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    Hi!

    A little about myself first. I'm 21 in a month and I've never had a proper relationship. I'm at Uni and haven't found anyone there yet that have felt the same way as I have. I always seem to get friendzoned by every girl I like and I'm not sure what to do anymore. I know, no one has ever liked me before and that's rather depressing. I'm fairly out going, and I do go out and socialise however, it hasn't seemed to help me at all. I would say that I'm fairly good looking, and shy at times. However I'm always catergorised as the 'nice guy' which is really annoying. It is starting wear me down a little now and I'm finding it hard to focus on my work as this part of life seems to be missing.

    Any thoughts and suggestions would be nice! Thanks
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    aw bless you haha!! my best advice would really be that things happen when you least expect.. thats always been the case with me. as soon as ive stopped looking someones came along! so dont give up! however half the time i would argue if its even worth it seeing how hurt you can get when it doesnt work out.. 😂 dont give up though, just dont base your successes and failures on it


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    Don't give up, stop looking and it'll come your way Go out more and try to meet new people and build new friendships and go wherever it takes you
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    The worst thing to do would be to give up and blame it on being a 'nice guy'.

    Just keep trying, and try not to come across as wanting a relationship desperately. Either you've been really unlucky with all the people you've met so far or there's something that you could improve a bit.
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    I was in a similar position to you twenty years-old was friend zoned by a girl I'd been pally with since freshers week having spent alot of time with her, then she coupled-off with a guy she'd just met also on our course around this time last year (I felt awful). Now I'm 21 in second year having met my girlfriend 6 months ago at a mutual friends 21st in June time back home, it's just a case of being at the right place at the right time. It's not that I go to many parties outside of uni, it was one of two last year... It took alot for me to even ask her out, the first time I asked a girl out was the girl I was friend zoned by last easter, but I manned up and gave it a second go and it's all worked out. Be confident in your own abilities, there was 8 of us in this hot-tub and the only reason my now girlfriend came and plonked herself between the girl I was talking to and me is because I seemed interesting, this other girl was laughing so she wanted to see what was up...
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    I think when people are considered "nice", it is often synonymous with being "too accessible". Everyone likes feeling they ended up with a partner no one else could have, and if you perhaps seem more... exclusive... you might find people queuing up for you. Unfortunately then you have to start your own process of knocking people back, and that's not exactly a hoot either.
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    Hi!

    A little about myself first. I'm 21 in a month and I've never had a proper relationship. I'm at Uni and haven't found anyone there yet that have felt the same way as I have. I always seem to get friendzoned by every girl I like and I'm not sure what to do anymore. I know, no one has ever liked me before and that's rather depressing. I'm fairly out going, and I do go out and socialise however, it hasn't seemed to help me at all. I would say that I'm fairly good looking, and shy at times. However I'm always catergorised as the 'nice guy' which is really annoying. It is starting wear me down a little now and I'm finding it hard to focus on my work as this part of life seems to be missing.

    Any thoughts and suggestions would be nice! Thanks
    You can't force these things to happen. Don't let it get you down- if others don't see it working then that's fair enough. I'd say stop looking as such, and just let things be, and if you meet someone that things would work with, then I'm sure it will go that way.
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    Become a bad man like myself
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    with that attitude? yes
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    Like all ninja masters say: Happiness will only come when you stop searching for it.
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    Yeah just give up... Sure...
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    Don't give up because I would argue it is better to have one relationship with the right woman, get married and settle down them have loads of relationships that are just compete utter ****. So if you haven't had a girlfriend yet don't be disheartened because when you do she may be the one. THINK POSITIVE!


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    Meh somebody'll like ya at some point. Don't get too depressed about it, focus on other things perhaps.
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    Are you doing anything to improve your chances with girls?
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    Are you doing anything to improve your chances with girls?
    I'm not quite sure what to do. Do you have any suggestions?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not quite sure what to do. Do you have any suggestions?
    You seem alright from what I can see, don't do anything and just wait for a girl that gives a damn I'd say.
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    You seem alright from what I can see, don't do anything and just wait for a girl that gives a damn I'd say.
    Haha, thanks! I appreciate that! I doubt it will happen anytime soon, but fingers cross.
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    I'm not quite sure what to do. Do you have any suggestions?
    You can always improve your looks with excercise and clothes, hair. Also do stuff like art, history, literature, films etc. Basically anything that makes you look better and be a more interesting person to be with.

    Keep looking, its stupid to just stop and rely on dumb luck to get a gf. You wouldn't do that if you were looking for a job would you?
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    You can always improve your looks with excercise and clothes, hair. Also do stuff like art, history, literature, films etc. Basically anything that makes you look better and be a more interesting person to be with.

    Keep looking, its stupid to just stop and rely on dumb luck to get a gf. You wouldn't do that if you were looking for a job would you?
    I dress pretty smartly, normally jumpers, Oxford Shirts, stuff like that! Do you think I should be actively looking or place it on the back burner for now?
 
 
 
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