Hi all, I will keep this short as it's far easier to read. Basically, 2014 was a rubbish year for me due to the end of an important relationship and nearly losing a parent to cancer. In the midst of the treatment I was in a pretty dark place and hurt myself, something I've never done before but it was the only thing that would make me feel better.
Since then, my parent has started to recover but I've found myself in this dark place again for a few reasons. After a horrible day and an argument, the first thing I went to do when I was alone was to hurt myself again in the same spot but I stopped myself.
I am so overwhelmed and I don't really know how to feel or why I want to hurt myself when I feel angry, frustrated and down.![]()
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi all, I will keep this short as it's far easier to read. Basically, 2014 was a rubbish year for me due to the end of an important relationship and nearly losing a parent to cancer. In the midst of the treatment I was in a pretty dark place and hurt myself, something I've never done before but it was the only thing that would make me feel better.
Since then, my parent has started to recover but I've found myself in this dark place again for a few reasons. After a horrible day and an argument, the first thing I went to do when I was alone was to hurt myself again in the same spot but I stopped myself.
I am so overwhelmed and I don't really know how to feel or why I want to hurt myself when I feel angry, frustrated and down. -
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you end up doing it again because, to put it bluntly, it works... it lowers your blood pressure, provides a focus, something you're in control of, a distraction... etc... it serves a purpose to help you cope, but that doesn't make it a good thing to do, it tends to get worse, and you will be left with scars, it will get in the way of relationships and the more you rely on it rather than healthier strategies the harder it will become to give up
the best thing to do is try and draw a line now, think of other ways to cope, yoga, exercise, reading, drawing, journalling, walking, music, talking to someone
it might also be helpful to talk to your parents about the way you're feeling so they can support you -
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I am so overwhelmed and I don't really know how to feel or why I want to hurt myself when I feel angry, frustrated and down.
I think it's important to confide in someone you trust. Early on in our relationship, my gf admitted to me that she had - for the first time in her life - tried cutting herself. She regretted it but I was glad she decided to tell me, because my response definitely helped her to see that someone cared for her a great deal (particularly relevant here as bullying was the key issue). She's never relapsed.
As with any kind of depression disorder, confiding in someone is one of the most important steps. The simple act of telling a secret to a close friend/relative can feel like a huge weight off your chest.
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