Why are they doing this?

Before I started uni, I talked to a guy for about 5months, never met him, but we got on really well. When it came to meeting at uni on the first day, it felt great and like we'd been friends forever. Things went so well, that we spent the night together (no sex). Anyway, 2 days later, this guy tells me he liked another girl more. I was annoyed with the fact that he knew this and had been leading me on, perhaps even using me. I found it difficult though because I'd already made friends with this girl and she seemed really nice.

Anyway, they've been a couple for over a month now and are pretty much joint at the hip. I've tried so hard not to be bitter towards her, seeing as I really liked this guy. But she's making it hard. I don't know if she knows I liked him though.

I don't see her everyday but when I do, she's so nice, I feel too nice. She's always saying how we have to meet up...without my friends :eek:

and so on. But then she never turns up. Also, I arrange to go out with my friends, who are coincidently friends with her and this guy. I made it clear to this girl the details (I told the guy as well, trying to be a good friend). However, they never turned up.

The two of them left a message on the forum we all use, saying how they didn't meet up because of me; making me look like a bd friend in front of everyone else.

I don't get why they're doing this. I'm starting to lose my patience with trying to be nice all the time. Should I just not bother?

Reply 1

Claire_Elizabeth

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Perhaps when they are both together they feel uncomfortable around you because they know you like the guy (dont mean that to sound that in a negative way).
Maybe you should make it clear that you dont like this guy, (even though you do), perhaps you should pretend you dont and clear the air! Then they might start to not treat in this way!
Sounds to me like you need to find a new guy! Dont hang on to something you cant have! It will only end up with somone getting hurt!

Reply 2

Tinkers

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To be honest, they just causing sh*t, the girl obviously no's you and the guy had a slight 'thing' and is cleary jelouse, so is trying to make your life hell. I no it will be hard but rise above it and show every one else, that you are a decent person, and that no matter what they say, DONT let it get you down. Ive been in a simerla situation and it kept gettin me down till one day and turned round and said, no sod you, im better than this!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Claire_Elizabeth

Perhaps when they are both together they feel uncomfortable around you because they know you like the guy (dont mean that to sound that in a negative way).
Maybe you should make it clear that you dont like this guy, (even though you do), perhaps you should pretend you dont and clear the air! Then they might start to not treat in this way!
Sounds to me like you need to find a new guy! Dont hang on to something you cant have! It will only end up with somone getting hurt!

Hm. i should have mentioned. I don't still like this guy. And I have found myself another guy..he's wonderful. I just wish I knew if she knows what went on that first night; would make things a lot easier!

Reply 4

Claire_Elizabeth

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Perhaps the girl knows that you spent the night together and this is the reason why she is upsetting you! All gfs have issues with girls who lads use to "have something" with, its like an unwritten code! (i have no idea why).
Its just the way we are lol!
What you need to do is simply ask the girl what her problem is but in a friendly way (if you get me) and tell her that you do not like her bf that you have moved on and found somone else! If she cant accept that and wants to carry on acting like a teenager then let her, you should rise above it and laugh it off! Theres no point wasting your time on people like that!

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