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Can they ever work?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
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Reply 1
Mph. Unlucky, but long distances are a bugger. You should back off though, before you lose your dignity. It's quite poss. that she's only using it as an excuse tho :s
Reply 2
19
Yeah I know I should but I cant stop thinking about her you know?
And tbh, I probably have already lost my dignity here. Not that I had much to start with.
Well she also said she doesnt want to get hurt, i.e. getting too attached and then it not working, and that would hurt more than ending it now. But I tell you it hurts now way too much
And tbh, I probably have already lost my dignity here. Not that I had much to start with.
Well she also said she doesnt want to get hurt, i.e. getting too attached and then it not working, and that would hurt more than ending it now. But I tell you it hurts now way too much
Reply 3
18
If both parties put the effort in then yes it will work there is no reason why it wouldn't. If she is saying that she wants you to move on then maybe she doesn't want to put in any effort?
Reply 4
Well I spend 2 hours on the train/metro/on foot to see my gf most weekends (the others she comes down here) and it works just fine for us.
But if both people aren't fully commited to it then I can't imagine it working very well...
But if both people aren't fully commited to it then I can't imagine it working very well...
Reply 5
Jonah Ramone
Can they ever work?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
Can they work? - In my own experience yeah they can if you work together, be honest with each other and trust each other. It's hard work but it does pay off in the end
I love my boyfriend to pieces - we didn't know if we could make it work or not since well were on two sides of the 'pond' or 'puddle' as he called it on Saturday 
Or is it just something that slowly dies? It can if you don't exactly give more of an effort as you would with normal relationships. But if you really want it you can make it happen
But good luck
Reply 6
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Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX
Can they work? - In my own experience yeah they can if you work together, be honest with each other and trust each other. It's hard work but it does pay off in the end I love my boyfriend to pieces - we didn't know if we could make it work or not since well were on two sides of the 'pond' or 'puddle' as he called it on Saturday
Or is it just something that slowly dies?
I love my boyfriend to pieces - we didn't know if we could make it work or not since well were on two sides of the 'pond' or 'puddle' as he called it on Saturday Or is it just something that slowly dies?
But good luck
Off topic, but I have just seen your sig
Does Ireland not use UCAS as I see you are applying to 8 unis?Reply 7
Sure I think it can work just fine. I should know, i've had a long distance girlfriend for 24 months now 
As everyone else has said, both of you have to be commited to each other in order for it to work out well, and trust is a HUGE factor for sure.
If you decide to go ahead with it, just make sure to make every effort to talk to her as often as possible, and meet up with her also whenever you both can.
Oh, and don't forget to show her a jolly good time eh
As everyone else has said, both of you have to be commited to each other in order for it to work out well, and trust is a HUGE factor for sure.
If you decide to go ahead with it, just make sure to make every effort to talk to her as often as possible, and meet up with her also whenever you both can.
Oh, and don't forget to show her a jolly good time eh
Reply 8
Yes, I know. Just remember there are more fish in the sea, and eat some chocolate 
Jonah Ramone
Yeah I know I should but I cant stop thinking about her you know?
And tbh, I probably have already lost my dignity here. Not that I had much to start with.
Well she also said she doesnt want to get hurt, i.e. getting too attached and then it not working, and that would hurt more than ending it now. But I tell you it hurts now way too much
And tbh, I probably have already lost my dignity here. Not that I had much to start with.
Well she also said she doesnt want to get hurt, i.e. getting too attached and then it not working, and that would hurt more than ending it now. But I tell you it hurts now way too much
Reply 9
kirstinx
Off topic, but I have just seen your sig Does Ireland not use UCAS as I see you are applying to 8 unis?
Does Ireland not use UCAS as I see you are applying to 8 unis?St Mary's teaching College don't go through UCAS
Reply 10
Jonah Ramone
Can they ever work?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
You see there's a girl who lives quite far away from me. Well very far, but not too far during uni term time, if that makes sense. And I really like her. And she said she liked me too. Obviously I wouldn't be typing this now if she didn't. We'd talk over the phone all the time for hours on end and everything seemed great. Then suddenly for no reason she said there's no point in trying because it's too far and I should look for someone 'better' and 'closer' and I should forget about her. The thing is, in my view, there is no-one better. I have told her this. I told her i'd go to see her every weekend and she maintains that it'd be pointless and it still would'nt work.
Actually writing all that was a bit pointless. Maybe I do need advice but I'll probably just ignore it. So:
Can they work?
Or is it just someting that slowly dies?
Just out of interest, how did you meet the girl?
Reply 11
19
She visited a friend a few times [a friend of hers and mine] (from back home) and I got to know her quite well; we got on really well so we swapped numbers. But she has since moved even further away so she doesnt even get to see her friend very much.
So if both people are willing to really work at it then it will work but if the effort is slightly lacking on one side it won't? Ok.
ah, the focal point of relationships...
So if both people are willing to really work at it then it will work but if the effort is slightly lacking on one side it won't? Ok.
masterofpuppets
oh and dont forget to show her a good time eh
Having
Reply 12
Of course they work! My mate and her bf live on two different continents and they’ve been going out for 3 years! They are completely in love, the only thing is they see each other once a year 
Reply 13
I hate them I hate them I hate them...and I'm in one now.
Yeah it can work, but it can be bloody painful if you don't get to see them often.
Yeah it can work, but it can be bloody painful if you don't get to see them often.
Reply 14
19
Well we aren't in different continents so we'd see each other a bit more than that
Reply 15
14
unless you live close and known each other for ages (few years) then I persoanally I don't think they don't work at all.
Reply 16
19
Vincente
unless you live close and known each other for ages (few years) then I persoanally I don't think they don't work at all.
Well I would have agreed with that a while ago, but sometimes these things just take a hold of you.
Reply 17
2
be prepared for a rough ride, ive seen them work for some people but I cant get them to work to well...
Reply 18
20
They can work.
Reply 19
BluEyeDevil
I hate them I hate them I hate them...and I'm in one now.
Yeah it can work, but it can be bloody painful if you don't get to see them often.
Yeah it can work, but it can be bloody painful if you don't get to see them often.
I know exactly what you mean - I'm studying in Sheffield and my girlfriend's studying in Aberdeen, so seeing each other every weekend would be really impractical (a 6-7 hour train journey, £60-odd return). We spend weekends with each other every 2 or 3 weeks, I think the time apart really makes the time we have together more special!
And we talk on the phone for at least an hour every day (not a set target, that's just how long we seem to talk for), not to mention talking on MSN. We live in the same town during holidays, so it could be much worse!The relationship's still as strong now as it ever was, so I'm inclined to say that they can work, but only if both parties want it enough.
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