looking and my manner is polite - a little silly at the worst of times. Would you rather date me if I was a Muslim and deeply conservative (e.g. oppose gay marriage, abortion etc.) but white, or as I am right now?
    Religion is a big issue. I would never date a muslim as a woman because of how women are treated in Islam.

    I would also be wary of ethnicity if I thought there were likely to be culture clashes because of it. A massive example would be dating someone of a different race whose family would have an issue with that- having had to be a "secret" girlfriend for years because I happened to be the wrong colour/religion I would never go there again.
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    it still matters but they (women for me, so you wouldn't get it haha) don't have to be british. if anything it's a bonus if they're foreign because both standard middle class Brits and working class brits are somewhat annoying. However, I have been out with a Muslim woman who was religious, but for some reason was up for seeing a non muslim guy. I ended it in the end because the religion thing annoyed me. These days I don't think I would exclude girls based on race that much, but I would prefer it if they are white or at least half white. I don't really know why exactly, subconscious racism maybe? who cares, it's my penis.
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    Ethnicity doesn't matter to me but culture/religion definitely does! I don't think I'd ever date a Pakistani, religious or otherwise, unless they were like an orphan :dontknow:
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    Just stop. Slap yourself across the face and ask yourself the question.
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    (Original post by jenkinsear)
    Religion is a big issue. I would never date a muslim as a woman because of how women are treated in Islam.

    I would also be wary of ethnicity if I thought there were likely to be culture clashes because of it. A massive example would be dating someone of a different race whose family would have an issue with that- having had to be a "secret" girlfriend for years because I happened to be the wrong colour/religion I would never go there again.
    Would it be a "culture clash" if my parent's had disowned me already, e.g. for leaving the faith? You wouldn't have to be secret, but I'd have no family. If it leads to marriage, that means no in-laws and no grandparents for kids.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would it be a "culture clash" if my parent's had disowned me already, e.g. for leaving the faith? You wouldn't have to be secret, but I'd have no family. If it leads to marriage, that means no in-laws and no grandparents for kids.
    I could cope with that. You'd have escaped and not be condemning the bigotry by being unwilling to tell your parents the truth.
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    Someone's race wouldn't bother me but their religious beliefs would. I personally wouldn't date anyone who was a follower of any religion.

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    Religion is definitely more important, I mean I'm similar to you although I'm British Bengal not Pakistani. You just have to be reasonably good looking, take care of yourself, are friendly & have confidence Family can be problematic, but someone people will defy them anyway.
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    Why would I want to have a half breed Pakistani baby and destroy my own people?
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    Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
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    It wouldn't bother me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous8374)
    Why would I want to have a half breed Pakistani baby and destroy my own people?
    Because Asian women are attractive?
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    (Original post by Grantland)
    Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
    What if she tries to make your child worship Ra
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    (Original post by Borgia)
    What if she tries to make your child worship Ra
    So long as he doesn't skip school to praise the sun, then I have no quarrel.
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    Ethnicity, no.
    Religion, yes.
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    (Original post by Grantland)
    Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
    Agreed. I'd never force my beliefs on a partner and I wouldn't expect them to do so to me either - I'd just expect a mutual respect.

    Ethnicity doesn't matter at all either.
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    Wow ive stumbled across a thread where no ones said anything stupid about religion yet, keep it up guys
 
 
 
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