Turn Love to Hate

I find that hate is such a consuming emotion. It requires energy to be sustained.

I'd recommend that you accept that whatever you want to happen isn't happening, and somehow find a peace within yourself. Perhaps it means reducing / cutting contact with this person would help. Perhaps you need to focus your energies elsewhere. I don't know the answer as I am not you.

What do you mean be focus my energies elsewhere?

Why hate? What will it gain? Nothing. You'll just have these negative feelings for someone who doesn't love you back. What's his fault in that? Keep yourself busy, go out enjoy the sun/cold/whatever weather you prefer. The more you think about that person, the more it will eat you up. That person probably doesn't even think of you.

You say it isn't "love" then why go all this trouble to hate them? Do yourself a favour and go smell the flowers.

Just feels like the only way I will get over her is if I dislike her at the very least. I want to hate her so that I'm never close to falling into this state again. I'm not saying it's her fault, but I like her too much, it's bad for me. If she's never going to feel the same way there's mo issue in hating her.

I find that hate is such a consuming emotion. It requires energy to be sustained.

I'd recommend that you accept that whatever you want to happen isn't happening, and somehow find a peace within yourself. Perhaps it means reducing / cutting contact with this person would help. Perhaps you need to focus your energies elsewhere. I don't know the answer as I am not you.

Focus on the person's flaws, and then amplify them in your mind. Do this whenever you think of the person, for a while. Might not turn into hate but it can help get over the person.

Its understandable, love is a complicated feeling. But you can't go obsessing over her. The best way for you to move on is by keeping yourself busy. You're spending too much time trying to hate her rather than not thinking of her. I'm sure a girl will come along your way and will love you and care for you immensely.

It's so hard not to think of her. At the moment all I have to keep me busy are exams (by extension revision) and just randomly she will pop into my head. I'm not really part of any other groups or anything either, I'm quite socially anxious (I'm not claiming to have an actual diagnosed problem, I'm just not really sure how else to put it) and she's one of the only people I actually feel comfortable around (in terms of how easy it is to talk to her, I'm ignoring the painful feelings for this type of comfort). I'm not really sure how to keep busy and not thinking about her is one of those cases where someone tells you not to think about a panda so it's all you can think about.

Tl;Dr I be tripping