Should I go meet him?

Whats in the past is done and buried! Sounds to me like you shouldnt meet him! If he was abusive and he made you unhappy then why would you want that again?
However, if its just "to catch up" then perhaps you should go, but then again this might give him the signal that you are still interested in him and he might get the impression that there might be something still there!
Its your decision at the end of the day, but what you have to remember is that your ex was abusive and made you unhappy! You have now moved on and are getting on with your life at university and from the sounds of it are easily over him by noticing other lads!
Some things are best left in the past!

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frappuccino

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Imo: No I don't think you should, esp if being with him was abusive and made you unhappy! By saying he misses you, it means he wants you back! Even if you do have slight feelings for him still (understandable), they will most likely fade away soon but if you meet up with him it's quite possible you'll do sth without thinking too much, and then he'll have the expectation that you guys are together again. If you don't want to be with him, better make it a clean break and just have some distance for a while. The whole 'friends' thing doesn't work unless both of you don't have feelings for each other.

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tinkerbellejess

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Do not go and meet him!
Abusive relationship? Why would you choose to have that back in your life?!

Reply 5

OP

Ive text him back basically saying that I've moved on and I've now got a new life. therefore i dont think it would be a good idea if we met. hope it doesnt sound too harsh

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tinkerbellejess

Do not go and meet him!
Abusive relationship? Why would you choose to have that back in your life?!

Yeah this is what i thought. he made my life not woth living at times. Why go back to him as though everythings OK?

He's gone and gone for good.

Reply 7

Claire_Elizabeth

Very proud of you chick! You deserve better, any person who think its normal to put somone through an abusive relationship and then get in contact after they break up thinking everything is just "fine" should be locked up!

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Claire_Elizabeth

Very proud of you chick! You deserve better, any person who think its normal to put somone through an abusive relationship and then get in contact after they break up thinking everything is just "fine" should be locked up!

arr cheers. i did tell him it would come tpo this if he didnt stop treating me ****. what goes round comes round. now it's my time to have the last laugh. :biggrin:

advise to peo[ple who are in love but don't want to be: give it time andf meet other people. you'll be over them in no time. don't stand by the bastards.

Reply 9

Tinkers

Youve done the right thing, going back down that path would have been the wrong thing to do. Move on, find someone better for you. I was in a abusive relationsip and even now if i see him out and about it sends a shiver down my spine, i put up with it for ages cause i thought it was for my own good and it was my fault, then i relised what a idiot i was being. Trust me your better off finding some one else. Dont txt him, move on!

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graddage

Youve done the right thing, going back down that path would have been the wrong thing to do. Move on, find someone better for you. I was in a abusive relationsip and even now if i see him out and about it sends a shiver down my spine, i put up with it for ages cause i thought it was for my own good and it was my fault, then i relised what a idiot i was being. Trust me your better off finding some one else. Dont txt him, move on!

you should walk the streets with your head up high. he hasn't brought you down and now you're the winner because you have escaped it. just feel sorry for the poor old beggers who are going to suffer at his hands likeyou did.
thats the way i feel now when i hear my ex is in a relationship again or is dating. i just laff and think.... the poor swine.

theres a guy i really like and im going out with him on monday.... cant wait. :biggrin:

we've already had kisses and stuff. might ask him out.

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username47781

Agree with everyone else do not meet him, he will only do the same thing, scumbags like him should be locked up.

Reply 12

Reue

Never can understand why girls stay in abbusive relationships in the first place..

"oh, but he loves me!" "he just gets angry sometimes" etc etc etc.

if he loved you he wouldnt lay a hand on you.. FACT

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username47781

Reue

Never can understand why girls stay in abbusive relationships in the first place..

"oh, but he loves me!" "he just gets angry sometimes" etc etc etc.

if he loved you he wouldnt lay a hand on you.. FACT

Many reasons really, too scared to leave, worried about being own their own/have no where else to go etc

Reply 14

sib

i too was in an abusive relationship... the guy treated me like **** nd i put up wit it for 2 yrs, lost friends ovr him etc. word of advice to evry1! dnt put up wit it... ur always worth betr, nd by leavin them, ur actually helpin them in the long run to sort their lives out! dnt put up wit it! gd luck! mwah!

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username47781

sib

i too was in an abusive relationship... the guy treated me like **** nd i put up wit it for 2 yrs, lost friends ovr him etc. word of advice to evry1! dnt put up wit it... ur always worth betr, nd by leavin them, ur actually helpin them in the long run to sort their lives out! dnt put up wit it! gd luck! mwah!

Not having go at you, but please don't use text talk, i'm sorry that you had to suffer something like that as well.

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