Sleeping with a guy I don't find attractive

I'm south east asian.

Now this is serious.

Is he just very inexperienced or do you two not communicate well?

Heavens it's not that difficult is it?

I've been seeing him for nearly two months, and we've just started sleeping together. But he has a bit of a belly, not muscle definition at all and is also quite self conscious. When we were dating, we'd flirt a LOT and he acted so confident. But now in bed, I can tell he is very self conscious. Will only get intimate in the dark etc.

Oh please. I wont leave a guy just because he's let himself go. We have talked about weight and I have said I liked toned or defined men rather than bulky steroid popping men with tiny penises.

wow. women really are fickle creatures

Leave him, it doesn't sound as if you're truly committed and tbh if an issue like this is bothering you then it seems like your relationship might not be totally worth it.

BUT, I'm just a kid really so I wouldn't do anything rash from my advice alone, it's more of an opinion really.

I've been seeing him for nearly two months, and we've just started sleeping together. But he has a bit of a belly, not muscle definition at all and is also quite self conscious. When we were dating, we'd flirt a LOT and he acted so confident. But now in bed, I can tell he is very self conscious. Will only get intimate in the dark etc.

I enjoy his company but I don't think I'm attracted to him. I always say I think he's hot etc and it makes him happy. But I feel like I'm lying to him.

I have said things like "We should work out together" "Let's go jogging" etc because I work out everyday at home or in the gym. I'm not fitness model, but I like to take care of my body. He used to workout too, but he let himself go after some personal problems. Don't know how to tackle this problem.

What shall I do?

It's a difficult one. If you say you're a lot better looking than him (pics would help us decide) then you should carry on - you're doing him a favour and I'm sure he appreciates it.

You sound pretty shallow and annoying, so I'm sure he'll dump you once the sex gets boring (it will eventually). And then you can both go your merry ways.

How am I shallow?

The fact that you dated a guy and slept with him for two months and then suddenly decide you don't like him because his body isn't perfectly toned?

Have you considered that maybe you have some flaws that he thinks make you less than perfect, but that he is overlooking them as he's enjoying the sex. Or because he wants to make the relationship work.

Perhaps you're not the sexy girl you think you are.

Think you need to re-read my OP. I wrote, I've just started sleeping with him after 2 months of dating.
And he acted more confident than he actually is, hence why it was difficult at first.
And I never said I was perfect, I just am comfortable in my own skin and like to be myself. I think it's important to look after your body and feel "sexy" or confident as it's the only body we've got.

So you liked his personality well enough to date him for two months, slept with him and now have decided you don't like him because you saw him naked.

He's well shot of you once he's filled his boots.

When he does I'm happy to inspect that 'fit body'

Tbh if i was the guy and knew this i'd dump her ass in a second. Hermit myself for as long as it takes to become a sick shredded slaying machine. Then **** hotter girls and rub it in her face.