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Loving two guys at once??

I've been in a long term relationship with guy A for 2 and a half years, and I know that I love him. We're at uni together and sometimes I think that I take him for granted - I know that he will be there when I need him, when I'm unwell, and we get on so well that I know that there will never be a problem between us.

I met Guy B when I started uni a year ago. We get on so, so well, and he is a bit of a sweet rebel, which really appeals to me. I think he's really gorgeous, but I know that he would be nowhere near as good for me as Guy A.

So there is my problem, in a nutshell. I think I love them both at once. I love spending time with Guy B, and sometimes I am reluctant to leave him and go to spend time with Guy A. At the same time, as soon as we are home for the holidays and I am just with Guy A again, I forget all about Guy B and I am so hapyp and content.

Is this a common problem? Is it common to get crushes on people whilst you are in a long term relationship? Is it just because the relationship sort of "plateau"s and there is not much left of the excitement of touching and so on that comes with the flirting at the beginning of a relationship? I used to be a huge flirt, and I do miss it slightly, but at the same time I am also quite insecure at the beginning of a relationship - and I definitely don't miss that!!

So - opinions? I obviously have a crush on Guy B, but is this quite common in long term relationships?

Reply 1

username47781

Well its a common problem but you can't love both of them,maybe things are going a bit stale with Guy A.

Reply 2

Harv616

A girl getting bored of a "nice" guy? No that has never happened before....

Reply 3

Chewwy

BhArJ

A girl getting bored of a "nice" guy? No that has never happened before....

Reply 4

Hel

Seems pretty normal, especially since when you're in contact with one you're not in contact with the other. You'll be fine so long as you remember how much you love your boyfriend, how long you've been together, why you wouldn't want to leave him for something unstable, etc. :smile:

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

For the first time in a 2 year relationship, over the past couple of weeks, I've found that I've been developing a crush on another lad. Its nothing serious, and I don't think he sees me as any more than a friend. I'd never chose him over my boyfriend, but it has been getting me down, recently. I know I'll get over it, but I feel embarrased and ashamed about it, right now.
Glad to know other people feel the same, sometimes. :smile:

Reply 6

Smiler80

I fell in love with a girl while seeing someone else,all I can say is take some time out and find yourself,put on some vibes,and do what makes you happy,you only live once!

Reply 7

sib

Smiler80

I fell in love with a girl while seeing someone else,all I can say is take some time out and find yourself,put on some vibes,and do what makes you happy,you only live once!

def take sum time out. wot do U reli wnt... thats all that matrs!!! find out so u can sort this out!

Reply 8

13Finn

Sounds like 'the grass is greener on the other side'....

Reply 9

ßlαcksωαn

it's not real love

Reply 10

LadyEnglish

You know Guy A is better for you in the long term, any maybe entering into uni with a 2 1/2 year relationship under your belt was always going to be a bit hard when you're meeting so many new people (boys). Could Mr.B not just be a close friend? Maybe both could be for now if you're confused...but i think you need to think about it in the long term, and it sounds like Guy A is the one for that. Rebels never stay long :p:

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