Would you date a British Pakistani? Does ethnicity or religion matter more? Watch

Anonymous #1
#1
Report Thread starter 4 years ago
#1
Often, ethnicity and religion are often taken hand in hand. For example, many British Pakistani's are Muslim.

BUT, do somebody's
  • ethnicity
  • religion (and thus political views)

matter to you? Which one matters the most?

I.e. I'm a non-religious, very liberal British Pakistani male. I'm fairly average looking and my manner is polite - a little silly at the worst of times. Would you rather date me if I was a Muslim and deeply conservative (e.g. oppose gay marriage, abortion etc.) but white, or as I am right now?
0
reply
SonofPeace
Badges: 1
Rep:
?
#2
Report 4 years ago
#2
I would but religion is what matters more to me.

As a firm atheist I find it hard to get along with people who are outwardly religious. As to your ethnicity that doesn't factor in at all. I would gladly date a British Pakistani or any other ethnicity if I found them attractive both physically and through their temperament.
0
reply
9823899s89jojs
Badges: 3
#3
Report 4 years ago
#3
Religion would matter, but only because I doubt I'm compatible with somebody who has a completely different mindset to me.
1
reply
jenkinsear
Badges: 13
Rep:
?
#4
Report 4 years ago
#4
(Original post by Anonymous)
Often, ethnicity and religion are often taken hand in hand. For example, many British Pakistani's are Muslim.

BUT, do somebody's
  • ethnicity
  • religion (and thus political views)

matter to you? Which one matters the most?

I.e. I'm a non-religious, very liberal British Pakistani male. I'm fairly average looking and my manner is polite - a little silly at the worst of times. Would you rather date me if I was a Muslim and deeply conservative (e.g. oppose gay marriage, abortion etc.) but white, or as I am right now?
Religion is a big issue. I would never date a muslim as a woman because of how women are treated in Islam.

I would also be wary of ethnicity if I thought there were likely to be culture clashes because of it. A massive example would be dating someone of a different race whose family would have an issue with that- having had to be a "secret" girlfriend for years because I happened to be the wrong colour/religion I would never go there again.
1
reply
Oxocubism
Badges: 2
Rep:
?
#5
Report 4 years ago
#5
it still matters but they (women for me, so you wouldn't get it haha) don't have to be british. if anything it's a bonus if they're foreign because both standard middle class Brits and working class brits are somewhat annoying. However, I have been out with a Muslim woman who was religious, but for some reason was up for seeing a non muslim guy. I ended it in the end because the religion thing annoyed me. These days I don't think I would exclude girls based on race that much, but I would prefer it if they are white or at least half white. I don't really know why exactly, subconscious racism maybe? who cares, it's my penis.
0
reply
College_Dropout
Badges: 21
Rep:
?
#6
Report 4 years ago
#6
Just stop. Slap yourself across the face and ask yourself the question.
1
reply
Anonymous #1
#7
Report Thread starter 4 years ago
#7
(Original post by jenkinsear)
Religion is a big issue. I would never date a muslim as a woman because of how women are treated in Islam.

I would also be wary of ethnicity if I thought there were likely to be culture clashes because of it. A massive example would be dating someone of a different race whose family would have an issue with that- having had to be a "secret" girlfriend for years because I happened to be the wrong colour/religion I would never go there again.
Would it be a "culture clash" if my parent's had disowned me already, e.g. for leaving the faith? You wouldn't have to be secret, but I'd have no family. If it leads to marriage, that means no in-laws and no grandparents for kids.
0
reply
jenkinsear
Badges: 13
Rep:
?
#8
Report 4 years ago
#8
(Original post by Anonymous)
Would it be a "culture clash" if my parent's had disowned me already, e.g. for leaving the faith? You wouldn't have to be secret, but I'd have no family. If it leads to marriage, that means no in-laws and no grandparents for kids.
I could cope with that. You'd have escaped and not be condemning the bigotry by being unwilling to tell your parents the truth.
0
reply
Rum Ham
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#9
Report 4 years ago
#9
Someone's race wouldn't bother me but their religious beliefs would. I personally wouldn't date anyone who was a follower of any religion.

Posted from TSR Mobile
0
reply
username927016
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#10
Report 4 years ago
#10
Religion is definitely more important, I mean I'm similar to you although I'm British Bengal not Pakistani. You just have to be reasonably good looking, take care of yourself, are friendly & have confidence Family can be problematic, but someone people will defy them anyway.
0
reply
Anonymous8374
Badges: 0
Rep:
?
#11
Report 4 years ago
#11
Why would I want to have a half breed Pakistani baby and destroy my own people?
0
reply
Grantland
Badges: 12
Rep:
?
#12
Report 4 years ago
#12
Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
0
reply
Messiah Complex
Badges: 3
Rep:
?
#13
Report 4 years ago
#13
It wouldn't bother me.
0
reply
Borgia
Badges: 7
Rep:
?
#14
Report 4 years ago
#14
(Original post by Anonymous8374)
Why would I want to have a half breed Pakistani baby and destroy my own people?
Because Asian women are attractive?
0
reply
Borgia
Badges: 7
Rep:
?
#15
Report 4 years ago
#15
(Original post by Grantland)
Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
What if she tries to make your child worship Ra
0
reply
Grantland
Badges: 12
Rep:
?
#16
Report 4 years ago
#16
(Original post by Borgia)
What if she tries to make your child worship Ra
So long as he doesn't skip school to praise the sun, then I have no quarrel.
0
reply
pocahontas lol
Badges: 1
Rep:
?
#17
Report 4 years ago
#17
Ethnicity, no.
Religion, yes.
0
reply
Precious Illusions
Badges: 20
Rep:
?
#18
Report 4 years ago
#18
(Original post by Grantland)
Religion matters if she makes it matter. I'm fine with dating someone who believes in Allah, God, Yahweh, Thor, Zeus, Cthulhu, it doesn't matter, but the moment you try to convert/sacrifice me, it's over.
Agreed. I'd never force my beliefs on a partner and I wouldn't expect them to do so to me either - I'd just expect a mutual respect.

Ethnicity doesn't matter at all either.
0
reply
Zahid~
Badges: 18
Rep:
?
#19
Report 4 years ago
#19
Wow ive stumbled across a thread where no ones said anything stupid about religion yet, keep it up guys
0
reply
al_94
Badges: 12
Rep:
?
#20
Report 4 years ago
#20
(Original post by Anonymous8374)
Why would I want to have a half breed Pakistani baby and destroy my own people?
Go back to Stormfront.
0
reply
X

Quick Reply

Attached files
Write a reply...
Reply
new posts
Latest
My Feed

See more of what you like on
The Student Room

You can personalise what you see on TSR. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.

Personalise

Who do you think will be the next PM?

Boris Johnson (224)
72.49%
Jeremy Hunt (85)
27.51%

Watched Threads

View All